So...just out of curiosity, how many people have you been intimate with in your life?
Original Post by bagga:
Hey mooni can we make this thread another donut wars?
Now there's a good idea!
But how to get the cannons firing.....
All we need is one poster to get irate over the size of my number and how I should be posting things like that. Then we need another poster to tell that poster to get a life. We'd be up and running!
So where are the christians when we need them?
75?!?!
OHHH won't somebody please think of the children!!
*wails*
*whomps bagga with a bible*
;P
What children, are you suggesting she bore fruit with all 75?
Perhaps she should have preserved herself to be the next virgin vessel for god's seed.
So... just out of curiosity, OP, how do you define "intimate"?
Because that changes my number. If we go with the strict ("Clintonian") interpretation, I'd say twenty-something (but how do I count the girls in that number?). If we adopt a looser definition, that number increases. FWIW, I started at 13 and am in my thirties, and part of me sincerely hopes that my number will increase before I die, because I'm not through living yet (I'm currently in a LTR where the expectation is monogamy, however, so I don't know how that will turn out).
There is nothing wrong with living, and enjoying, your sexuality as you see fit: whether that includes many partners or few partners. The important thing is to be safe and respectful at all times. Please keep that in mind before being shocked by anyone's numbers - just because you can't imagine wanting to have many partners, some of us equally can't imagine living one's entire life with only very few.
Original Post by moonikins:
All we need is one poster to get irate over the size of my number and how I should be posting things like that. Then we need another poster to tell that poster to get a life. We'd be up and running!
Well, when I think of someone who has been sexually intimate with A LOT of people (I'm assuming a lot of casual hook-ups), one thing comes to mind....
STDs.
1 in 4 women have herpes and this is why!
Original Post by jblarghp:
Original Post by moonikins:
All we need is one poster to get irate over the size of my number and how I should be posting things like that. Then we need another poster to tell that poster to get a life. We'd be up and running!
Well, when I think of someone who has been sexually intimate with A LOT of people (I'm assuming a lot of casual hook-ups), one thing comes to mind....
STDs.
1 in 4 women have herpes and this is why!
Yes, condoms do not protect entirely against herpes, though they do help reduce transmission significantly. However, what people don't say is that people also get herpes type 1 (the mouth cold sore kind) on their genitals, and this does not necessarily happen via sexual contact. And many people with genital herpes (especially if it's type 1) will never have an outbreak past the first one, and furthermore, outbreaks are treatable.
Herpes doesn't typically affect one's life that much. When I am doing STD counseling with patients, it does come up, but so many people have it and live just fine with it for the rest of their lives (unlike, say, hepatitis B or HIV) that it isn't the main focus of concern.
Not alot,but more then I'd like to admitt to.
Original Post by trustwomen:
So... just out of curiosity, OP, how do you define "intimate"?
title of the thread is "sex" so I'm going to assume she means that :)
I am SO GLAD I was not raised in an environment that pressured me to save sex for marriage.
Original Post by vicereine:
Original Post by trustwomen:
So... just out of curiosity, OP, how do you define "intimate"?
title of the thread is "sex" so I'm going to assume she means that :)
But...oral sex has the word sex in it, right? It seems like most people are taking it as penile-vaginal intercourse, with a few illustrious exceptions. ;)
Much like pOnda -- closer to mooni than single digits, I never kept records. I started at 18 and probably did use sex as a self-esteem enhacer (yeah, I realize that's a fallacy now), alongside the alcoholic haze. Eventually I got past that.
But, before I ever lost my V, I had always been distainful of the sexual double standard. It was (at my time) certainly ok for men to hit every woman they could get to, but women have never had that freedom. Sex is a beautiful and FUN thing to do -- when done with consenting adults and with appropriate STD/pregnancy protections in place.
I'm 48 and I've been married (currently extricating myself from a painfully unhappy situation). I fully intend to increase my numbers -- with no guilt, and no alcohol. But with test results and STD/pregnancy protections. I'm old -- not dead
hehe sex as a self esteem booster-- you called it a "fallacy" its really a "phallacy"
zero. im 20 years old.
Seriously? Good for you. Not being sarcastic. I'm hoping my children make it til at least 20, if they're not married. No matter what anyone says, there is no rush. Take your time. Ignore the haters.
thanks.
this reminds me of a piece by british artist tracey emin called "everyone i have ever slept with 1963-1995."
Three, and I'm 22.
