sex: how often?

ok, have been reading lots of posts regarding sex and relationships. one question mostly for married women and men or people in long-term relationships: how many times do you have sex per week, per month?  is there anyone here who has sex almost everyday?

and something that troubles me: if you have kids does the frequency  change a lot ?

Not married yet, but will be in 9 months.
About twice a week.

not bloody often enough!

twice a week, if I'm lucky...

bf and i live 45 mintues apart - so only see each other on weekends

and yes - I have my daughter with me for two weekends a month and it does decrease the frequency - unless she goes to a sleepover...

HOO-RAY for sleepovers!!!

;D

I'm in a long term relationship and my fiance and I just moved in together a few months ago. We have sex approx. 1-3 times a week.

Me and my boy were talking about this last night, at the moment its 2-3 times a week, but on the weeks that we spend every night together, its usually more than that.

i've been married for just over a year and a half, we usually have sex about 2-3 times a week.

Engaged and living with my fiance... 1-2x a week. Not enough!

do you count it if you have sex more than one time at a go?

5 or 6 times a week sometimes more or less depending on the week we are both having..........

angie i see that you are a mom! how does that interfere with your sexual relationship?

we have been living together for 4 years, married for 2 and few months, and we are having sex more than 8 times a week, but I am also counting days when we have sex more than once. I am terrified that when we'll have kids we will have sex far less often.

Married 13 years, and we average 2 / week.  And yes, having kids affects the frequency a lot.  Before kids it was about 3-5/week.  And it's not for lack of desire - it's just by the end of the day either of us are lucky to have the energy (although I'm getting better now that I'm gettting in shape again...).  And, I'm sorry to say it, health issues with age kind of play into it - if my hubby's back starts acting up, he's pretty much incapacitated, and if my knees are excessively stiff, well....I'm limited.  And if there's anyone sick, or one of us is traveling, sometimes we can go 10 days without.

And we did manage to deal with the effect of kids.  Right after each of them arrived we had a severe "drought", but then we found ways of making the time - finding a babysitter so we can have a bed&breakfast weekend, sending kids to Nana&Papa's for the afternoon, I'll forego exercise for an evening, that kind of thing.

on edit:  But remember, sex is not the only form of intimacy.  Be sure to always have some form of contact everyday:  kissing, hugging, snuggling on the sofa, (my hubby likes the occasional gratuitous grope when the kids aren't looking).  One time, when both of us just didn't have a lot of energy, at the end of the rental movie we just made out for a while.  It was really nice, actually. 

yes, of course sex is not the only form of intimacy. thanks for your reply. it seems to me that I am the only woman who wants that much sex - or at least that is what my ex and my hubby say (I want more than once a day for sure). thus, i am scared that when I become a mom everything will fall apart, my libido will deteriorate and since I am the one who asks for it all the time, my sex life will diminish!

living together, been together for 8 months (not extremely long term) Im 25, and he's 34 and we have sex about  3-4 times per week...  He wants more, I cant handle more...  :)

My libido I think is dead. After reading this I kinda feel bad for my husband.  Everyone seems to be saying 2-3 times a week if not more and I think that would be our monthly frequency.  We've been married only 6 years (no kids and never will).  I totally blame depo.  I've heard other people say the same thing about deop too that it kills their sex drive.  Even when we do have sex I'm pretty sure he's having all the fun and when I  start to get into it he's done.  /sigh  I'll get so frustrated cuz I swear he has no idea where he's going down there and he's nearly impossible to steer.  There's been a few times where I just give up and we're done, regardless if he's done or not.  Sex shouldn't be like work.

Anyone have a good  libido repair?  Supplement?  Anything?  Obviously I need help.

 nymo - are you on birth control?  how old are you?  You may want to talk to your doctor or gynocologist.     I had the same problem, and I'm  25.   I switched my birth control pills, that everything was fine.    You need to check into the amount of hormones that you're taking, if any.    

I'm 30yrs old and I'm on depo. I've been on depo for about 8 years now and unless there's another BC that can keep my cycle dormant and keep me from PMS'ing I'm not giving it up! I'm bad enough when I am due for my next shot. I think my husband would either have to sedate me into a coma or leave me if he ever knew me with PMS!

in that case, I would adivse you to speak to your gynocologist.  There are plenty of medications, creams, etc... to help enhance your sexual appetite.   

Nymo,

Like stlgirl said, you may want to look into changing your BC (there are several other types that can keep your cycle dormant).  However, I would think that any BC that suppresses your natural cycle is going to mess with your libido.  

BC aside, you can also look into you and/or your husband changing technique.  There are a lot of books (and even websites) out there for issues like this - or you could even see a sex therapist.  It may be a way for your and your hubby to discover new things about each other!  ;-)  And, I don't know how open or adventerous you and your husband are, but you guys could have some fun with, um...toys.  If your husband cares about your pleasure during intimacy, it would be worth it to bring it up with him.  (Hey, the more you like it, the more you'll want to do it, and the more he'll get, right?)

quote: (Hey, the more you like it, the more you'll want to do it, and the more he'll get, right?)

You'd think he'd figure that out!

Nymo - after 6 years he doesnt know who to please you?

He says he'd last longer if I gave him more practice.  LOL 

It s been a while since he's gotten it right.  And like I said I swear he's impossible to direct.