Sex with a co-worker...

A few years ago I met a guy at work and things seemed to be good, we ended up dating then it led to sex.. We dated about 2 months and just drifted apart, unfortunatly we both still work together, I don't think I would go this route again, sex with co-workers just dont seem to mix.. Anyone else had a work partner?

yup, don't recommend it. Dating might have been okay, random hook up nothing but awkward. Fun but so not worth the drama.

I had a whole lot of sex with a co-worker.  Then I married him.

My new bf is a co-worker but we're in completely different departments so don't really interact at all there, so hopefully things stay good :D

I think random/casualish sex/dating with coworkers is playing with fire. Save the random sex for random strangers. Unless it's your last day there, of course. That being said, my boyfriend and I have been together for three years and moved across the country together, and we met at work.

I guess my advice is look before you leap, and consider how much you like your job. Work is a really good environment to meet and get to know normal people, but you can easily end up in a yucky, no-take-backsies situation. My BF and I worked in the same room and it would have been so very awkward if it hadn't worked out.

I have "Golden Rules" for this very reason I never date/casual with anyone at work or who lives in my immediate neighbourhood.

Where I work they are all at it, jumping each other whether married or not and quite often the spouse works there too. When you hear the way everyone talks about them it's enough for me to put up the red flags. Although some people seem to revel in that kind of attention.

I take great pleasure, when they ask who am i seeing? in saying "don't stress yourself you Don't know them"! it gets right up their noses

I don't know how you can handle it but I'm sure some will offer good advice.

Original Post by andie-joe:

I have "Golden Rules" for this very reason I never date/casual with anyone at work or who lives in my immediate neighbourhood.

Where I work they are all at it, jumping each other whether married or not and quite often the spouse works there too. When you hear the way everyone talks about them it's enough for me to put up the red flags. Although some people seem to revel in that kind of attention.

I take great pleasure, when they ask who am i seeing? in saying "don't stress yourself you Don't know them"! it gets right up their noses

I don't know how you can handle it but I'm sure some will offer good advice.

 WOW!!!  Seriously?  We don't even have one couple at work....let alone a bunch of cheating couples.  We are pretty much drama-free at work.  Sorry you have to deal with all of that, andie. 

well i personally would try to avoid doing that (altho i've never been put in that position). however i did work for a global company that had many couples working there. i think we had 5 married couples & 2 dating couples out of 40 people. some how it never got in the way of work???? i dont know what the secret exactly was tho. most of them did not work for the same boss, but it was an office full of mostly sales people. maybe that was the trick. we also had a few family members. everyone was just very 'adult' about everything & dealt with it like grown ups. i still think it was very rare for that to happen.

Original Post by peaches0405:

Original Post by andie-joe:

I have "Golden Rules" for this very reason I never date/casual with anyone at work or who lives in my immediate neighbourhood.

Where I work they are all at it, jumping each other whether married or not and quite often the spouse works there too. When you hear the way everyone talks about them it's enough for me to put up the red flags. Although some people seem to revel in that kind of attention.

I take great pleasure, when they ask who am i seeing? in saying "don't stress yourself you Don't know them"! it gets right up their noses

I don't know how you can handle it but I'm sure some will offer good advice.

 WOW!!!  Seriously?  We don't even have onecouple at work....let alone a bunch of cheating couples.  We are pretty much drama-free at work.  Sorry you have to deal with all of that, andie. 

 trust me i could write a best seller, we have it all the time!

i wouldn't touch anyone at my work with a barge pole, for one thing you don't know how many of your co-workers they've been with  before they've come to you. :(

Drama i see/hear plenty.

I believe the rule, "Dont sh#$, where you eat!," Applies here.  You spend alot a time at work, no reason to complicate with a relationship.

Original Post by corduroyfirekills3:

Save the random sex for random strangers.

lol, exactly

go ahead and date em, take em home to meet mom and pop. that kinda gossip is much less juicy.

 

I've done the casual hookup with a coworker (well, boss actually), which turned into dating for a couple months before the whole "having a secret relationship" thing became ridiculous and we ended it. After a while we started hooking up again, and never had any drama or work-related problems because of it.

I think the success of office sex/romance really depends on the people involved and how they decide to handle the situation. Certainly the chances of everything blowing up in a spectacular and embarrassing way are much greater when you work together. ;p

I haven't hooked up with anyone from work (at least, not while I was still working there), but I HAVE hooked up with roommates. Similar situation in terms of the post-affair awkwardness, but with several additional layers of potential drama when you bring home others.

I don't generally have regrets over choices I've made, but some of them have led to life lessons. Life lesson learned: don't bang where you sleep... or by extension, where you work.

I have been with my partner for 10 years and we met at work.  We still work in the same office.  It works for us.

We knew each other for a while before it got to the sex stage so I think we both knew it was a relationship for keeps rather than just for sex.

Casual sex with work colleagues could get complicated though.

Don't dip your pen in the company ink...

Although I wouldn't mind a fling with a few of the women I work with... there are probably 7 very attractive women in my office.

That's what the Temps are for! Or the interns/summer staff/et al, depending on your line of work. All of the ups of office romance with a built in timer. It's like having a...wait, why's everyone looking at me like that? What do you mean the ethics board is on line 2?

Hmm, I don't know that it's such a good idea, but then again I just may have never found a co-worker attractive enough to risk possible workplace drama for.

I knew a couple of people who did. There was a fellow intern who slept with an A.D., later she regretted it and thought he was a player who did this all the time, but she was able to seperate it from the work that needed to be done and focus on doing a good job. But another girl who had a relationship with an A.D., once it went south she started performing poorly on the job and being sort of nasty with other female co-workers who she suddenly imagined he had his eye on (whether he actually did or not is hard to say.) She ended up being fired off the project. So I guess a lot of whether you should do it or not depends on the personalities of the people involved.