She was just a small town Chat, living in a lonely world

Happy Thursday, y'all.

It's the nose, isn't it? Girls dig the nose ;)

Morning all...slow day?

Heya Suzi. Seems like it.

Hi suzi

We can change our pics now?

good morning everyone !

I talked back the mall.

I didn't buy anything either.

I love this song :-)

Journey rocks my socks :-)

Morning!

Since its slow, I'll vent a little :)

So i kinda freaked out on S the other day because he is so flipping fit and lean, a quality I love about him, but it is so easy for me to think it just comes naturally to him and that makes me a bit bitter.

I don't like that I feel that way, but I do.

I think we always COULD change our pictures, nomo.

Mostly, I'm just kinda bored of having the same pic for months now. There is the starburst next to our name in CC+.

You can keep your pic if you like :) I just needed a break :) 

Morning nomo and lily :)

I'm sorry, Suzi.

None of us is perfect. The question is... do you want to learn to temper that? 

((((Suzi)))) I can understand that frustration.  Sometimes it just gets to you.  But if you talk to him I'm sure he'll understand better.

I do want to temper it. There is nothing about him I'd change...believe me I like the way he looks :)

It just sometimes makes me feel inferior. He is so athletic, he was a Big10 college athlete, when he graduated college he dropped 50 pounds in a few months just by decreasing his calorie intake to about 3000 a day (he was eating close to 5000 during track).

Also, all of his hobbies are outdoor hobbies. I love the outdoors, but I am not rock climber or hardcore cycler like he is.

Bah...I just want to be more athletic!!

((hk))   ((lily))  ((scoot))  ((rocky))  ((suzi))

I used to feel like that too, about my bf.

But we're all different.  The upside to my genetics (and it's not MUCH of an upside really) is that in the event of a famine, I will survive and he won't.

So... really that's not an upside at all.

*ponders*

I'm sure he's not trying to make you inferior. That's just who he is.

Just like you are who you are. 

suzi, are you naturally a competitive person?

:)

I do think about how someday I'm going to be good at something that bf will admire me for...  I'll either run a mile in a good time or play a round of golf in the 80s or .... something.

I know that bf admires me for who I am more than what I do, but still... I want to do something sporty too.

I've never been very sporty. The only things I was good at was horse-riding and running many years ago but anything involving a ball was pointless. I have no hand/eye/body co-ordination whatsoever

I am competitive.

Its not that I am worried he thinks I am inferior...its that I feel inferior myself.

I do not doubt what he sees in me at all. This is completely an issue within my own head.

Partly it has to do with hobbies that we enjoy. I have tried rock climbing, its not for me. I get freaked out. I don't have a road bike and it is something we cannot afford to get at the moment. So a lot of it just has to do with the fact that I feel like I will never be involved in that part of his life.

Also, I am fully aware of the fact that we do not have to do everything together. But we are students at the beginning of our PhDs which means we don't have a whole lot of time for hobbies. We have none that we do together other than watching TV.

So part of it is I am jealous that he is athletic. Part of it is that I sometimes feel a bit left out of his lifestyle. Most of it is just my stupid head being stupid :)

I remember Kristen's biggest problem with Calorie-Count.com was that second-to-last sentence "Part of it is that I sometimes feel a bit left out of his lifestyle."

You need to remember that you are two very separate people. You have some separate interests, some common interests and that's OK. The important thing is that you spend time with him, right? Why not spend time doing stuff you BOTH love to do instead of you trying to follow his interests?

It's OK if you do that. You can still be a good, working couple. :) 

bah...anyway...

It doesn't have to be rock climbing does it?

What about plain old hiking?

If you have any mountains nearby, that can be challenging enough!

:)