sick of battling w/ my weight

I guess i just need to vent, but i am so frustrated. i am so sick and tired of battling w/ my weight. I've always been a little bit overweight. Last year i got down to 117 (by over restricting) and now, a year later, i am at 137 (i am 5'4"). Im scared this will just go up even more. Its like i can't win no matter what i do... grr...

how do you live a normal life eating normally and stop the yo-yoing? i run every morning, i don't eat too terribly, i only have "treats" occasionally... i just want my weight off my mind..

to those of you successful in keeping it off, how do you do it??

hi jenny, what you need to do, and honestly i think we as americans overlook the value in this, is take time to relax and do what you want to do. For instance, you said you go on a run every morning. That is great! BUT don't pressure yourself into going on a run EVERY morning. You might feel more relaxed if you spend that time sleeping in or watching a little television or reading a book with a cup of coffee. Self-indulgence does not only include food and is never a bad thing. Relax about what you are putting into your mouth. You already know what is healthy and what is not- allow yourself to have everything you want as long as it is not all at once and in small portions. I find that if you are happy, you will be healthy. good luck!

i agree... i am really SICK & TIRED of having my weight on my mind all the time, like am i eating right, did i exercise, worrying about how i ddint eat right and how i didnt make it to the gym....i am ONLY 23, don't really know how i got this way, and don't want to live the rest of my life obsessing about weight issues!

exactly YOU ARE ONLY 23 and there are so many great things in life that you don't want to miss out on because you are caught up with your weight. seriously, if every one just relaxed about "dieting" and instead took the time to do the things that make you happy, i feel that very few of us would be over weight. plus, laphipps, from the looks of your picture, you are already gorgeous. make a list of the things that make you happy and spend time doing those things. you will be so amazed at what you can accomplish when you take your mind off the things that worry you and onto areas in which your passions lay.

oh my gosh - i can totally relate to this! i'm only 23 too, and my self-consciousness about my weight is consuming just about 95% percent of my mind, every day. when i'm at work, out with friends, getting ready in the morning, driving home at night, etc. I always feel either grouchy from trying too hard, or grouchy because i skipped a work out, etc.

i stick to a healthy food regimen, especially considering that i have been battling with what i initially thought was a gluten intolerance, but was told that it is probably IBS. and i work out almost every day, whether it be an hour long spinning class, pilates or running...

i guess i don't really have helpful advice, but it helped me to see that i'm not alone in feeling so overwhelmed! i sometimes tell myself if i lose 10 lbs my life would be so much happier. i need to change that mindset!

You are all quite young and I bet quite thin and look fantastic--maybe you just need to lift weights and stop worrying about what the scale says! There is more to life than a number.

omg thank you for this post.. this is exactly how i feel.

I cant keep my mind off of my weight, my work outs, what im eating, what i ate, what im going to eat next..

Im nineteen and i've been hoping to get to my goal weight soon so i can switch over to maintaining but im sooo worried that even that isnt going to help with the obsessing.  I HATE IT.  and i also get soo grouchy when i miss workouts or feel like im messing up... i wanna take it easy but im soo afraid to gain it back..

ughhh at least im not alone? ha

Hello to all,

Wow, you are all so young, I will turn 50 in June of this year. Weight and I have struggled since puberty. Even more so after my car accident last February that left me with a severe back injury having to wait until this past June to have a double spinal lumbar fusion. I am up to 274 pounds! After the accident my activity level dropped to zero, and my anxiety skyrocketed. Ouch! I have finished my physical therapy sessions, and have dieted along the way only losing a few pounds here and there. Although I am in constant pain while my fusion continues to knit together I am trying to engage in even light exercises to ge me going. I battle depression, isolation, and the will to ge moving, but each day I try to do so. I know this takes time, but I am determined to see it through to reach my goal next January and be at my goal weight and 50 and a half! Don't give in or give up, as they say when life hands you lemons, make lemonade. I know I can do this at near 50 with sensible food eating habits, and increases to my activity as I heal. I wish you all the best in your not "losing" weight, but in gaining back your health. Hang in there girls.

Looks like we all have similar thoughts and obsess over losing weight. So sad. Like many of you, I too am 23 years old and I constantly think about calories in and calories out - whether I've eaten too much, if I exercised enough, If I'll ever even lose the weight at all (after almost a month, I've only lost 2 pounds). I just keep thinking that if I DO finally lose the weight that I want to, that I'll be able to stop obsessing and life will be happier and I'll enjoy everything more because I will be more confident about my appearance. Once the comments from coworkers about my past weight gain end, and when I never again have to hear the fat a** jokes at my expense, I hope I will be happier. But a part of me wonders if these things will always be at the back of my mind anyway... You can criticize yourself on a regular basis, but when someone else does it - even once -it hurts and it's hard to forget... As for the yo-yo-ing, I'm with you obviously. I've gained weight, hate my body, and now I'm trying to lose it again, hopefully for the last time.

does anyone struggle with stress eating? i think that is probably my biggest issue.

also, i hate to bring it up, but i'm just curious. what do you guys do about your cravings around "that time of the month". because i am on like carb overload for a few days before, and it completely sabotages me!

ive been dieting for 10 years and failed everytime.  im 20 years old and my highest weight was 252 when i was 16.  although being obsessive isnt a good thing,  i find that i obsess over my unachieved goals just as much as the weight.  my biggest problem is that i feel stupid that i cant just get this one thing under control.

however, giving up isnt the answer.  being crazy isnt the answer, but giving up ensures failure, whereas trying gives you at least some shot of achieving. 

After 10 years of struggling I have finally lost 30lbs.  i've yoyoed up and down, but this is the most ive lost in one shot and i dont feel deprived or crazy.  It took me 10 years to do this.  

I think persistance and accepting the "trial and error" quality of weight loss is key to not giving up and being mad at yourself

i agree with jessicasbc, i think it does take a couuple of times until you get the hang of it. i've yoyoed pretty much from my late teens until now. i guess each time you learn what worked, what didnt, and some new ideas too!

and mkasparian, i CRAVE carbs around TOTM, which is right now!! i find myself eating a lot more bread and wanting salty starchy things!! i have to chew and smack the hell out of some gum and it takes away the cravings, but im still thinking abuot it!!

it makes me feel A LOT better to know that i am not the only one out there that is obsessive of what i do with my weight and what i dont do, like missing a work out. i need to accept that it's what we do OVERALL that really will make the change. a slice of cake (like the one i had last nite) isnt going to mess up a whole week's worth of work. but i find it hard once i skip a few workouts to muster up the motivation to get back into it. i'm sturggling with the holiday break from excersice and from over eating right now!

i'm really glad i found this website to talk to others who feel like i do, b/c i think if i tried to bring it up to some people, they'd just think im crazy....mostly, i dont want to look back on my life years down the road and say,"well all i really did in my life was diet...."