Is your sig. other sensitive to your diet?

I just wanted to complain a little.  I'm living with a man who has a freakish metabolism: he loves sushi buffets, he eats bags of chips, a few cans of regular soda, he's constantly tempting me by ordering pizza, and he's still the same healthy weight as he was 6 years ago. 

I always cook a nice healthy dinner, but he will top it off with a plateful of tater tots an hour later.  I realized that since he's been out of town I've lost 3 lbs in a week.  

I asked him to be more sensitive to my diet, but he said "you don't need to lose weight," (he's always found me attractive no matter what I weighed) and also I feel bad asking him to give up foods he likes just because I'm  too tempted by them. 

Does anyone have a similar problem or suggestions for dealing with this type of situation?

I have a similar problem. My partner and I argue a lot about my diet. Ugh. He just gives in but he always makes me feel bad.

It's a pretty common situation.... Women need a lot less food than men in general because we're smaller and lighter so men can appear to have freakish metabolisms by comparison.   Women move in with a man, eat the same food they do in the same portions and... pow...  inflate like a life-raft.   Men are notoriously unconcerned with their health until they're being wheeled away on a hospital trolley attached to a drip.  They also tend to think that just because they're not overweight, it doesn't matter if they fill up on junk.  (The graveyards are full of those particular ones)  

Where you have to draw the line, however, is the part where they're ordering pizzas and waving tater tots under your nose  (I'm sorry I don't know what those are but they sound horrible!).   That's rather unsupportive, selfish and somewhat immature.   Like smoking in front of the person trying to give up cigarettes.    And the 'you don't need to lose weight' remark is usually code for ... 'I want to eat pizza but you keep feeding me lettuce'.  Do not be under any illusion....

Because he needs to eat a lot more than you, you need to work your healthy meals so he  can have much bigger portions of the same thing you're eating (double the serving size) or offer something for him to top up on e.g. bread rolls.    If he likes pizza why don't you work ways to make your own healthy pizza rather than ordering an over-sized greasy one?  If he likes crisps, keep them well away, out of the kitchen, out of reach so they're not winking at you when you open the cupboard.   He doesn't have to give up all his favourites, he can eat them outside the home no problem. 

Love means working as a team, of course.   Get together, establish the rules of the house and be responsible about it.   A little give and take, everyone's happy.

This happened to me too, living with a man that can eat whatever, and not gain a lb.  So, I recently moved back home with my parents and so did he as well to save money until the wedding...BOOM! I lost 30 lbs. lol. I totally blame him for the weight gained.  I have no self control when it comes to good smelling foods. And since my parents don't keep crappy foods in the house (i.e. pizza, chips, snickers bars, reese's, high calorie ice creams, oils, butters, candies, etc.), and my parents are also slender people, they got me motivated to get back on track.  What i am afraid of though, it after the wedding, when we move back in together, will I keep these healthy habits???? I'm scared!

my guy gains easily but he swims and bikes a hell lot so he stays fit and is the type that will go out for sushi and then order pizza. I don't join in though and he totally gets it, which i think is lucky cuz i don't NEED more temptation. I totally feel for everyone who has to deal with more than there own munchies when it gets down to a partner crazy about food tho.

i thnk i've learned to seperate my choices from his tho... like just because it's around doesn't mean i have to have some too.

Haha, I've gone through the pizza temptation..what I did though was had him order my own pizza..but I had it made MY own way. I got a small pizza, requested light cheese, light sauce, with veggies and then I only had 2 peices each day. Thank god it was small (about 7 small pieces, so small my guy laughed at it. Lmao.) Finally finished it in a 3 days and felt good that I got to eat pizza..but not feel guilty about it. So your choices are you can get a healthier version or make your own. Incorporate a cheat day into your diet once a week so you can have the occasional pizza with him. Or you can totally be strong, make your own healthy dinner and ignore it. It takes a lot of will power though.

I think more then anything you have to remember what your goal is. You just have to alternate your ways to get there, but you don't have to deprive yourself. Guys just don't get it...

What makes it even harder is when your man is telling you you don't need to lose weight and he found you sexier at the bigger weight because you had big ta tas and a**. Lmao..Ugh....:/

i def feel ya on the boyfriend who can eat his weight in junk food and still have a six pack..its so annoying...recently im learning to keep making what i normally would for myself and then he can add more if he wants like extra potatoes and bread etc...and to then i kinda keep the major junk.. chips.. candies etc..in a cabinet not right next to my usuals that i eat or cook with..so  that its not obnoxiously in my face every single time i go the kitchen....i also tell him to try to eat fast food when hes out and about..and not so much at home for dinner...so that he can still eat it.and not feel on a resricted diet...but not quite so much in my face....and having too much junk much in the house is bad for everyones health regardlesss of weight so i try to convince him to think about diabetes..blood pressure.. cholesterol and the chemicals in processed food....somedays it works some days it doesn't...but at least its not an argument....and most of the junk fits on one shelf and is only a couple of fridge items.....its taken a year to get to this point..... 

My husband is pretty good about just eating what I make or finding something else to eat based on what we have in the fridge. A lot of times dinner will consist of protein like grilled chicken or fish, some brown rice, some type of sauce and steamed veggies with a little light butter. He can take extra rice or eat some bread or something if he is still hungry. Generally he eats much larger portions than me and pretty annoyingly always stays the same weight, lol. What makes it worse is he has a sedentary job and doesn't do a bit of exercise, and still manages to eat whatever he wants, drink beer at night and never gain a pound. Or if he does gain a couple (like after Christmas) they're gone in a day or so.

It is frustrating when your husband doesn't support you in losing weight, but I think guys are pretty clueless about that stuff and they just want something to grab hold of (that's what my husband says anyway, lol). Maybe have a talk with him and explain that it's important to you that he not keep that stuff around all the time.  What I tell my husband is that I don't care what he eats when we go out, but I don't want him bringing big bags of chips or boxes of cookies in the house. He can eat that stuff when we go over to my inlaws'. So far he hasn't complained.

I have a wonderful man who is somewhat UNDERweight and snacks at night on cookies and milk, ice cream, always regular sodas, etc. When I go to the store I usually pick him up some sweet-sweets, actually, and keep him stocked up! I wouldn't ask him to change HIS eating to accomodate MY change in diet. He does happily eat whatever I prepare, and he never eats a lot at one sitting, but snacks later.. and before! He is very supportive of my healthy eating, and will do things like make homemade hummus for me, keep an eye on my diet sodas and keep me stocked up, pick up light or low cal things from the store that he thinks I might like.

I handle this by keeping things around that I love to eat, that are quick snacky things that I can have ONE of at night after dinner while he has his own snackies. Sometimes it may be a 100 calorie ice cream sandwich, or 100 cal snack pack of cookies, 100 cal pack of turkey jerky, a grapefruit with splenda, frozen blackberries, raspberries, and blueberries with splenda, light popcorn, one serving of rice crisps dipped in light dressing, pears with low fat cottage cheese.. I have something delicious at the same time as he does, and I totally enjoy it and savor it as a treat!

Make your healthy meals DELICIOUS ones that are every bit as exciting as a pizza or more so! Make the junk stuff like fries pale in comparison to the lemon pepper chicken, roasted red peppers, golden corn on the cob that you have whipped up!

My boyfriend is like that too- He's lost 20 lb since he moved in with me because I do all the shopping.  He's very supportive though.  I actually find his high metabolism kind of helpful because He will eat anything that I ask him to get rid of.  If friends bring cookies over or I buy ice cream and then decide it's not worth it, he is always happy to eliminate any temptation I ask him to.  There is a drawer in the kitchen dedicated to his snacks that I don't touch.