Significant Others

How supportive are everyone's boyfriend/girlfriend/fiance/spouse? I am mildly overweight and my fiance thankfully has never said anything negative to me. He only says good things, and although I know in reality I still need to lose weight, it makes me feel better that I don't have to listen to any criticism from him.

My boyfriend and I motivate each other all the time! We are always giving each other helpful tips.. both of us are active and athletic, so we love to compete with one another and remind each other to eat healthy.. he loves me the way I am, so I know that I am only doing this for myself, which is awesome!

My husband never complains about my weight even though I  need to lose 100lbs he says I'm fine. I tell him he's crazy. lol.

So he really isn't either supportive or not supportive because he says I don't need to lose weight.

My husband is amazing.  I'm obese, and I'm not happy with it at all.  But he has never mentioned it, and if I ask or talk about losing weight (or myself in a negative way, which I do sometimes), the response is always that it doesn't matter to him, he loves me no matter what, and that I need to make sure I'm losing weight for myself and not because of pressure from him (because, again, it doesn't matter to him) or somewhere else.  I don't always believe him, but it's nice to hear and gives me more confidence.

He's nowhere near as unfit as me, but he has about 40 lbs he'd like to lose, so we're working on this together.  We have kids, too, and we want them to be healthy, and that's a huge added motivation. 

All told, I feel really lucky to have found such a great guy. :)

Being someone who has fought with ED's for over 2½years, It was soo hard for me to open up to my boyfriend about it. But he's so supportive, I know he loves me the way I am. And just wants me to be healthy, both mentally and physically. and if that means gaining a few more pounds, he doesn't care. I'm the one that cares...

My boyfriend thinks I'm crazy for wanting to lose 10-15 lbs and says he likes me the way I am. But he also says he wants me to do what will make me happy, so if I want to lose a few pounds that's up to me. Whenever he tells me I'm "perfect" the way I am I tell him he's nuts, and that if it were really about him I would have believed him by now. He seems to get that.

drama, mines same - loves me just the way I am - but he wants me to be happy

My boyfriend doesn't think I need to lose any weight, he says I'm perfect to him. But he understands that I'm not trying to lose weight so much as be fit. And it's even inspired him to get into fitness now as well. So we support each other.

I'm so happy that he doesn't point out any flaws or complain about my body. And if I had a boyfriend that did, I'm pretty sure they wouldn't be my boyfriend anymore lol.

I first joined CC a year ago because I wanted to lose about 15 lbs. My boyfriend never told me I should lose any weight, and he was very supportive of my running, but if I brought it up he would make comments like "You would look really good if you lost just, like, 5 pounds." I was never sure if I should have been insulted or complimented that he thought I didn't need to lose as much as I thought I did, but I was always a bit miffed by it.

Since then, we took a few months apart to grow up on our own, and he really has. I'm about 5 lbs less than I was at this time last year, and I would still like to re-lose that last 10. He tells me all the time that he loves my body the way it is, but he's still proud of me for working out. He ran track and cross country for 2 years in college (we just graduated in May), so we always try to go for a good run when he visits. I am glad that I can see a difference in the way he treats me and I love that he's so supportive. He always pushes me to do better and gives me advice. I'm lucky to have him around.

the guy i love broke my heart and ended up giving me the will to lose weight, if that counts.

Nope. My boyfriend told me I'd look skeletal and gross if I lost the 20 lbs. I've been meaning to, so **** him.

Yet he checks out other girls non-stop, and none of them are my size or bigger. The mixed messages are making my head spin.

I would say my boyfriend is very supportive. His mom recently lost some weight so he knows how hard it can be to lose as much as I want to. I love that he doesn't want me too thin. He likes "rounded edges" ;)