Signifigant others and weight loss

I'm curious, are your signifigant others supportive of your weight loss?  If so, how?  If not, how?

Yes - we work out together, when I want an indulgence, he reminds me to check my calories before I have some, and he observes and compliments my progress - he even helps me track it with measuring tape.

At first, he wasn't as supportive - he didn't see that I needed to lose weight - he saw me every day and thought I looked great. That changed when I told him my starting weight, and how much I needed his support. Since then, he's been nothing but helpful and encouraging.

Sounds VERY helpful!  My S/O hasn't anything during my weight lose process.  I had a baby 8 months ago and I just got down to my prepregnancy weight and now he said I'm too skinny (the first thing he has said since I started losing).  I'm 5'7" 130.  What's funny to me is that before our daughter, we were both trying to lose 5-10 lbs and he was encouraging it.  So, I'm not sure why he is not supportive of my current weight. 

My fiance is very supportive. He also is one of those who disagrees and says I don't need to lose weight, blah blah blah.  However, he supports me in everything I do and he knows it only boosts my confidence...which in turn always benefits him in one way or anther.

My SO is very supportive of my weight loss.  He does disagree with the amount of weight that I want to lose though, he has always been attracted to thicker women,  I was a size 10 when we first met but he still supports my decision to see if I can get down to a 6 or and 8.  Also he is benefitting from my decision to lose weight.  I have more energy and I am in better spirits.  It is like a grey cloud has been lifted.

I weigh, measure and portion all of my meals so he has been very supportive when it comes to that and has no problem with having to fend for himself in the kitchen if it makes it easier on me.   He has also been awesome at watching our son so I can work-out and even giving me extra "me time" so I can check in to calorie count and log my calories or even check out the boards.  When he does get take-out he has been getting healthier foods like roasted chicken and vegetables and 6" subs on whole-wheat bread instead of greasy pizza and chicken wings so I can indulge with him and not blow my calories for the day. 

My bf is also very supportive.  I'm pretty overweight and although he loves me no matter what, he recognizes the health risks and that I'm not happy.  He does all of the cooking and makes sure to make sometime for me that is low cal even if he is having a big bowl of yummy pasta.

The hubs is very supportive in theory, moderately supportive in practice. He is all for me wanting to get healthier, as long as I keep my curves. He has also supported my decision to drop some cash on a gym membership. However, sometimes he seems a little bummed that I'm not cooking as indulgently as I used to, and that I don't really want to eat out that often. Poor guy...

Mine is supportive - I feel bad at times though because there are times when I say to him "if you see me eating something I shouldn't tell me not to" and then he says something to me and I bite his head off! haha....oh well. He is good about wanting to go the gym and making me go with him...he knows it's what I want to do. However, I wonder how accepting he would be if I still didn't cook him delicious meals for dinner and on weekends...he's a steak and potato man - I'm not (anymore..kinda!).

I don't know what your body composition is but 130 for 5'7" does seem small to me.  I'm 5' 5 1/2" and my goal weight was 139.  I've made it and I feel teeny tiny.  No boobs or butt anymore, all gone. 

Anyhow, I was moderately overweight and when I started to finally lose, my husband left me (he stated for other reasons).  He complained that I was unhealthy before and so when I finally sought treatment for depression and started acting more healthy (exercising, eating better, getting in better moods) he split. 

So, not too supportive.  He discouraged my exercise while we were married, he never complained when I got out of control fat and even told me not to lose my big butt. 

My current girlfriend isn't as supportive of my fitness goals as I thought.  She loves to eat out and her idea of "cutting back" is to skip meals.  She doesn't seem as interested in working out together as I thought she would be. 

Thanks for the response ladies! 

Ugh! I wish my BF was supportive! It's not that he makes negative comments or anything, it's just subtle sabotage.  We just moved in together a few months ago and I broke my ankle.  With me laid up for four months he was a gem! But I'm trying to get back into a normal activity level and normal eating habits and he just doesn't get it.  His job is very physically demanding and he's already ADHD so while I'm struggling to motivate myself to get to the gym, cursing all through sit ups and aerobics classes, he's just hanging out at home.  While I'm scouring the aisles for nutrition information, the girl scouts at the door convinced him to buy one of EVERYTHING! Have you ever tried portion control with those things? Thin mints will be the death of me.  Plus his darn deep fryer.  I love fried things! But they just can't be a part of my life right now. I tried to get him on board with healthy eating but he just joked that he can't lose anymore weight.  (He's 6' and maybe, maybe! 150lbs.) He is very muscular and lean but without doing anything he drops weight and I pick it up!  He loves me, loves my body, tells me to do it for myself but it's SO HARD! 

aheiney, I couldn't have said it better myself.

Instead of girl scout cookies though, it's pints of ben & jerry's and mac and cheese.

And mine is 6' and only 135 pounds! He's scrawny skinny. It's really not that healthy, but he doesn't exercise, and because he's on his feet all day, is SUPER tired when we get home at night.

So I work out, or go for walks, and he plays video games.

It's really hard to be the only one in a house full of SKINNY people who has to watch what they eat, and how much they just lounge around.

My boyfriend is pretty neutral about the whole thing, which is fine by me. The last time he made a comment about my body it turned into a fight so he's learned his lesson, lol. But he does ask how its going every so often and supports the whole working out thing. I think somewhere in his mind he's fantasising about having a girlfriend who looks like Jessica Alba.

Its so not fair though, I wish I could eat junk food the way he does....

My hubby calls himself supportive and in his mind he prob is.  However that doesn't stop him from bringing home a bag of Lay's potato chips and declaring them for me.  I told him "Bring me pretzels next time" we'll see if he remembers. 

My fiance is pretty supportive for the most part.  He will listen to me vent and stuff but he gets upset sometimes and says i obsess too much and says he loves me and thinks i look great no matter what i weigh.  He knows i'm super sensitive too so he doesn't say much other than that!  But like if i say i lost a pound or something he will say "good job!".  LOL

My fiance is very supportive of my weight loss.  He is actually taking part in the eating healthy part of it.  We always cook together (even if he is much better at it than I am) and we try to find good healthy recipes to make together every week in order to keep it interesting.  That is one thing that has really helped: I don't have to watch him eat something that I wish I could eat!

my man loooooves the way i look.

if i ever say anythin i dont like about my body he's like no no no no no no no.

what's hard about it is when i go to the gym durin time when we're both off work and home together.

i have a crazy schedule & we dont get a lot of the same days off so even though we live together we feel like we never see eachother : (   he always protests me goin bc he wants to spend our time together.

PLUS he has pretty old fashioned, very unhealthy eatin habits.

he's picky and loves candy, hot dogs, soda, etc...

he hates the gym but he said he was gna go w me one night bc thats how bad he wanted to be w me.

he didnt end up goin lol but it was sweet.

ive told him that i need his support even if he doesnt think i "need" to go to the gym and he's gotten better abt guilt trippin me for it.

plus he knows i get crabby when i dont wk out.

but i try my hardest to get the workouts done before he gets off too so we can enjoy eachother.

My fiance is very supportive.  He's even gotten the bug to go back to the gym, his job is VERY physical so I have to applaud him for that because I know I wouldn't be after a day like his.

He leaves it up to me to "cheat" and I'm thankful for that because I hate being restricted by other people and it almost always has the adverse outcome.  He helps me take my measurements every month to track my progress and celebrates my little achievements with me.  He doesn't think I should lose any weight at all but he has to say that, lol.  I know he's not hating the changes my weightloss is doing to my body.

We don't live together yet but I generally cook pretty healthy anyway and he doesn't like to cook so I don't think it will be any harder after we get married.  I also do the food shopping and rarely buy junk foods so he'll benefit from it also without even knowing.  I just have to make sure he's eating enough to cover his calories for the day, way more than I'm used to eating!

My SO is also trying to lose weight, and I think he's the reason I've managed to stick with it for this long. There are upsides and downsides... he's very willing to buy and cook healthy from the grocery store, he praises my progress, never nags about what I'm eating, and sometimes he'll remind me to exercise. But he likes to go out more, and he's got 500-some more calories to spend each day and still lose weight than I do. We also each work very hard and some evenings one of us just want to curl up in bed and watch a movie... I think there's probably 1-2 times a week that I'll just join him in resting when I would have otherwise hopped on the stationary bike and pushed through the fatigue. I can't say how often I prevent his probable exercise, not being inside his head. Cuddles are much harder to resist than chocolate, anyhow!

First of all, I LOVE THIS POST! I think about this often, about how my eating habits would be if I were living on my own instead of with my SO. He's super lean and can eat anything. He used to be a competitive mountain biker and snowboarder, so he is super athletic and therefore really, really supportive of my fitness goals. But, he's lacking in the nutrition and diet side, he'd rather me pig out of chips, candy, etc with him than cook a healthy dinner! So I'm trying to eat better despite it all.... it would be nice if he were more into healthy eating, but I love him lots nonetheless.

Original Post by aheiney:

 His job is very physically demanding and he's already ADHD so while I'm struggling to motivate myself to get to the gym, cursing all through sit ups and aerobics classes, he's just hanging out at home.  While I'm scouring the aisles for nutrition information, the girl scouts at the door convinced him to buy one of EVERYTHING! Have you ever tried portion control with those things? Thin mints will be the death of me.  Plus his darn deep fryer.  I love fried things! But they just can't be a part of my life right now.

THIS sounds exactly like my boyfriend! Minus the ADHD!

He is very supportive when it comes to cooking healthy things (he does all the cooking)- once I find the healthy recipe and strole through the grocery store for mere hours looking for all the ingredients! This I love about him, that he is willing to eat what I eat for dinner.  BUT he makes 4 servings and eats 3! He is also not allowed to go to the grocery store without me, for ANY reason, because he never fails to bring home some sort of little debbie! I hear "just this once" about 3 times a day!! Skinny jerkkkk! :)

He also tells me everyday how beautiful I am, and how good I look, and is very sinere. I just wish he would walk with me more, and not bring home all that good stuff that I can't eat!

I just tell myself.... There is no "perfect" boyfriend, but he is my perfect match.