Quite Similar

well, from a quite similar topic in here I heard about using Alanon for a good source of support. My problems don't begin with an SO's drinking habits so I was wondering if you guys knew of any groups that dealt with women who are depressed in a relationship.

i don't know if I can categorize my feelings right now. I guess name calling is the biggest thing. Second to that is probably the way my SO seems to attack me whenever I show vulnerability. I guess I can give a few examples. one night my 20 month old son woke up with a bad cough. I instinctively went upstairs to get him. I took him to the kitchen to make him a cup of warm milk an some medicine. My So decided to help out, but it seemed to get him more frustrated than anything. He scorned me for taking my son out of bed. An when I couldn't find a cup with a baby on my hip he franticly ran through the house claiming that I never keep up with anything. It escalated to putting me down. So far the way I take care of my son isn't good enough, the way I take care of my car isn't good enough, and apparently the way I take care of his utensils.  My last straw was him bringing my son's real father into this. I shut up an went to sleep.

an it happens with anything. If I feel insecure about the way I feel, if I talk about something he doesn't agree with, even for something as small as that cup. I don't think women should be called crazy, or a bitch, or a whore in every argument. What is that though? an who can help? any group?

It sounds like a support group isn't the answer.  I think you need to leave that man.  I don't know you, or your situation, well enough to really give good advice, but he's calling you vile names at every opportunity?  Your son doesn't need to hear that.  Staying in any sort of abusive relationship is not the right example to set for your child, and that smacks of emotional abuse to me.

I wish you luck.

 

I just really do not even know what to call it.  He never hits me or anything. I just need support group to help me understand what is going on, an maybe get the courage to do something about it. I feel so small every day.

Original Post by given2staci:

He never hits me or anything....  I feel so small every day.

Abuse doesn't have to be physical.

I would advise you to check out the mental health services in your local phone book.  I am not saying that there is something wrong with you.  I do feel, however, that talking this out with someone who is outside the situation may clarify things for you, and help you to see what steps you need to take to either make your situation livable, or to get out.

I'm so sorry that you're being treated in that way. You might find some support in a women's group concerned with domestic violence. There are other types of abuse besides physical violence. Emotional abuse hurts too! Good luck!

And, a guy's advice.  I, too, don't know your full situation.  But that behaviour from a man is in tolerable.  And unacceptible.  You need out.  No one should ever be made to feel small in a relationship.  Ever.

If he's not you child's father (heck, even if he was) you need to distance yourself from him.

i know what to call it. emotion abuse. he is ABUSING you, and you don't deserve it! especially while trying to care for a 20 month old baby. this man does not respect you, and he isn't going to change his ways. you, and your little boy deserve better. what happens when your son gets older and he starts talking to him that way? i can't imagine you tolerating that for your child, and you shouldn't tolerate it for yourself. 

and even if he doesn't turn on your son, do you really want that little boy hearing someone call his mommy, who i'm sure he loves more than anything, a whore or a bitch?! you are not small, you are important, you are a mother, and you deserve better than that! there ARE good men out there. i hope you get help and get out.

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_viol ence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm