I simply have a crush on a boy...

Hi everyone,

I've always been a fan of reading forums but never have i stated a personal dilemma of mine till today.  So here's the story, met this great guy at my friend's b-day party, we hit it off, our conversation went smoothly throughout the night.  He even went on to ask me to dance when there were no one dancing on the dance floor.  I mean needless for me to continue on, we were having a blast getting to know each other.  We decided to move the party over to his place ( i know, trouble right?) But i couldn't turn down the offer, we clicked, i wanted to continue hanging out.  After a while, him and i decide to check out from the party to his room.  And yes, i slept with him  (amazing btw).  Morning comes, we have cereal together, and chat a little bit about last night and the good time we had, and we part ways.  This was about 3days ago, i know, i know, i need to be patient.  But it is making me nervous as to why he hasn't called yet.  I am taking the old cliche advice of "wait for him to make the first move" but i like him so much at the moment i am willing to throw that out the window.  But i am afraid, he thinks i am a drunk slut and i probably do this kinda thing often.  What is also intimitdaing is the fact that he is very popular, has tons of friends, really cool house, he is definitely far more well of than i am.  But i also know if he gets to know me, he will know i am a product of quality girl.  So i guess i want to aim this question more towards guys out there, what should i do?  I am so confused because i really want to hang out with this guy and he hasn't called me.  Did i ruin my chances with him because i slept with him already?  Couple more things, his dog is his world, and he kept insisting how much the dog likes me.  I don't know, i just like animals so i didn't think much of it, but since he insisted i figured that's a point on my court.  Another thing is, he asked me for my number at more than one occassion because we would get side tracked on different things, till it was last thing we did before i took off.  Last, but not least he wished i didn't have to leave for the day, he wished we could spend the rest of the day together.  Cute right?  One reason to why i am nervous and anxious is because of Facebook.  He found me and added me right away, and from the look of his compared to mine, he def. has a lot more life, more parties and friends than i do.  So i am wondering after seeing my FB page if he feels differently now, i wonder if he thinks now "wow, that chick isn't that cool at all"  Arrgg... I hate feeling this insecure, but that's just how i feel.  I don't drive a cool car, i don't have a great house, if anything i would consider myself poor, i just don't know if i am cut out for a cool guy like him.

thank you for taking your time and reading this amazingly pathethic story of mine.  I really appericiate anyone who could reply to it.

Don't do anything.  What you have here are not the ingredients of the beginning of a relationship. Get yourself together and walk away having learned not to sleep with somebody the first time you meet them. That is REALLY the best thing that will come out of this.

Nugget, I'm not operating under any impressions. I'm dealing with the facts at hand and in this case, we're talking about someone who had what amounts to a one night stand, and wants it to be something more.  Who's to say the chick isn't looking for a one night stand?  Well the chick in this case is Tinybella and she said she's not looking for a one night stand...if she was...there'd be no post to begin with...lol..

in this case, i kind of agree with JP. i know you don't like that it's an insult to girls, but really i think that a guys attempt to get into a girls pants is sometimes like a test. if they get in on the first date, of course they arent going to give her as much respect. Guys do get high fives and that's why they can do it. It's not about insulting anyone, that's just how the world is. And true enough, girls like sex too, that doesn't mean go out and gift wrap your body and hand it to somebody. I agree, it's not fair that guys get high fives and girls have shame to deal with but it's not really a choice we were given.

after only meeting somebody one night, you never know who they've slept with before. they could have HIV or a girlfriend. some guys are smooth talkers but before getting to know them, how are you going to be sure you even like the guy? i disagree with guys trying to sleep with girls quickly but it happens and i think that girls realize what the consequences are when she hops in the sack.

i think everyone in the world (male and female) should respect themselves a lot more and realize that as enjoyable as sex is, it's not worth the risk of communicable diseases and legit disrespect.

I have to agree with johnnypenso to a degree on this too. I don't think it applies to every case, and I certainly don't think that there's any way of knowing it applies to the OP's situation. I mean, he could simply be nervous.

From my experience, the friends of mine that have thrown themselves at guys have gotten themselves used and treated like dirt. I've had much better luck with guys even though I'm considered more of a "prude."

I wasn't really commenting on the original post. and i agree with you, he could be nervous.

OP: if you think he's showing you signs that he likes you, get a hold of him. what's the worst that could happen? he tells you that he's not interested. sure it'll sting a bit but at least the connection was only for one night. there are plenty of other fish in the sea. it's better to not let yourself get all worked up about it yet, and it's been quite a few days now. if you get a hold of him, you won't look desperate or anything. it'll look like you want to hang out again. guys shouldn't always have to make the first move. some of them are shy too.