single folks out there

I'm thinking we seriously need a singles forum. Who's with me?

i'm single! but what exactly do you mean by a singles forum?

i'd probably make an appearance, though i've yet to cross paths with a single, straight guy between 30 and 50 here.  and the single, straight 50-year-old(s) is(are) chasing 25 year olds.

I'm single, and I have been for all my life, never even went out on a date.  I guess I'm a supersingle.

Recently single and pretty happy about it.

And yeah... singles forum? What do you mean by that?

I'm recently single and trying to get happier about it. 

I just mean a singles group. like the forums on here: weight loss, fitness, foods, exercise, the lounge, new members, etc.

not that we singles couldn't talk anywhere on here, but maybe add some dating tips and such for those of us that have never actually been part of the single world.

I'm 23 and dated the same guy for 5 1/2 yrs, since high school and he broke it off to try and be famous, ugh,  so this is a real adjustment for me. 

And I need to meet as many new people as I can and get out and have some fun so I don't waste away in my apt.

I'm guessing the ratio of girls to guys on here would be a bit outrageous though, huh? eh, I guess I didn't think that out very well. just a suggestion.

" ... though i've yet to cross paths with a single, straight guy between 30 and 50 here."

I'm a straight guy between 30 & 50.

Edit: and single.

rtsandlin, i got out of a long relationship a while back myself, even though i was the one who broke it off. it takes a while to adjust to being single, just take your time and wait until you're ready!

and make sure to revel in the fact the the chances of your ex becoming famous are about as good as my chances of winning the lotto. :) 

key word between, tr.  and it's interesting that you didn't pick up on the rest of my post.

okay, i stand corrected.  you're still "between."

I don't discriminate based on age if that's what you mean.

Original Post by jules817:

rtsandlin, i got out of a long relationship a while back myself, even though i was the one who broke it off. it takes a while to adjust to being single, just take your time and wait until you're ready!

and make sure to revel in the fact the the chances of your ex becoming famous are about as good as my chances of winning the lotto. :) 

I do revel in that fact, but we were together 5 1/2 yrs. and engaged since november and he broke it off to put all his time and energy into music. Now, I'm in the position where even if he doesn't make it, he was dating 2 wks. later and my lil sis plays in a band with him and when she asked him about it he was like, " oh well, we aren't dating anymore and I don't want to hurt her anymore than I already have so why tell her about it?" We have all mutual friends so I constantly get told what he's doing, etc. My point is that him not succeeding doesn't make me feel too much better because I supported him (I'm graduated, he's not) for him to turn around and start dating and not even care! SO not the guy I thought he was. geez. I think he has split personality disorder. My bad, I had a little rage blackout there.

tr, i guess i do, because i'm 40 and i wouldn't chase a 25 year old.

I'm single and 26 and looking for a 50-year-old man.  Just kidding.

I cap it at about 35 and that may be pushing it.  This morning on the radio they were talking about men and their life stages as far as relationships, sex, and life in general.  I thought it was pretty interesting and perhaps some truth to it:

mid-to-late 20s - guys just want to have fun, see whats out there.  No commitment.  They may not know much of what they're doing in bed, but they're learning.  Hopefully a woman or two sticks around long enough to give some pointers.

Early 30s - they start to see their friends getting married, but still don't want the pressure of marriage and children.  May get a little more skilled in the bedroom (I'm not seeing evidence of this, but whatever).

mid-to-late 30s - if not married yet, they're starting to see their friends who were married a few years ago now going through divorces.  Reluctancy and hesitation persist.

40s - "I feel like an adult now and I'm ready to settle down.  I don't want to be the 40-year-old guy at the bar.  I don't want to be that guy."

Women, on the other hand, may be looking for marriage and starting a family in their early 20s.

And finally, the topic of womens' changing role in today's society.  They don't need to depend on a man financially.  They may not want to play mom/housewife in a traditional sense.  Men are still evolving to adjust to this.

Just some interesting notes from my morning drive.

I'm 29, single, and mostly fit into lasch's description.  That said, I can count on one hand the number of my guy friends who are my age (pre-30) who aren't married.  Being unmarried at my age, I'm definitely the minority.  I live in a fairly small town in PA though, so that may have something to do with it.  ;-)

Original Post by pgeorgian:

i'd probably make an appearance, though i've yet to cross paths with a single, straight guy between 30 and 50 here. and the single, straight 50-year-old(s) is(are) chasing 25 year olds.

No lie:  I know a couple, just moved in together, who are 25 and 66.  Guess which age matches with which gender... just guess!

I am right there with you all.     ( :    Happier for it, but it is tough. 

I'd be all about a singles forum.   

Sign me up!

EDIT:   lol, chriswain.  I am fun, smart, relatively hot, and totally single again at 31.   I hear you....   too bad I am where I am... 

Hmmm... and what would be the point of this singles forum?? To find a partner?? I've been single for as long as I can remember, and honestly I love it. The freedom, the ability to do what you want, when you want and not have to be accountable to anyone but yourself... ahh, it's seriously amazing. I would only ever even consider dating someone if they shared the same interests as me, thus allowing me to do all the things I enjoy without anything holding me back.

Yup, I'm pretty selfish, narcissistic at times, self-deprecating at times, high maintenance, crazy, compulsive and simply put a dork. I don't think I could find time between work, watching anime, baking, DDR, Dr Who or reading manga to give a rats behind about a man (unless he is a timelord with his own phone-box) :P

Yay for being single!

What's the point of responding to a year old thread that had been long forgotten?

just thought I would try to resurrect it... it got someone's attention :)