Single people trying to lose weight? Sign up here

First off, I'm not trying to start a dating service or anything. But it seems almost everyone on CC is married and I know that can't be the case.

While it's great that they are married, single people have different reasons for losing weight, they have different pressures involved, and they don't have any spouse they can depend on for support.

I'm not saying it's harder, in fact we also have more time to dedicate to weight loss (saving single parents)

But this thread is for the single people I know there are on CC.

how about we unite! because there will most certainly be a war against the married people in the coming months (j/k)

I'll start. I'm 24. I've been single for about 4 years now. I got out of a long relationship with a girl that could've been the one, but we just were in two different places. Since then I went into a deep state of depression a few years back, and gained a bunch of weight in addition to pretty much giving up living life.

Well, I heard a song (Jimmy Eat World- 23) that changed my life, as corny as it sounds. Since then I have been working on different phases of getting my life back, and weight loss is now.

However, eventually I am going to try and tackle dating, and it's a scary thing. I've had a few encounters in these past years, but they just didn't work out.

Who wants to share similar stories? Don't leave my hanging people

nice thread shawnmax :)

Cool to see there are some single people on CC! I could definitely use some friends (esp single ones...the challenges are different), so feel free to add me. I just started journaling on here recently.

Ill be 29 on Friday, and honestly Im not looking forward to it. Not because of the age (people seem to get freaked out near 30, but didnt ya know - 30 is the new 20! hahha), but honestly because I will probably be spending it alone. I have great friends, they just happen to live all over the freakin world. And while Ive been dating, there just isnt an amazing connection with any of those people....and on my bday especially, if Im going out - Id like it to be with someone special.

So.........thats that. Being single does give me a lot more time and energy to focus on improving myself for myself! I tend to gain weight in relationships, which is ALL bad I tell ya.

I'll jump on in here!

I've been single almost 9 months now, a little after I started losing weight!  Anyway I still have a hard time seeing myself as fit! I'm down 65 lbs now (265 - 200)!  I'm really awkward when it comes to dating! My past girlfriends came by being friends first! Now everyone and their dog wants to try and "hook me up"!  Its kind of a lot of pressure that I dont want to deal with!  But I guess the attention is always nice! haha

It feels kinda weird for me to sign up for a 'single's thread'. But oh well, here goes.

Hey Ya'll, Im kay, 27. I just got out of a 3.5 year relationship. I love being single because it means you have the house all to yourself. You can eat/or not eat whenever you want. There aren't anybody elses feelings to consider when making plans for the evening.

I ended up gaining a LOT of weight during the course of the relationship. I guess thats why I am now on CC. Im on the breakup diet. Haha

Anyhow, Im just looking for new friends, some good conversation, and lots of motivation.

Does anyone on here live in Florida???

I'm 33, single, never been married...spent my 20s in ltr with various boyfriends.  I've been footloose and fancy free for the last 2 years.  I've also been dating for the last 2 years.  Essentially, I'm having a blast, I should have done this in my 20s...I'll start the dating journal entries once I can edit them sufficiently not to embarrass anyone...that or I'll have to come up with a screen name!  I wouldn't mind a serious relationship, but I have yet to meet anyone that the feeling lasts for longer than a few dates for both parties.

For those of you who are intimidated by your weight...just go out and talk to people.  Most people are friendly and the a* and b* will still be there when you're skinny, it'll just be harder to tell them from the good ones because they'll fake it for as long as they can.  You do not want someone in your life that is going to fall out of love with you if you gain 10-20 pounds!

If we're talking 50-100 pounds or more, you still need to get out and socialize.  Perhaps you'll make a friend that has potential to turn into something special.  Or perhaps, you'll run into that special someone who can see beyond the pounds and truly value you for yourself...it is harder when you weigh more, as physical attraction is based in part on appearance, but it's not impossible.  I have several friends who have significantly overweight gfs or bfs when they are average.

Drinks and food...unless your date is making a dinner date, just meet for coffee or drinks.  Greyhounds are really good drinks, so are screwdrivers.  Vodka & grapefruit juice/orange juice.  Or try a bloody mary.  Order something with some nutritious value to offset the booze and you'll be fine, just have one, not 5 unless you've gotten some serious exercise (between the sheets doesn't count as serious, I looked it up!) or have a major deficit for the day.

If you need dating advice, I have plenty to spare!  I had no problem getting dates when I was 20 lbs heavier and I still have almost 30 pounds to reach my goal.  I also have some great methods of letting a date down easily so feel free to e-mail me.

Haha, yep, it can be really easy to put on those pounds in a relationship. My best friend from school started dating this girl over a year ago, and seriously he's put on a noticible amount of weight, too many late night dessert dates, I guess!!

But yeah, that same friend spends all his time with this girl, and doesn't hang out with the guys. She's a nice girl and all, but dammit, he was my friend first. I know you have to make time for someone you're dating, but even my other friend who's in a serious relationship said it was excessive. Anyway, I don't want to be that guy you sacrifices his friends for a girl (and I wouldn't want someone who would sacrifice her friends). So yeah, there are some advantages to being single, I just get to the point where I don't remember those sometimes.

I've seen enough relationships to know I like being single lol...........my sister is in a serious relationship and he's  a good guy and were friends but he texts her 24 7 and if she doesn't answer he'll call (cause he's at school for the summer so he's a 3 hr drive away) and he's always there................

He wants to know what she's wearing when she goes out and he doesn't let her wear shorts (even though she does lol shes a rebel) cause he doesn't want other guys looking at her

Even my best friend is engaged and we've planned to go to vegas next summer just the girls and my sister's boy and my friends boy are trying to weasel in on the trip.....................

Yup I definately like being able to do what i want when i want to..........as long as i'm not surrounded by couples lol

Well, that's great you want to start something for singles, but actually we are all here (married or not) to help each other. I know that some of the struggles may be a bit different but when you get down to it, the main issue is weight and we all can relate to that whether your married or not. I know that just becuz I'm married doesnt mean I can't help a single person if their struggling...I can still give them support. You look pretty good with the weight you lost you don't look like you need to lose that much at all, congrats on the weight you lost and keep up the good work. I won't keep babbling on as I know you only want singles here, so good luck and healthy eating!

nah I didn't mean it at all like that.

anyone can post in this thread, because at one time or another everyone has been single.

We all help each other, but this thread is just like the "over 200 club" or the "10 lbs to lose" club. It's just something in common that we can talk about and relate to.

Like in this thread, there are so many responses that I want to reply to because they all hit home.  I'm going to add everyone in this thread to friends, do the same for me!

Kay, I'm with you on the break-up diet.  Anytime you need conversation or motivation, let me know.  It sounds like our situations are very similar.  I am learning to love my new-found freedom and independence as well.

Akewanzi, we aren't trying to be cliqueish, but the same way there are threads and groups for people of certain heights or with a certain amount to lose, young, single people face certain challenges in their weight loss.  I can only speak for myself, but I welcome the help from anyone, married or not.  However, I recognize that someone in a similar situation often can offer better insight and perspective. 

Hello all! Well...I'm 25 and single. Never married, two "serious" relationships, meaning they lasted more than a month....and unfortunately no bites in a while :)

I do want to be in a relationship, but I'm also very happy single.  I just bought a house and have a new dog, so life is eventful.  It seems as though I feel the pressure from family and friends to NOT be single more so than I don't like it myself. 

It is a different world for loosing weight....in one way we are able to make easier choices (in that we are the only one's we have to worry about) on the other hand, there's the pressure of looking good to attract that potential mate!

PS:  It's great to have a thread for singles, and married people should not feel left out insulted by there being one....any more than being insulted that there is a thread for people from Georgia! or for people that have more than 100 to loose!

Do friends ever try and set you up because they think it will make you happy? I know I'm probably reading a lot into their well-meaning meddling, but sometimes I wonder if they think I can't find a guy on my own because I'm heavier than they are and they're all coupled up.

Although I've wanted a boyfriend for the longest time, I'm a little mixed about being single right now.  This fall (August 30th can't come soon enough!) I'm studying abroad in England for a semester, and I'm kind of glad I don't have a boyfriend to be away from.  Also, I'm thinking of taking a year or two off in between undergrad and grad school and teaching English in Japan, so again, not having a boyfriend at that time could (a) help make it happen, (b) keep me from feeling guilty about leaving, (c) lessen my ties to home.  It's not that I would say no to starting a relationship now/when i return from England, and I know two years before Japan is a long time when anything could happen, but I'm so excited about going abroad that for the first time, I can see being single as a blessing.

tigerlily... I was just "setup" on friday night. I know exactly how you feel.

It was an awful,awkward situation.

I was under the impression that I would just be going to a bar with my friends, having fun like usual. I was told there would be a girl there I could meet (my friend's wife's maid of honor) and see if we hit it off.

Well apparently she was under the impression the purpose of going out was to meet me.

So it was extremely awkward, and when we talked I found we really had nothing in common. So I ended up not really feeling any connection, and i FELT BAD about that!

I felt as if I was not in a position to not like someone, and that I should be the one being rejected. I feel bad because the girl was asking if I liked her the next day, and my friends didnt know what to say.

I am going to hang out with her again I guess, but I want it to be casual, and I also don't want to lead her on. I'm content being single after these years, I'm not in a rush to just find someone because they are someone. I want a connection.

shawnmax (just added ya!) - i have to ask...

if you didnt really feel the connection and it was so awful, why are you seeing her again?

Shawn--you hit it right on the head.  Everyone keeps pushing me to date and to get back out there--it just feels like there's a lot of pressure.  I'm happy being single, and if I meet someone, I want it to develop naturally.  I want the "connection."

I think people should not get their friends' hopes up like that, but I guess it's too late for them to un-give her that impression. If you're not interested in dating her, you should be upfront with her, because there's nothing worse than trying your best to like someone that way when you know it just ain't happening-it's not fair on either party. And who knows, you could end up with another good friend.  I can never get enough of those. Except, you know, the ones that orchestrate meetings between random single men I have nothing in common with and myself. ;)

And are your families as annoying as mine?  Almost every time I see one of them, however they're related to me, I get asked if I have a boyfriend yet (although the question is usually nicer than that).  Gahm I just want to smack whoever it is asking me that, but I'm so embarrassed--it's like there's something wrong with me because unlike all my cousins, I don't have a steady boyfriend/have never brought a boy home.

And another thing--embarrassing as it is, has anyone else been asked if they are gay/lesbian because they are single?  Because I'm definitely straight, and regardless of what my beliefs concerning homosexuality are (for the record, I support GLBT rights), I find that question/assumption offensive!  I mean, what if I was?  Accusing me is not the way to go, and since I'm not, I'm offended because at least if I was, I would have an excuse--it's like I'm even stranger/something more is wrong with me.

Smile and say, just because I haven't brought anyone home doesn't mean I never date. That'll get them scratching their heads a little bit. "What's wrong with us? Why won't she bring her boyfriend to meet us?"

I'm sorry....a bit off topic but I have to say it....I LOVE 23 by J.E.W! That whole Futures album is amazing, but most people only know them from The Middle and Sweetness.  Glad to hear that album had an effect on you!

I also wanted to say (to ephasize what's already been said), that this thread is an awesome idea.  I have found this site to give me more motivation in a week than anything ever has, just by finding groups with people I can relate to. I'm not single, but I've only been in my relationship for a couple of months.  It's awesome to see the encouragement from here, and I'm learning from it as well!

26, single, and in LA where every other guy has a six pack.  I enjoy the freedom of being single, and I don't want to jump into a ltr, but I would like to date more.  I just don't meet a lot of women that I like, or at least not ones that are single. 
My friend's been in a relationship since the begining of the year, and both he and his girlfriend have gained a significant amount of weight.