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First off, I'm not trying to start a dating service or anything. But it seems almost everyone on CC is married and I know that can't be the case.

While it's great that they are married, single people have different reasons for losing weight, they have different pressures involved, and they don't have any spouse they can depend on for support.

I'm not saying it's harder, in fact we also have more time to dedicate to weight loss (saving single parents)

But this thread is for the single people I know there are on CC.

how about we unite! because there will most certainly be a war against the married people in the coming months (j/k)

I'll start. I'm 24. I've been single for about 4 years now. I got out of a long relationship with a girl that could've been the one, but we just were in two different places. Since then I went into a deep state of depression a few years back, and gained a bunch of weight in addition to pretty much giving up living life.

Well, I heard a song (Jimmy Eat World- 23) that changed my life, as corny as it sounds. Since then I have been working on different phases of getting my life back, and weight loss is now.

However, eventually I am going to try and tackle dating, and it's a scary thing. I've had a few encounters in these past years, but they just didn't work out.

Who wants to share similar stories? Don't leave my hanging people

Good thread!  To all who are "panicky"-- you are so much better off single than in a bad relationship- I speak from experience- I'm just trying to keep that lesson from sinking in too deep! Enjoy life and settle for nothing less than the best!

It's not our appearance but our self-perception...

lol - confidence is a woman.  I like that one!

update re: that girl Shawnmax!

that girl is driving me nuts :(

Please clarify "nuts" - like she's annoying nuts, or you're not making progress with her nuts?

C'mon, spill. Don't leave us hanging. ;-)

Cool idea it does seem like everyones dating or married of something.

Yeah, Shawn, spill. Don't leave us hanging. Oh wait, someone said that already.

Shawn is leaving us hanging I'm afraid.  ;(

Im new to this, and im also completely bored at my internship. just saying hi to everyone!

Hey! I wanna join!!

Im 27 years old, female and live in Pittsburgh, Pa.  I cant find a good man, and I think if I was skinny I would be able to find one.

Than I ask myself, are there any good men left out there? lol

im beginning to think not...

Hey everybody. My name is Yan and I am twenty years old. I've come from an obese family and I've started deiting when I was 15 years old. I was successful until I turned 19. I got out of a short-term relationship and I was so unhappy on several thungs aside from that. I've became an emotional eater and gained 30 pounds plus. Everyday is a struggle for me. but i wont give up.

haha sorry guys... didn't mean to leave ya hanging.

nah, I can't remember what I posted already in this thread, but basically she and I kissed last wednesday after a long talk. it was awesome and all, but the dude she's been dating was inside the bar at the time so not only did I stop it because of respect to my fellow man, but I also didn't want to be in that position.

Still though, it left me wanting her, and then she told him she did it, and the man still says how I'm awesome and he has no problem with me.

Well, fine, but that's not the truth. I don't care if he does to be honest, I just want the girl. The problem is he kinda gave her an ultimatum that if she does something like this again he's gone, and they are only dating not really serious.

So she says how shes going to try to not do anything like that again with me, but how she likes me and doesn't want to hurt me either. Well she's pretty much diving into a serious relationship with a guy just because he's a nice guy and she doesn't want to hurt him, and completely ignoring her feelings for me.

so now I'm the tool who looks like I lost the girl when I never really had a fair shake. I don't know whether to fight for her and risk not being able to even be friends with her if I lose, or just let her go even though I like her a lot.

I've never been selfish and fought for a girl, I always do the let them go and they'll come back thing...they never do.

so now, she wants me to hang out with her, him, and a bunch of his friends on wednesday night. I just don't know how to handle the situation.

there ya go people, sorry to do that to you! hehe.

She doesn't know what she wants. Simple. Go on Wednesday, hang out with everyone and just be your usual self but keep her hands off you. I guarantee, if you're all "I'm not falling for your crap" and this dude she's seeing has already said he's not falling for her crap, eventually she'll realise she's got a whole bunch of crap and nobody to direct it at. Then she'll be forced to figure out who she really wants and lose the crap.

Girls are crazy...Im guilty of it. Haha 

yeah that's exactly what I'm going to do.

The problem is, I see that choice being pretty clear at this point. She will stay with him, and if they break up down the road she will probably be coming after me. I told her that I'm not going to be around forever either.

I mean I think she knows I'm still going to be her friend because we were before this all started, so I'm probably the man in the glass case.

part of me feels like if I fight a bit I'll win, but then i'm fighting for a girl that will probably just cheat on me anyway.

I just wish I didn't get along so well with her.

You know, Shawn, maybe it's just a simple case of immaturity. Maybe that's why she can't figure out what she wants. And maybe she won't cheat on you if she grows up a little and soon. So you've got a few choices:
1-Fight, win, doubt your relationship for its duration, or get cheated on.
2-Wait for her to grow up, see if that means she'll dump the guy and go for you, see if you can get together and stay together.
3-Just be her friend and move on and be happy.
4-Just be her friend and don't move on and be miserable if she decides to stay with this guy (or any other guy but you) for good.
5-Never see her again. Both of you will be miserable.
6-Fight, don't win, have everything be awkward. That's almost worse than choice 5.

yeah I'm used to getting over women these days haha. i fall for taken ones about once a month.

but anyway, as her friend I don't want to see her jump into a serious relationship just so she won't hurt a nice guy's feelings.

Especially when she has pretty strong feelings for someone else.

I mean, if I were the other guy, I wouldn't want that knowing what I know. I just don't know how to tell her all this without it looking like I just want her for myself.

that must be so frustrating for you, because she probably will think you just want her for yourself...which i know isnt advice, but i have been there..and its frustrating...kind of like how 80's morning work out on the radio is frustrating..

But... you do want her for yourself.

ehhh sometimes i think actualy "dating" is over rated unless you truly find someone special.  i dont like being comited unless ive really known a person awhile... i knew this girl and liked her for 3 years and she kept wanting to go out but id say no anyways cuz i wanted to make sure it was good. had about a 2 year relation ship with her. stuff happend but at least were still good freinds. eh maybe im not a freind of dating cuz i still got a real salty taste for it.

Chris