Does Size matter?
My friend and i were talking .... [we're both on this i need to lose 50 lbs to look hot thing] about dating and weight.. now i am veryyy picky when it comes to ones i date... she is not ..i date white guys and she told me that " guys will approach us more when were smaller"... now i know this sounds bad and vein..but be honest.. what do you think [girls and guys] .. does size matter?
Well, I can't speak for any guys....but I know that I personally tend to be more attracted to a chubby guy. Usually one with at least a little bit of belly pudge. This doesn't mean that I'm never attracted to anything else, it's just my preference.
So no, how much a guy weighs isn't really important to me. If he was morbidly obese that would be different.
Yup it matters
I think it matters, but only to an extent. Clearly what people are attracted to is going to differ from person to person. I'm sure for some people weight is an important factor to what they find appealing, but not for everyone.
whats up wendo!!!
i think size probably does matter to an extent, however, it may not be quite as shallow as it seems. if you think about it on a more "nature" kind of level, being overweight is not the way nature intended us to be and therefore people are probably not attracted to it as much as a healthy sized body. kind of like jblarg said, morbid obesity is different from a little chubby just like scary skinny is different from petite or thin. i think the closer you get to looking healthy in general , the more naturally, physically attractive a person is.
Size matters, but it's not the only thing that does.
So work on it, you'll feel better for the exercise and the self esteem either way, but don't limit yourself based on the idea that bigger = useless.
Edit: ... and +1 what jessicasbc said. ;)
We all have our personal preferences. You may as well ask "do brown eyes matter?" or "Does a 401k matter?" Some people will say yes, others will say no.
On a knee jerk, who do I give a second look walking down the street basis, I prefer a man with a slim build. I don't like a man with big broad shoulders and a bunch of muscles. Neither do I find a thick build particularly attractive.
That's first glance, though. I don't do booty calls and want a relationship, not a FWB, so that means that I want someone with whom I have a more significant connection than whether I'd doubletake walking past him down the street.
Yes, to many people it does (men and women) but not to all.
Original Post by dreadfulpenny:
We all have our personal preferences. You may as well ask "do brown eyes matter?" or "Does a 401k matter?" Some people will say yes, others will say no.
On a knee jerk, who do I give a second look walking down the street basis, I prefer a man with a slim build. I don't like a man with big broad shoulders and a bunch of muscles. Neither do I find a thick build particularly attractive.
That's first glance, though. I don't do booty calls and want a relationship, not a FWB, so that means that I want someone with whom I have a more significant connection than whether I'd doubletake walking past him down the street.
You took the words right out of my mouth (or fingertips in this case?).
I think it does....I tend to date guys that are tall and slim....but I have a friend who likes more cushion....so it matters, but everyone is attracted to different things. It's sort of like how some people tend to date more darker haired people, and some date lighter. Same way all appearance matters. I seem to like the bad boys over preppy! haha
I think confidence has a lot to do w it though. I never had a problem picking up guys at any weight, but I think it/s always been cuz of how I carry myself. I have one friend who's gorgeous, but really just can't seem to pick up guys, and I think it's cuz she doesn't have a lot of confidence so she tends to be more of a wallflower...lol not sure if I'm making sense!
i have never been drawn to the girls that were crazy skinny, women with curves have always appealed more to me...but i have buddies that if a girl is over 120 they want nothing to do with them....different strokes for different folks
i think confidence is key- you can be average looking but if you have confidence you will appear even more attractive
Size matters, but not always in the way you would think. Some men are looking for a super-skinny woman - but there are plenty of others who prefer a bit of pudge! In my personal experience there is a definite cultural factor to this too. Im not sure what you meant by being picky, but if you are only looking to date white guys you may well be approached more often when you are smaller.
Like dreadfulpenny said though, it is not all about who you would check out on the street, so having a real emotional connection to a person can frequently trump superficial charecteristics. I have always preferred very tall men (6 foot or taller), but I ultimately married a man who is 5'5". His awesomeness was more than enough to make up for the lack of height!
So, in the meantime, since you aren't 50 lbs lighter yet, rock what you got. Be confident and fabulous and don't just wait for the guys to approach you...
Like so many others have said..Yes weight matters...but not totally. People are more likely to be attracted to someone who is healthy....basically I am attracted to guys who look like they can truly enjoy life to the fullest...I have been attracted to guys who were *geeky* skinny to guys who were somewhat overweight....I'll probably get a bunch of **** for this but someone who is morbidly obese can't truly live life to the fullest....I want to know that when my boyfriend and I go out we are doing what we truly want to do and not just what his weight will allow...I want to be truly happy without any limitations...not about weight or anything.... Am I saying that I could never fall for someone who was severly overweight? No....Apperance is just part of attraction to me!
On the other hand...to the OP if you feel that losing 50lbs will make you more confident then great! And you will start to look better and when you get hit on by more guys just remember that it is a combonation of you looking better/more toned and defined and healthy, and your higher level of confidence! Confidence is sexy! Ya got it now go flaunt it! lol!
Damn and I thought this was about the size of a man's schlong. Boy, was I wrong! :P
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Anyway, it depends on a person some people care and some don't. I agree with most it depends on a person's upbringing, cultural differences, etc. Most people do, but it's not all they look for. Me, personally I don't care as long as the guy can make me feel special and treat me right along with make me laugh and feel loved then I could care less how much he weighs. As long as he is in good health and can move, etc. Then that's all I ask for. :)
P.S. to the OP....You look beautiful! It looks like you know to flaunt your stuff already, which is a great thing. You look fierce in that leopard dress!
Original Post by silentdeadlyrose:
Damn and I thought this was about the size of a man's schlong. Boy, was I wrong! :P
;)
haaa, glad i wasn't the only one!
Original Post by jules817:
Original Post by silentdeadlyrose:
Damn and I thought this was about the size of a man's schlong. Boy, was I wrong! :P
;)
haaa, glad i wasn't the only one!
Me three... aw well!
me four. i giggled at the subject before i read it...
Size matters there too. 
Original Post by hatamoto:
Size matters there too.
true. but size isn't everything :p
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