how skinny is too skiny

i am 5'4 and i am 145 lbs and my mom is always saying that i look good and don't want to over do it but i still have a little belly i want to get rid of, well today she really pissed me off by saying that i look sick and my face is sunken in and my husband told her off, you guys dont think i look sick? do you, i really want to go to like 125 - 130 but my mom is like i'll be able to blow you over, she acts like i'm anerexic or something. uhhhg! so how skinny is too skinny,

you know best; it's your body.  but i'm four inches taller than you and about the same weight, and i'm not blowing over ;)

Hi!

Im 5"4 and 129lb, and I wouldn't say I look really skinny hope this helps :)

I'm 5'4" and my weight ranges from 112-114. I still feel like I could afford to lose a few more pounds.

A lot depends on your body frame though. If you have a bigger body frame, you can hold a lot more weight. I looked at your picture, and you don't look sick, but you definitely look good! Do what you feel comfortable with.

I think it's TOO SKINNY when you start hitting around 80 something (FOR ANYBODY) and you are a full grown adult. I understand 90 something pounds because some people are naturally tiny even if they eat alot... but 80's o_O scare me.

If you want to be in a healthy range, just stay in your safe BMI range. (at least 18.5) You can get to 108 lbs and still be considered healthy actually. You right now have BMI of around 25 which is just in the safe range. I actually suggest you goto your goal weight because you'll be in a better BMI range + you'll feel great about yourself :D

People that have seen you at your heaviest are almost always going to have that opinion when you finally start reaching an ideal weight. They are so used to seeing you at a heavier weight that when you lose it, it's such a drastic change. I say just ignore them and do what's best for you!

Im 5'4 and down to 157 from 240! I look my best at around 130-135. My family was very supportive in the beginning..but now that I am nearing my goal they are starting to give me the same reaction.  I have big boobs and hips...so I can't go far below that or I really do look 'too skinny' unlike jblarghp who looks just fine at her weight. So I think it depends on body type as well.

I agree to just do what you think would have you look and feel the best. I am 5'4" as well and I have been seriously underweight. When I got pregnant I was 95 pounds on a good day. THAT is too skinny in my oppinion. The doctor told me I needed to gain weight obviously. But right now I am 130 and my goal weight is 120. Yes people say that I could stay right where I am at but I don't want to. I want to have a flat stomach. Is that too much to ask for? So, I say, do what you want and as long as your healthy and happy don't worry about the comments.

Oh and my b/f lost over 100 pounds. He is 6'4" and when he got down to 220 I was starting to wonder when he would be done losing weight. But he wasn't happy until he got down to 195. Says that way he doesn't have to worry so much about gaining a few pounds if he has a bad eating week. And he looks really good. So, again go with how you feel. Sorry this is so long. :)

I agree with the other posters. Its your body and up to you to decide when to stop. I did look at your pictures in your gallery, and you look great, skinny but 'not too skinny', so if you want to lose a little more, go for it and good luck.

My mom told me if I lose 20 pounds I'd be too thin. She told me at 155 that I should lose about 5 pounds and I'd be perfect.  This was about 15 pounds ago, mind you, and she's still saying I could lose 5 and be perfect.  I think my mom doesn't realize how fat I AM.  XDDDDD  I told her I'd lost 15 pounds since May and she was shocked.  "Have you really."  So don't worry, you don't look sick, and if you think you look great before your goal, then stop.  No worries.

My mom's telling me to stop losing weight too ^^;; She's like "now you look perfect where you are, if you get any thinner you are going to look too thin!"

This coming from a woman who had a waist line of 23" when she was my age, mind you.

I'm glad though, alot of asian moms call their daugheters ugly and fat apparently.. Like "why don't you lose some weight" "do you want surgery?" or stuff like that, lol. my mom never did that to me even when I was chubby.

Ohhh, yeah that's true, my friend is Filipino, size 4, 130 lbs, 5'9".  Her mother (a Filipina) is constantly telling her she is too fat, her father (white) is constantly telling her to EAT, she's too thin.  Talk about mixed messages!!!

My mom did used to say I was chubby but, it wasn't in a mean way.  She didn't mean it to be rude.  She really didn't want me to get fat so she'd tell me don't eat this, don't eat that.  It wasn't helpful, and it made me really self-conscious and start having body issues.  But I don't blame her, anyway, she was only trying to help.

Your mom is probably adjusting to the change. Give her time and your new thinner face will look normal and lovely to her. It looks normal and lovely to me!

Or she could be jealous! :)

I’m 5 foot 4.5 and weigh about 110 - 112 with a BMI of 18.5 - 19.2 which is just within the healthy range, I feel healthiest at this weight

It would not be healthier for me to be lower because only people who eat 3000 calories a day and are naturally underweight should accept being that underweight, those of us who CAN touch the healthy weight range should try.

I weighed less this year but decided to gain some weight and I am nice and curvy with breasts and a butt so even though I am still just within the healthy range I look and feel curvy and healthy

So the answer to your question is there is no magic number, it is about how you feel not what you weigh. There is no need to get below a BMI of 20 unless you strongly know that you feel healthier at or slightly below that weight, like I am. I feel uncomfortable with extra weight over a BMI of 20 and my breasts grow HUGE so I know I am better slightly leaner

We are all different so I hope you forget about numbers and aim to feel healthiest, not reach a certain weight!

Oh and IGNORE people around you at this point, people’s say things based on how they feel about themselves - if they are your weight and height and they can’t be bothered losing weight they may not support you

Only listen to people if you become underweight and they tell you to stay within the healthy range.

You're Mom may have said that because she is use to seeing you at a higher weight and you are losing. Mom's worry. I think you look fine. Are you eating enough? If you are restricting too much and your Mom know it that may be why she made the comment. If you are eating properly/balanced dint fret about it. A lot of people don't understand a healthy life style. Girls at work think I am crazy when I eat a sweet potato, cottage cheese and salmon for lunch instead of a big mac or taco supreme.

thanks for the support guys, makes me feel alot better, becuz i am eating a proper diet of 1300 cals a day and a have never felt better, she just thinks that way propably cuz i dont drink soda and eat brownies everytime she tries to force em down my throat. thanks guys

I am 5ft 4 and weigh 105lb.... I know it sounds too skinny for some but for me it is perfect.... Infact I have a bit of a stomach pooch that I want to get rid of ..... But I eat around 1200-1400 cals a day and feel very healthy...

So whatever works for you...

A 'normal' healthy weight is between a BMI of 20 and 25 which in the case of someone 5'4" is between 117 and 143lbs.    (Below BMI 19 and you risk medical problems)  Where you choose to be within that range and how you're going to look depends upon your frame size, muscle tone and body-shape.  If you have a larger frame you'll look rail thin at BMI 20, for example.  125 -130 sounds very sensible indeed.

But if your mum's right and you're looking 'sick' then don't dismiss it completely.  Check your nutrition is good and that you're getting enough of things like iron and vitamin C.   Nutrition issues are a real risk of long-term dieting.  If you're under 20 years old, for example, or if you're fairly active 1500 cals a day is the minimum recommended.   And if you're very active, it should be higher still.  Make sure you're getting good quality, wholesome, nourishing foods especially fruit and vegetables...  Eat regularly, get plenty of variety.   Take a multivitamin with iron as a safety-net.   Every two weeks or so have a day where you eat more than normal.  This keeps the weight-loss moving and also gives you chance to get more nourishment.

 Keep smiling.....

I can't imagine 5'4 and 125 for a female being too skinny..

I personally am 5'5 and male with a semi-large frame and my goal weight is 140 (8% bodyfat), so 125 for a female should be pretty fit I would think, but definitely not anorexic..

Original Post by lovemym_m:

People that have seen you at your heaviest are almost always going to have that opinion when you finally start reaching an ideal weight. They are so used to seeing you at a heavier weight that when you lose it, it's such a drastic change. I say just ignore them and do what's best for you!

I agree with lovemym_m.  It takes a while for people to get used to the new you.  I'm currently right in the middle of our (5'4") healthy weight range and feeling good.  But a lot of my friends started saying several months ago that I was too skinny and to stop, which I have done.

Do what feels right to you as long as you're at a healthy weight.  Based on what you said, you might want to shoot for the top of your healthy weight range.

when you can see your rib cage bones through your chest, even just a litt.e (not including collar bone).  when you're tired and dizzy all the time.  when you have no muscle definition.  i'm the same weight and have the same goal and it's a healthy one to have.  basic rule of thunb for a healthy weight for women: start at 5 feet with 100lbs and add 5 lbs for each additional inch.  so around 120 is the minimum (this depends on your frame--hips, boobs, etc).  you shouldn't go below 110 tho, or so i'm told...

I agree with with Corduroyfire.

Your mom might be jealous of your weightloss, which also may be why she tries to shove brownies and soda down your throat.

Does your mother have weight problems? If she doesn't, maybe she feels competition after being used to being smaller than you for so long?