Small problem w/ a friend who is my co worker

I really needed someone to talk to about this.. but I dont have anyone :( I thought maybe some of you out there can help me out. 

I have this co-worker who is also my friend, and his fiance calls me a few times a day, in a rude tone, calling for him.. and I mean i dont have a problem, but I feel that shes rude and shes younger than me so it makes it worse. and she acts like she doesnt know me.  I told him today that she is rude, and hes like why would you tell me shes rude right in front of me. and now hes all mad at me, and is not talking to me.  I dont think its really a big deal b/c I'm at work, so her calling a few times a day everyday gets annoying, espcially in that tone of voice.  I talked to him and I apologized for being rude about it. my boss even said shes annoyed w/ her calling and is going to talk to him.  This small thing has gone over board. and now i'm afraid that i'im going to lose a friend. when i talked to him he said that i was entitled to think what i want. but now i dont know.  I dont think that.  I like her and i have met her a few times and talk to her and stuff, so I dont know why hes all angry with me now.

I know this is such a small issue, but i'm at work right now and its hard to concentrate.... any opinions?

Say that you were just annoyed before and you didn't mean to insult his fiance. Tell him you don't want him to be angry at you.

Since it looks like the boss is now going to handle it, the issue is out of your hands! This is a good thing. Now you don't have to fight with HIM about it, AND you don't have to be annoyed by the fiance.

I agree with you that she was being rude, btw. But it looks like the problem is moving behind you soon enough, so might as well try to forget about it you know?

Hi Feanor - thanks for that response.

Well i told him sorry i didnt mean to. and the thing was the beginning of our convo was good.. so i dont know.

right now he and my boss are talking. and i hope it goes okay so that i dont loose a friend , especially one i see everyday.

I really wish i didnt say anything now :(

I dont really like her THAT much b/c i find shes rude on the phone and she acts like shes better than everyone which I hate. and so i get angry when she calls the office ( I answer the calls) and then shes so rude? and then he talked to her yesterday and she was sooo FAKE nice. and i was just like why? I dont know. I just dont want to be on bad terms with people

I think that apologizing for hurting his feelings with your comment is fine and good.  Now you need to give it some time.  Its interesting his defensive response.  I wonder if he has heard that before or is thinking the same thing (being bothered by the calls at work or her seeming rude).  It is easier to be mad at somebody else (even friends) than the one you love.  That is why it is best to stay out of lover's quarrels if you want to save a friendship.

Sometimes those people that rub us wrong and get the best of us.  It is kind of like blowing the calorie limit for today - tomorrow is another day.  Just apologize sincerely to make ammends and then move on to the next. 

I don't know how your boss got involved though.  Perhaps telling her that you, with respect to yourself, want to let it go for now might be in order.

She might be jealous of you, you know. Even if the idea is a preposterous one (I don't really know the situation, so I don't know if it is) she sounds like the type who would be prone to it. You see her soon-to-be-husband every day, you're friends, you probably share a lot of things that SHE is not privy to. And who knows if she is insecure in their relationship or what. So that may be the reason she is rude to you.

Try to let it blow over and don't feel bad.. no one is perfect and very few people would have the patience to deal with a fiance like that! (definitely not me!)

apologize my ass...you did nothing wrong based on what you told us....how old is the couple, because if they are younger than you in general, then they are both just immature, and you shouldn't worry about anything.  is he really a friend, or just an associate, because people sometimes confuse the two.

in my eye's you did the right thing...and don't worry...guys recover fast unless they are "sensitive". that actually happened here, and it was my girl that was being rude, but it was because she had a problem, but i called her, and asked her if she was rude(noticed i called her before i said anything to him) she told me yes she was, but she didn't mean it...then I went back to the co-worker who said she was rude, and I said to him...she had an issue, and apologized for taking it out on you...and that is the proper way to handle it.

Thanks for the responses!

Lweiskimlc - Yeah I agree, it was actually funny just how defensive he got towards her.  I've been with the both of them before and I actually think shes rude to HIM , but hes so (UGH) that he doesn't even notice!!! Right in front of people (me, and i'm sure there have been other incidents) where she just walks right over him and is so whiny to him. Its so annoying to watch. Me and my b/f are nothing like that, its so funny. I really think she has a rude personality, and thinks shes better, and he is SUCH a friendly nice respectful guy, they are soo the opposite.  I have felt she being rude to me before when I have seen her but shes just not so friendly i guess. So i think he does notice the same thing.

My boss got invovled b/c she doesnt like her calling us all the time (sometimes she answers the phones too in the front office) and she always "demands" to have him paged. So shes like uh no you can leave a msg. so she got involved b/c she got mad just like I got mad.

Feanor - I dont think shes so much jealous of me i just thnk that she thinks shes better or also that she feels soo "cool" and ask for him paged. she has a big girl mentality , she is only like 19-20 years old i think. So she acts like that high maintanence ladies you see on those tv shows.  It seems she tries to act that way, by calling me and talking down to me, and being rude. but he doesnt seem to see it. and you know, there is so much i can take. she calls everyday for i dont know how long now. since they got engaged i guess. so she asks like shes VIP (very important) and no matter what if hes at work, she has that mentality well I NEED TO TALK TO HIM. so page him!! she has that mixture of whiny-ness along w/ I thinkim' better than everyone mentality. I HATE IT!  

Eddiepotter - I know I didnt do anything wrong.. Its just no one deserves to be talked down to. and its so annoying that she has to interupt me at work for her lil miss petty ways. And I agree, your solution was the right way to handle it. and he did talk to her, and then she just changed her ways and in a fake way would say hi how are u, and then not even really wait for an answer and do it again. but it was so fake. and she shouldnt be calling me anyways, unless its an emergency.  he has his own extension, his own cell, and a voicemail, email, messenger.. why doesnt she go thru those ways to talk to him? thats what i dont get.

I just dont like people being rude to me especially at work, and when its someone i know.  but you know what, you are ALL right.. I just need to let it go and see how it plays out.. maybe he will continue being my friend on monday and if not then, so be it right? i guess its just ONE person. no biggie.  Thank you all soo much! so nice to know there are people out there who give good advice and make you feel better.

WOW what a long msg! sorry!