how do you let someone know you like them?

There's this guy at work I'm interested in. I'm not sure quite how much yet because I haven't had many opportunities to interact with him, but I know I'd like to get to know him better and then maybe pursue something. Long story short, I've never really been in this situation before so I don't know how to go about it. I've always been shy about things like this, I wouldn't even tell my friends who I was crushing on back in school lol. So how do you people go about it?

Flirt. I always just flirted so easily, I never knew I was doing it until someone pointed it out.

Just flirt, casually without putting yourself out there too far. This will help gauge if he even thinks of you in this fashion, and open up the idea that YOU are open to that with him.

Because it's at work, you need to be careful about it.

vice - what happened to the fiance in...i wanna say finland?

I've always been very forward and basically all my relationships have been initiated by me. Shocking, I know.

Go the flirting route. It's fun!

I would start with "I like you"

Original Post by pgeorgian:

vice - what happened to the fiance in...i wanna say finland?

He wasn't/isn't my fiance, we just thought about it cuz of the whole distance thing (well might've been more to him, but I wasn't as keen on it). Basically I'm feeling he's not the best match for me (it's deeper than that but meh).

yes flirting is obvious, but that is kind of common place at work, there's like teasing and flirting between pretty much everyone lol (the atmosphere is more like a social setting). Well it's more joking flirting, than I like you flirting, but I've never really done it other than in a joking way anyway so I dunno...what to do to get the point across more?

aw.  well, glad you're getting back on the horse.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

aw.  well, glad you're getting back on the horse.

Well...hopefully (hehehehe)

invite him out for coffee or lunch...nice, neutral, can get to know him a bit better without it really being a date.

My boyfriend of a couple of years (hopefully soon my fiance!) was a chef at a restaurant where I was a waitress. I thought he was really sweet and funny and cute so I started flirting with him a little, you know, just joking round. I kind of did this for a while to gauge his reaction, getting a little flirtier when I got positive responses! I would recommend you are especially nice to him for a while but to take note of how he reacts to your friendliness.

My boyfriend says he knew for sure I was into him when he was complaining to me about something and, "to make him feel better" I rubbed his back. Hehe. Luckily working at a restaurant I think we were drinking a glass of wine together which certainly gave me a little dutch courage!

You could always ask him out for a coffee or something low-key where you could just as easily be friends? Or seek him out at a work party? Good luck honey

"How do you let someone know you like them?"

I usually make them a nice breakfast instead of just handing them a cup of microwaved instant coffee and pushing them out the door.  

How to let someone know you like 'm more than the others in the room. Look them in the eyes for more than one second, like 3 or 4 seconds and then smile. If the atmosphere is all about joking and flirting than a "good look in the eye" brings on the message that you want to bring accross.

I've tried it and when you look someone in the eyes for just a bit longer then people suddenly SEE you isntead of taking you for granted in a bigger group.

How do you let someone know you like them (at work)? Just be a friend to them, chances are if there is a lot of flirting going on between co-workers you might get lost in the "shuffle".  Be a friend. Be able to talk to them about anything, you don't have to be an expert.  Just "BE YOURSELF" whatever you do.  You may want to start by asking a question, or his opinion on a subject which does not have to be work related.  Then, if you're still interested you could always ask him to lunch.

It's just frustrating because I want to get to know him better but rarely get a chance to chat (blew my chance to do so yesterday now that I think about it) cuz we're in completely different departments and I usually finish work later. He also doesn't seem to go out that often after work when others do. It would just be easier to ask him to do something outside of work if we were already interacting more.

Original Post by splitrail:

"How do you let someone know you like them?"

I usually make them a nice breakfast instead of just handing them a cup of microwaved instant coffee and pushing them out the door.  

I just love that awkward conservation,  the morning after;

"you're still here?"

"Yeah, where am I?"

Ahh, romance.

btw what's a good way to do the touching thing to show interest? I'm not a touchy person, so it just seems weird/awkward to me to do a random touch on the arm while you talk.

lol dont do the touchy thing if you dont already have regular conversations with him..  Girls have it easy when it comes to pointing out that that they like a guy so posed to vise versa..  Id go with the extra second or so look in the eyes, It may feel like 5 seconds but its not,  1 or 2 seconds is fine for a "get the message" look, any longer than 2 seconds tops and hel most likely break eye contact and get alittle wierded out   and dont worry about falling into a friend catagory with him..

This my be alittle off topic but why is it that once a guy falls into a girls "friend" catagory the chance of dating drops like 30%, but when a girl falls into the "friend" catagory the guy doesn have a problem dating her?

Agreed.

Agreed....just say so and see what happens.

I just started dating a guy I have a big crush on. He asked me out after I told him he was the most beautiful man I've ever seen (and meant it), though he swears that's not why he asked me out.

I'm a little over the top, but somehow it works for me. My point is, just tell him. Even if someone isn't initially interested, knowing that you find them interesting will get their attention. It also displays confidence, which both sexes typically find to be extremely appealing.

boo, I was at work 14hrs today and only saw him from a distance. There's a work Christmas party, so if anything I should have a chance then.

skookum, I thought of that (they may get interested, knowing you are), but it's still kinda hard when you don't know what they think.

systemdrop, he already asked me for a hug once when we were leaving the bar (his reason being cuz I added him to facebook, kinda sounds like a lame excuse?), but there's always hugging and stuff going on between people so I don't know...but anyway based on that I wouldn't think he'd mind touching. We did have a second of solid eye contact the other day too...