Someone to listen and some advice.

I know this isnt really the right place to post this but i really need some reassurance, support and advice. very early tommorow morning i am going away for a long weekend for a friends birthday to stay at her house abroad. however, the only person i know going (and there are quite a few) is her and i am positive nearly everyone else going knows each other. i know it sounds silly to worry so much about something but i really am. what if they completely leave me out of things etc? i really wish i could just stop worrying-does this all sound silly?? i am also worried about what to do about food there but hopefully it will be ok. i am 20 by the way! my mum is also away and i am paranoid i am going to forget something.

sorry i just needed to vent and would love some words of advice.

hey... dont feel bad. im 25 and i still struggle with some of those anxieties. how did you make any of your past friends? at some point you and she (they) were strangers. and this is exactly what the scenario here is. you are strangers with these people but by the end of the weekend... you will have made new friends.

dont panic. you are who you are. you have something to offer and your friendship is worth something. at 20, girls are a bit more grown up so there shouldnt be a problem with exclusion. make an effort too. dont sit in the corner waiting to be included. when im introduced to new people even in a social setting i always shake their hand and say "hi, lovely to meet you".

 make a list of everythin you need to pack now. even for the "just in case" situation. after you've made the list have a browse around the house or your room and see if there is anything else you need.

this weekend wil be fun. just try to relax. enjoy it

same here, dont worry about it.  just be you, and everyone else will love u.  by the end of the weekend, ull have made more friends :)

have fun and take it easy, no need to stress yourself

I'm nearly 33 and have the same problem of stressing about it.

Like other people said, make an effort to make new friends.  You might come up with a funny story or two to share when the need for new conversation arises.  Come up with questions you can ask people you meet about themselves - that is a surefire way to keep a conversation going.

The worst thing you can do is huddle by yourself and look lonely.  Put a smile on your lovely face, walk up to someone, and introduce yourself.

I'm like this too!  One thing that has helped me is to realize that I don't have to chatter away with strangers to be included in things.  Even if you don't have anything to say, just joining in a conversation and listening can make you feel included.  And you'll learn things about the new people that you can incorporate into later conversations. 

People always seek out a good listener.

hi,  i think this is a fine place to put this and i am glad to see these responces.  wow i am proud of u for going i am 28 and often am too worried about those things to go places,  ahhh new people and i am sure i missed out on a lot of cool things.  good luck,  and worse comes to worse its only a weekend.

I am alot older then you and I still get paniced at the thought of going somewhere new and only knowing one person, my husband.  I think you will do great.  As the person above said everyone loves a good listener.  I find that it helps to ask them about themselves.  I have to go to alot of social events for my husbands work.  So I really am familar with being in a room full of strangers while my husband is out doing his thing.  You will do fine.  Go and have FUN.

Hey, I'm the same! Look at it as an opportunity to meet new people. They'd probably be just as anxious as you if they were in your position. Good luck and have a great time!

I am 23.

As far as packing is concerned you can make lists.  Think of every possible situation you may find yourself in on this trip and write down what you will need and how many.  I used to do this when I was younger and it really helped.

As far as the "strangers" are concerned...just this past weekend an old friend of mine got married.  I only knew her family, the bridesmaids (because I met them at the bachelorette party) and two other adult guests (old friends from church).  I was put at the table of the college friends...I knew no one.  All you can really do is be relaxed, yourself, and make contact.  "Hi! My name is [..].  What's yours?"  You can as what they study, what school they go to, practically anything.  I don't think they would be so rude as to not include you in anything. And if they are that rude and you'd like to be included, walk over and say "What are you guys doing? May I join?"

Bottom line, try and relax.  Easier said than done, I know.  Break a leg!

Just going being yourself and look at it as you are going to get new friends, all will be well don't stress or worry about something that hasn't even happened.  Hold your head up and be blessed you are invited and get the opportunity to meet new peeps.