Someone talk me into having a baby shower.
Alex and I have been discussing this baby shower crap for a few days because honestly, we really don't want one. We want to celebrate that we're bringing a little tax deduction into the world but the thought of "Don't Say Baby!" and that stupid toilet paper game, along with everyone wanting to rub my belly like it's a good luck charm and telling me the horrors of their pregnancies are kind of making me really anxious to lock myself in a room for the duration of my pregnancy.
Alex's brilliant suggestion was to do the same thing we did with our wedding: throw tradition out the window and have, you know, fun? That thing that most people forget about when they plan events meant for them but are allowing other people to barge in on their bar tab fund. He suggested going back to where we went for our awesomer-than-awesome wedding reception to have a "Moly's pregnant and wants cheesesteaks!" party, Hooters. I like the idea of rocking out at Hooters for a day with good company, but the thought of taking the attention away from cheesesteaks and boobies to focus on my gut is still making me hesitant.
So talk me into a baby shower, and don't mention that I get presents 'cause I don't want anyone to buy me a bunch of **** they feel is necessary to my child's development in colour schemes they enjoy that my spawn won't even be able to use until it's like, a toddler. Kudos to the dude who bought a walker for a newborn, now nobody can buy it for the first birthday party when the baby is actually closer to using it.
Oh, and I need everyone to chip in to send me PG as a congratulatory gift.
spawn...i like that one
Have a cheesesteak shower! Yes!
I'd try to nab Pg for you, but she looks kinda squirmy. I doubt I could hold on to her long enough to stuff her in my trunk. Sorry.
Well, as a bonus, you get free baby loots! You can never have too much! Plus, there is CAKE. And corny games! CORNY GAMES AND CAKE!
i started boycotting baby showers several years ago, so if you think i'm going to be a party favour at yours, forget it. when you're through that whole smelling-like-breast-milk, not-allowed-to-drink phase, we'll talk.
Awww what's wrong with baby loot?
If you don't want a shower, as the mother-to-be, you don't need to have one. :) My cousin didn't want one and so she didn't get one. She still got loot though, lol.
Original Post by cptbunny:
Well, as a bonus, you get free baby loots! You can never have too much! Plus, there is CAKE. And corny games! CORNY GAMES AND CAKE!
There will be gifts, games, and CAKE there!!! Some people bring things for the mom too. Like: Maternity clothing/items/oils-lotions for your belly/etc. Things they'll need during the pregnancy part. :) -Depending upon how early on the shower happens.
Shoot. I'd go for the cake alone. =-P
Original Post by cellulitedelight:
cptbunny, that's the exact reason I don't want one. Baby loot and corny games.
Think of it like this... It's not really for/about you. It's for baby!
People want to gift you for the little baby coming. It's all for the baby! There will be photos for the baby to see later too of the event.Yay. It's all for/about baby!...
Not so much you in this case. Sooo . . . Stop complaining and have the shower. :)
Congrats!
CD please clarify: do you really want to be talked into this thing, or would you rather have permission to say no?
Original Post by pgeorgian:
CD please clarify: do you really want to be talked into this thing, or would you rather have permission to say no?
^ Good question.
We can support you in either direction. =-P
Personally: I'd have a shower that's for/about the baby and enjoy it. That's me. That would be my suggestion to anyone that's having a baby.
I think you should just say no in a nice way if you consider yourself against/above them. Or: Hate them. By all means buy everything for your child yourself. That's fine. To each their own. w/e.
It's a baby celebration with friends and family. Showers are for/about the baby,imho. For those that want/need/enjoy them for their baby. It's all about the good times/memories/supportive friends-family/Etc. Some people simply have them for the celebration aspect. ( aka the cake! ) They remind guest that the gifts aren't actually needed.
CD-- it seems like we have so much in common. I also don't want a baby shower. If you don't want one, I would suggest not having one. I had a bridal shower, and I hated it SO MUCH. I don't like being the center of attention. I don't like having to be polite and social to people I don't even know.
It's not that I'm not grateful, but I don't want gifts. I don't want more things that I can't use. It's a waste of their money, and actually I think it is more respectful to discourage gifts than to encourage gifts if you can't use the things.
People will tell you--Oh just register and you will get what you want. In my experience, NO that's not true. The majority of my wedding gifts were things that weren't on my registry that I had no use for. I got like 5 cookie sheets and three cut-glass cake plates. Not to mention all the items I got that just don't suit my personal style. I have a huge box in my basement of stuff to give to charity because I can't use it. I got VERY FEW gift receipts either. I'm not going through this again!!!
I really just don't want people to waste their time and money on me.
Original Post by huggitbear:
CD-- it seems like we have so much in common. I also don't want a baby shower. If you don't want one, I would suggest not having one. I had a bridal shower, and I hated it SO MUCH. I don't like being the center of attention.
apparently you've never met CD. she loves being the center of attention. at least on-line attention. i think she just thinks makin' babies is a pretty ordinary achievement and not really worthy of a party.
or she wants a different kind of party.
or she hates women behaving like idiots.
Original Post by huggitbear:
People will tell you--Oh just register and you will get what you want. In my experience, NO that's not true. The majority of my wedding gifts were things that weren't on my registry that I had no use for. I got like 5 cookie sheets and three cut-glass cake plates. Not to mention all the items I got that just don't suit my personal style. I have a huge box in my basement of stuff to give to charity because I can't use it. I got VERY FEW gift receipts either. I'm not going through this again!!!
ugh.
baby showers are a great excuse for those of us who will not have more babies to buy things for baby-- and by the time baby is one, the walker is way over due.
go with it. relax. help your friend or whomever plan, register well, and GO WITH IT. you all arent rich-- let people give you stuff that you might need and take back the rest. if you dont want games-- dont do 'em. (altho-- the baby food testing game is great and I make the mom to be exempt if she wants-- picture it-- people who just spent 20 bucks on clothes and diapers for your baby so that you dont have to EATING PUREED GREEN BEANS which are absolutely disgusting--- but the hawaian delight is YUMMY. eat that!)
so--- my nongood for people who care advice and are low on vodka-- GET PRESENTS, THEY WILL HELP, I STILL USE THE TUB THAT ONE LADY GAVE ME WITH ABOUT A MONTHS WORTH OF DIAPERS (which is about 100 bucks or more.... 9 years later it is hard to remember, plus the vodka factor).
plus maybe i will send you baby clothes-- im the present giver who gives for older kids-- you will get a lot of clothes and such for up to 6 months and then have nothing-- so i give 1 newborn type item and then all 6 months and up so at least you have something.
plus i had a girl. you need some clothes? i have like 20 tubs full. and am aging out of the system....
Hold a couples shower. I went to one a year ago, it was more like a bbq. They had a full bar set up. When all the annoying women set up to play stupid games, I hung out outside with the guys by the grill and guess who showed up, the pregnant woman.
Let the annoying one's have their stupid game, go outside an escape the madness with the people drinking, at the very least it will offer you some comic relief!
jesus. what's wrong with just saying no.
Original Post by pgeorgian:
Original Post by huggitbear:
CD-- it seems like we have so much in common. I also don't want a baby shower. If you don't want one, I would suggest not having one. I had a bridal shower, and I hated it SO MUCH. I don't like being the center of attention.
apparently you've never met CD. she loves being the center of attention. at least on-line attention. i think she just thinks makin' babies is a pretty ordinary achievement and not really worthy of a party.
or she wants a different kind of party.
or she hates women behaving like idiots.
You don't know specifically what I was referring to. Mostly I was referring to the fact that both of us are pregnant at about the same timeline and that both of us do not want a baby shower and that both of us are not all googly-eyed over babies. Oh, we also both work at hospitals. So yeah, we do have some things in common.
Original Post by huggitbear:You don't know specifically what I was referring to. Mostly I was referring to the fact that both of us are pregnant at about the same timeline and that both of us do not want a baby shower and that both of us are not all googly-eyed over babies. Oh, we also both work at hospitals. So yeah, we do have some things in common.
really?
i was referring to your ranting about stuff. and about getting all the wrong stuff. and how terrible it is when people give you the wrong stuff (without the receipts).
i didn't say you have nothing in common; i said you don't know her.
yes. please respond to #9.
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