The somewhat minor annoyances of being overweight -- what are yours?

So, after a little over 3 months using CC and almost 5 months of hard work, today I hit the 10 pound mark!  30 more to go!  And I was thinking... it's really nice that my underwear doesn't fall down anymore.  It had gotten so annoying that since my stomach was sticking out so much, and the waistband of my underwear hit just below the largest part of my stomach, it kept rolling down.  It wasn't so bad when I was wearing jeans which helped to keep them up, but if I was wearing a skirt, I would inevitably have to pull the waistband back up a few times.  Of course now all my pants are starting to fall down, but for that I really just need to suck it up and go shopping for new pants.

We all have the big reasons for losing weight -- wanting to be healthier, wanting to look better, etc.  But what are the little things that nag at you?

Or how about this one: no one ever says anything about you,  that can be a bad feeling too!!!! Family, Friends no has said anything to me about wt, exercising, or anything in soooo long! Guess they gave up on me along time ago and think why bother? so sometimes not saying anything is bad too

1. Sitting down in a chair and praying against hope that it's not going to break.

2. Not wanting to go anywhere because you don't have the emotional energy to be the "fat friend."

3. Being afraid to breathe because you'll think it'll make you look like a lazy fat person, even if a skinny person would be panting. (I've held my breath until I got to somewhere private just to avoid the looks.)

4. Feeling like all eyes are on you when you eat.

5. Never knowing what it's like to go outside and not worry about your weight.

6. Going out and, god forbid, catching a glimpse of yourself in the glass window's reflection just to feel a knot in your stomach.

7. Never looking as pretty as you feel.

8. Knowing that everyone's judged you before you even opened your mouth.

9. Getting the "talk" from your Doctor.

10. Feeling everyone's pity.

I can relate to all of these posts, I hate seeing myself in the mirror as a fat person, having a pair of 38 jeans when I couldn't comfortably fit 36's. Not  being the ripped athlete I use to be.  I hate the mirror, it shows me that Im 52, and need to drop 25lbs.  I related to the comment about having someone talk about your butt. I had a guy at the gym I work out ask "hey Mike, how long did it take you to make that gut) I am just getting my act together to get back on the road to good health. I have been off this site for a while and am glad it is still offering people with weight issues a place to talk and share. Thanks

M

Just feeling like I can't do enough, or am not doing something right.

I hate the word "diet."  To me, that sounds so restrictive and negative.  I won't ever say I'm going to diet, because for me, a diet won't work.  I like the idea of changing my outlook and attitude about how much and what I eat, just eating healthier.  I've never had an easier time than using this website to track what I eat.  I don't think i overdo it, but some days, I just think what's the purpose, I'll never be skinny.

I'm getting married in October, and the last thing I want is to have wedding pictures reminding me of the extra weight for the rest of my life. (My mantra - I WILL NOT BE A FAT BRIDE!)

Its hard to set goals, because for me, I don't really know who to look to as a role model - I'm 5- 10", 220lbs, and luckily because of my genetics, its distributed pretty evenly.  But I wish there was healthy image to aspire to, but I really don't know what or who that would be.  I don't want a role model that's my height but looks like a skeleton. 

-I hate always hearing "you just need to be confident and comfortable with the body you have," or "you're beautiful the way you are."  Well, I'm sorry, I'm not going to lie to myself and think I'm a supermodel when I'm not even healthy.

-Seeing every other news/ magazine article/ advertisement is on some new diet or exercise plan that will help you "shed pounds" and knowing it won't really work, but finding yourself considering it anyways.

-On a similar note, constantly being bombarded with the new weight-loss fad. 

-Vanity Sizing.

-Being conscious of just how much of myself my boyfriend sees during sex.  And waiting for him to leave the room before getting out of bed to get dressed in the morning.

-Seeing plus sized models with perfectly smooth thighs and no stretch marks.  Common!  Where's the cottage cheese thighs, arm flaps and the belly rolls?! 

-Having small breasts with stretch marks.  If I'm going to have the scars, shouldn't I be entitled to something a little more proportional?

-My doctor telling me that it's great that I want to lose weight, but considering my genetics (I'm the only one not considered "obese" in my family) and that I've been overweight all my life, I'll likely not be successful.  Thanks for the support, doc.  Oh, and switching me to a different birth control and forgetting to mention that the most common side effect is weight gain.  Didn't I just tell him I wanted to lose weight?  Isn't this, like, sabotage?

-Speaking of sabotage, telling my mother 3 years ago I wanted to be a vegetarian, and she suggests we get fried chicken for dinner.  Telling my mom a year ago that I wanted to lose weight, and she finds every oportunity for us to eat out, especially at chinese or american food places where everything is fried.  And if I order a salad, she tells me thats not enough, and adds an appetizer to our order. 

And pretty much everything that everyone else has mentioned. 

--Having a cute pair of jeans/shirt/dress that fit you a year ago, and yet when you put it on, suddenly your arms are too thick to fit..

--Feeling the underside of your arm shake with fat.

--CHUB RUB. Freakin chub rub.

--The last time I had sex with my boyfriend, I felt my stomach slap up against his for the first time, and it made me feel absolutely sick to my stomach. I could hear the sound so many times and it made me just want to get off and leave.

--Seeing your big fat tummy in pictures.

--Not feeling attractive no matter what you do.

--Not looking cute in pajamas like a skinny girl would, or cute when you wake up in said pajamas :(

--Back rolls. For some reason these irritate me far more than stomach rolls do. Back rolls should be banished.

--Remembering how you used to feel and look and getting depressed at how horrible you feel now. 

Oh well, here's to working on it!!

I *love* some of the exercise suggestions:

- Thin folks who say that when they start to gain weight, they just go for a 30 minute walk every day and lose it all off.   I have NEVER lost weight with walking as exercise, unless it is on a treadmill jacked up to 18% incline.

- An older friend who suggested I join Curves as a lady she knows said all the girls she works with joined and they are all so skinny now.  Um... thanks but I already lift weights 4x per week and work out with a personal trainer 1x per week. 

I hate having huge thighs and calves.

I'm so glad I live 3000 miles from my hometown so I don't have to worry about running into anyone I knew as a child.

I have given up on ever wearing a swimsuit in public again.  My thighs will never be fit to be seen in public.

I think shorts are evil.

Original Post by kassanovella:

 

--Not looking cute in pajamas like a skinny girl would, or cute when you wake up in said pajamas :(

--Back rolls. For some reason these irritate me far more than stomach rolls do. Back rolls should be banished.

I HEAR YA very clearly.

yep, cute girls in PJs, esp. in the morning, with messy hair. fat person could not pull the messy hair look and PJ like a thin one, they would just look wrong

back rolls... do not even get me started. saw a video recently )yes it is on the internet) containing me. i was used to the front of me so i was not suprised BUT the thing contained a few seconds of me from behind, slowly enetering some door. oh well. it was - horrible.

- Not letting myself go to the beach or pool in order to not discontent other people (No one likes seeing a fat person in a bikini)

-Not being able to wear summer clothes... So it gets realll hot because i try to cover up with cardigans etc..

-Not letting myself by new clothes! I refuse to buy new clothes until i get to my goal size.. The size i am at now shocks me.. i went up 4 sizes in one year!

-The way my face seems blown up in comparison to last year when i was at a healthy size.

-Forcing myself to not get romantically involved with someone... i know what guys think when they see me, its all quite negative. 

-Being at least 1 and 1/2 bigger than all my friends.. it looks very wrong in pictures.

All of this because i'm overweight!

- Chub rub -_- it's inhuman.

- Eating infront of people - I always ate alone or covered my mouth cuz I was ashamed that I'm fat n still eating!

- Panting when running in school - all the other skinny girls were running like they were freakin' enjoying it *_*

- Getting used to th idea that I'll never be able to wear a bikini, n hatin' all the girls who can.

Wow, you guys really covered most of it.

 - Whoever mentioned the exclamations of "That's you?!" - for me the comments are of photos of not even that long ago...

- Thighs rubbing/'chub rub'; jeans which fray between the legs, getting rashes there

- Snoring! Sharing a room with someone is embarrassing

- Finding it difficult to walk with your friends/family etc as they can work much faster and for longer distances and it hurts for me to do it for too long..

- Terror about a doctor weighing you

- 'Helpful' comments from people (for me, it's my parents and sister that are constantly making jabs at me)

- Pretending to be the 'funny one' that can lightheartedly make jokes about being fat when really you hate the way you are

- Being able to grab handfuls and handfuls of fat

- Feeling like however much you diet you'll never be able to wear a swimming costume again

- Underwear rolling under my tummy

- Lots and lots of clothes that used to fit and are unlikely ever to again; especially favourite items or pieces that were presents

- Double/triple/quadruple chins

- Sweating too much (especially under my breasts)

- Not being able to buy clothes from shops ALL my friends shop in...and I could 2 years ago

- Bulging over the sides of chairs; feeling like I'm going to break them

- Feeling really tired, really easily

- Feeling like I'll never be loved and certainly won't be confidant to enough to have a sexual relationship with anyone any time soon

- Remembering compliments from when I was slim and thinking I'll never get those back; kicking myself for not believing/appreciating them then when they were true

Simply, guilt and paranoia.

Guilt that eating in public will get you funny looks. When I was 165lbs or so, I would screen the area for people I know, then eat safely. If somebody I know then were to walk by, I would HIDE! Sounds illy, but it was stressful for me.

Paranoia that your friends look down on you because of your weight. This bothered me, way back into 3rd grade, I still remember going swimming for a friend's birthday party, and I had no fun because I just kept myself wrapped in a towl the whole time.

wow all of these are MAJOR not minor annoyances for me.. mostly i hate when i meet someone new and they tell me how pretty my face is.. like i dont know how ugly the rest of me is... or when people say u should try and be a plus size model u would do great or when u go to a party and stand the majority of the time no matter how bad ur feet are hurting because u dont want anyone to notice that your behind fills up the entire seat and then some! Or your scared the chair will get up with you when u stand up..or when people are always saying.."you loook like you've lost weight" when you havent lost a pound, or when your out with your friends at a bar or club and theres always that one jerk that hits on you and says i love me some big girls! dont they realize that is not a compliment??? omg.. im rambling now anyway the chub rub gets me mostly in the boob area.. summer time is killer, sweaty boobs, booty and thighs! envious of all your cute skinny friends that dnt understand what being overweight feels like.. and they always wanna go to the beach! UGH!!!

ugh.. and dont forget the knees hurting getting tired after walking up a flight of stairs, sweating without the tiniest exertion while ur skinny friends havent even broke a sweat...oh and this is horrible for me,the owner of my house mustve wanted to torment me, ther are mirrors EVERYWHERE! my bedroom closet doors are mirrored, and i have a master suite style bedroom, so two seperate closets..oth mirrored, and my dresser also has a huge mirror on it so no matter what i cant escape my reflection, and turning over first thing in the mirror to see me so fat and uncute in my cute skinny girl pj's.. great way to start the morning...

I'm sick of thigh rubbing, my double chin and sweat.

Worrying about if a guy genuinely thought i was attractive, and loved me for me, or if he was just a chubby-chaser and just loved my fat rolls.

now i have never responded to any of these postings before... but i have NEVER heard so many discouraging words before on this website!

stop being so hard on yourselves... you're on a site which is so supportive of who you are now and where you would like to be with your weight loss goals.

the first step to loving yourself is accepting who you are, realizing that you are beautiful and deserving of love, etc. JUST THE WAY YOU ARE!

there is no magic number on the scale which fixes your insecurites, it can help, but it doesn't make them go away.  once you lose the weight it will turn into your nose is too big, or your arms are still too flabby, or your teeth aren't straight...

take joy in all the little beauties that each of us have, love the little flaws which make you unique and laugh a lot each day...

once you have pride in who you are its that much easier to pass on the extra sweets, and feel up for a hearty good for you walk...

please - stop with the pity parties... its not good for you!

  All of the above, and FOOTBALL SEASON!  I hate hearing the announcer tell a players' weight and knowing that I weigh more.  

The little things that nag me is the apprehension of meeting somebody I have not met before. I always worry about my stomach and how my weight to hip ratio LOL is doing :-). Of course I want to look better, I would really like that and I would enjoy the health benefits of that as well. My Best Neil

It's funny that you mention 'the underwear'!!!

Just within the last couple of months, I have been battling this myself :-( ....it's such an UGLY feeling. The front ROLLS down below my sagging belly, leaving it FULLY exposed.

I had originally lost about 40 pounds, then gained 50. I finally hit the whopping 200 mark on my scale. I was ready to quit eating for good.

I heard Valerie Bertinelli say something about weight loss that is the bitter truth. Alcoholics can quit drinking, smokers can quit smoking...but we, as overweight people, still HAVE to eat. It's seems we have the hardest battle to overcome.

Good luck to us all...