The somewhat minor annoyances of being overweight -- what are yours?

So, after a little over 3 months using CC and almost 5 months of hard work, today I hit the 10 pound mark!  30 more to go!  And I was thinking... it's really nice that my underwear doesn't fall down anymore.  It had gotten so annoying that since my stomach was sticking out so much, and the waistband of my underwear hit just below the largest part of my stomach, it kept rolling down.  It wasn't so bad when I was wearing jeans which helped to keep them up, but if I was wearing a skirt, I would inevitably have to pull the waistband back up a few times.  Of course now all my pants are starting to fall down, but for that I really just need to suck it up and go shopping for new pants.

We all have the big reasons for losing weight -- wanting to be healthier, wanting to look better, etc.  But what are the little things that nag at you?

Hi, I am new, weigh 241 lbs, which is great if I were only 2 ft taller. 5ft2 is not so good. what do I HATE about being fat?

How about feeling powerless? Having the good hair, the fancy jewellry, the shoes, all trying to comp for the fact that i am FAT? VERY FAT. I HATE feeling sad all the time, I HATE feeling UGLY, I HATE almost everything.

You go to the fat stores to buy clothing, even there nothing looks good, I am sorry but sideways stripes are so not helping.

How about not being able to enjoy sex? Doesn't anybody hate that?

Feeling so fat and depressed that you don't even want to do it, and realizing that your partner doesn't really want to either, because they are put off by your weight? And in a good day, when you feel up for it, feeling completely crippled by the weight and tired after a couple of minutes?

OMG YES!!!! I forgot about that, quite possibly because its been so long.

• Can't fit in a booth comfortably
• Have to put my car seat way back to not feel crushed up to the wheel
• Waking my wife with snoring or skipping a breath
• Everyone thinking "Big Guy" or "Big Dog" or "Big" anything really is a nice nickname or term of endearment
• The stare...that moment too long that people look at you
• Riding a roller coaster and having to trade to the special "fat seat" so you can fit under the drop bar
• Not being able to take my kids to a water park or pool without feeling bad about myself
• Vacation pictures that you don't want to keep. The time was fun but you can't stand to look at yourself (same for pictures of my best friend's wedding. I was best man but looked horrendous and huge"
• Having to shop all over town to find clothes that actually fit right
• Chub rub. Chaffing on the thighs.
• This is a little TMI but sweat under the man-boobs.

Not being able to lose that awful belly fat.

I am 5.3 with a very short inseam. I started my journey in June at 176 lbs and I am down to 158 and have lost lots of inches everywhere except in my waist and belly fat area.

I walk/jog 4 + miles 6 to 7 days a week, strength train with a Bowflex 3 X week and stretching Yoga 6 to 7 days a week and aim for 1200 calories a day. Also do some cross country hiking on weekends or during the week as time permits.

But the darn belly fat is still there. In fact it seems to be reshaping into a denser round shape. UGH.

u know whats annoying? feeling sick and tired all the time. my dr wants me to start taking HBP medicine. i refuse to do that. I have to work hard at getting my weight down. sigh..

My number one is that my son, who is a Cub Scout and thus duty bound to care for his body, points out that *I* don't/didn't.  O-kay.  I tell him I know, and that's why we have rules about what we eat/when we eat it.  But my biggest personal bugaboo about being overweight is the "fat slap" - when I run with him and can hear my belly fat slapping against myself.  Disgusts me everytime.   Also just about anything else on this thread, too!  Ditto plus about wanting to get off the meds, which I could maybe do if I lost 60 pounds.  But with metabolic syndrome, lupus, PCOS, hypothyroidism, highblood pressure, anxiety and depression - I'd have so many doc appts just to keep the dosages right it's overwhelming!

Breathe, relax....One day, one meal, one choice at a time...right!

Shelley

I, like some others, find the 'boys don't find me attractive' stories a little upsetting.  I'm all about losing weight to be healthy and i excercise religiously and love it and the way it makes me feel.  i run 10 miles 4 days a week, dance and do yoga. yet i hate it when people look at me skeptically when i say i love exercising because they're thinking i'm doing it because i need to lose weight.

also, sometimes when i run or dance, my thighs slap together which is completely mortifying. 

i've lost 18/20 pounds so far and have 13/15 to go.  I feel so much better but when i go shopping, i think i'll fit into sizes MUCH smaller when, in reality, my size may have gone down 1 size in some brands.

also, i hate the commenting of family on my weight.  they do it in a way like 'good, you lost weight' like their saying it is why i did it.  not for me or my health. drives me insane. the cherry is that those members of my family (namely my aunt) are morbidly obese.  who are you to judge?

i also hate hate hate the constant fear of gaining back everything i've worked so hard to get off. everytime the scale reads 2 pounds heavier than my lightest weight, my heart breaks.  i understand this is natural fluctuation but my instinct is to be afraid that i will again turn into the girl who is winded the fastest.

• Chafing between the thighs and aching feet when I walk to lose weight

(It's almost like the universe is saying "OH NO YOU DON'T !)

• Can't sit in a booth
• Having to buy clothes that are too big everywhere else, just to fit my belly
• Feeling embarrassed on the rare occasions when running is necessary
• People who think it's OK to tease me just 'cause I'm a guy ("suck it up dude")
• Feeling old way before my time
• Knowing that best case scenario, it's another year before I reach my goal
• People who say "oh come on, you can cheat a little"
• ICEBERG LETTUCE, what have I got to do to get a decent salad in this town?
• Watching other people stay skinny on a diet of pizza, DR. Pepper and Cheetos
• Trying to pick up something off of the floor
• It was bad enough being short, but being fat too? Oh God don't I feel sexy?
• If I even look at salty food I'll gain 5 lbs of water
• Parasites trying to get rich by cashing in on other people's obesity
• Conflicting diet info on the web

Omg, this is such a good post. I've never put my feelings down to paper (well, keys to website..?)

I hate it when:

1. My thighs rub against each other

2. I have to constantly adjust my top so that my rolls of stomach fat don't show too badly.

3. I always have to wear a cardigan or some form of cover up to conceal all the fat.

4. I can't wear some types of clothes.

5. My back fat shows, especially the little rolls in the back.

6. Family comment on my weight like it's totally fine and they are free to critisise any part of my body that they would like to.

7. I have a huge crush on a guy but have no courage to speak to him or pursue anything more than friendship because I am so scared of rejection because of my weight.

8. I always get out of breath in the smallest things.

9. going into a clothing store results in humiliation because I can't fit into something and refuse to buy the next size up because it would just confirm that I am FAT.

And finally...

10. Anyone in a group of people brings up the topic of diet and exercise and how much they do, and then proceed to discuss it at length with everyone including you. Just makes you feel even worse about yourself.

Aaaah...that felt better. Btw, currently a size 14...and hating it.

i went on a short trip with someone i'm attracted to and his seatbelt in his jeep barely fit. my body image ruined a relaxing couple of days.

There's this pair of pants that I hated wearing last summer because I thought I looked fat in them now they cant go any further than the middle of my hip

Ok, so i'm not morbidly obese, but I do have some complaints! I hate how exercise takes up so much time. It's easy to say "i go to the gym 4 times a week" but when you work full time that extra time really keeps you away from your family and friends. Exercising is such a lonely thing.  And it's so boring. There's only so many songs before you get bored and closed caption tv you can watch! There just isn't enough time in the day.  I want all that time back to do things i "really enjoy". 

I hate how other people 'can't gain weight'.  That really pisses me off. I gain a pound or two in a few days if i don't watch it. And the weight comes off "sooo slowly" i've only lost 10 lbs in almost 4 months and i've worked hard a lot of the time. It sucks. So much work for such little reward. I still have 20 more to go. Ack!

Double chin. Can't wait for it to be gone. Some people don't get double chins when they are fat - because their chin is just shaped differently. Me, i have a cleft in my chin and it's always there, it's just the way my jawline is.  I only have a normal chin when i look UP!

3rd boob. Once i thought I had a tumor because i had such a bulge in my armpit/sideboob area. Seriously.  Then my doctor was like "nope, that's just fat." guhhh... damn.

I can't bra shop in the cute bras. Can't fit. And if i put it on i pour out the sides, top etc. and my boobs are like bags of cottage cheese.  bf loves 'em but i think they are gross and fatty and blobby. I only have a choice of white, beige or black. They just don't make huge bras in nice colours unless you go to a specialty shop and drop like $60 to $100 on it. Plus i'm a 36DD and that's a rare combo. It's a lot easier finding 40DD. or 36D.

when i lay on my side and my stomach pours off and pools on the floor/bed. like a big log of blobby fat laying down.  Gross.

when i sit on the toilet and my fat belly sits on my legs. and that i feel like i have a fat vagina. like under the hair should be smaller. and less chubby. it just looks too plumpy. 

I know i shouldn't complain too much because at the most i've only ever been 160 and i'm 5"3 but still.  I've never been "thin" in my life.

Double chin and thunder thighs!  Can't fit into any clothes.  Not wanting to buy a size up so buying the pants that are a bit tooo snug, because I will lose weight and fit into them.  Then they are still in my closet, unworn, when they go out of style.  Thinking I look fine when I leave the house, then seeing photos of myself afterwards and thinking Gawd I am so fat!  But then I can look back on pictures of myself when I was younger, and I thought I was fat then, and I think to myself now, man I wish I looked that good now!  I looked good then!

Or if I tell people I am running a half marathon or whatever and I just kind of get a skeptical look.

Wow! I think that I literally sat here and ready all 8 pages of this thread!  It made me sad and happy at the same time because I feel like this website has really given me the motivation and commonality that I have needed to take my weight loss journey seriously.

I have tried several weight loss programs and have felt really isolated - even with a consultant at Jenny Craig.  I just always felt like my goal weight was ultimately up to me and I didn't have to pay anyone to tell me that...or at least that as been my realization.

So many women going through the same small challenges everyday...its so hard to be an over weight woman in today's society. I feel like almost every post on here chronicles some type of achievement ... but it is overlooked because of the skinny stereotype. 

Here are a few things that really annoy me about being overweight:

1. Constantly thinking about it - obssessing almost.  Always having that inter-monologue going on with yourself saying - if you were skinny you would look so much better in the outfit you have on, or that guy would have definitly taken a double look if you were 30 pounds lighter.

2. Chub Rub - I never heard it called that until I got onto this thread.  The other day my husband saw a pair of my jeans and was so shocked to see the inseam had been worn paper white thin.  I was so ashamed...I didn't even know what to say to him.  I will be so elated when the day comes and I can have a pair of pants and not have to throw them away just because of this reason.

3. Taking pictures - When I got down to 138 I was taking pictures of myself like CRAZY!  Maybe within myself I knew that I had better document this period in my life where I was skinny (but still didn't think I was at the time) and realize how wonderful I looked and felt.  Now its like...please don't take my picture beacuse I am going to have look at it at some point.

4.  The unworn clothes - I have tons of clothes in my closet that do and don't fit.  Its like I've collected pieces of clothing from every dieting phase of my life - it sucks to look at it.

5.  Deathly scared of the weight gain - so scared to get back into this lifestyle and then to just gain all the weight back.  I've already done it once so why not again? 

6.  Being young and fat - I want to wear a bikini (I have never worn one in my life) it kind of makes me tear up to write that and read it out loud.  I am 25 years old and I have never worn a bikini.  I don't feel like I look good in trendy clothes and stick to what fits me best and I can feel comfortable in.  Walking in to a store and having the dread of trying everything on just to find something that fits...not something that you like.

Maybe I should print this list off and put it somewhere I can see it everyday to remind me what I am working away from. 

I want to look and feel good and I am so worth it.

Here's to the journey.

The granny panties....and yes mine rolled down too ...I used to tell myself I was losing weight ...NOT...Im just about ready for new ones ..Is it sad that I am really looking forward to that!!! But the thing that makes me most sad is my friends...they are sooo supportive ...but they are all a smaller size ,we exercise together and it kills me when they gripe about how they need to be this  size when I would kill to be their size.... I have gone from NO exercise to doing the tred and circuit traing 45min...and Im up to 2 miles...ive lost 10 lbs in a little more than a month Im very proud of myself even tho I still have 70lbs to go.Im 5.2 and almost down to the 200 mark...my 1st goal is to be 199...

I can definitely relate to the inner thigh chaffing, incredibly uncomfortable, in addition to the darker patches on the inner thigh, which I absolutely HAAATTTTEEEE!!!! Next would be the fact that it never fails that a bigger person winds up being friends with some size 4, 6, or 8 person that is also much taller than they are only exaggerating the situation even more. Having to wear all kinds of artificial foundation i.e., girdle and/or corset type of thing. As if it weren't uncomfortable enough being over weight to deal with that torture is just too much.

when my size 2 friend complains about being soo fat while eating french fries with a cheeseburger!

airplane seats and the fact that when flying on a tiny plane i always end up with someone equal to or larger than me!

finding a shirt I love, in my current size, then trying it on to here at least one button scream for mercy.

When I was pregnant people didn't notice  When I had the baby people kept saying 'Wow, you hid that well, I didn't know your were expecting.'

It made me go home and cry a few times because I felt so much smaller but they didn't think I looked any different than I did at 9 months pregnant!

Oh, my goodness. for some reason I thought it was just me!  I can TOTALLY relate to this one:

"I am glad I no longer have to dust my entire body with baby powder to prevent chaffies (like chub rub, but everywhere)...so I no longer have a bathroom covered with a fine film of white dust, that was really annoying. Yay!"

My bathroom is still powdery and will be for some time yet, I think.   But just knowing that other people are having the same problems makes them somehow just a little bit less troublesome.

My biggest pet peeve, though, is people who are sooooo critical of your struggle to lose weight when they have NEVER been over weight due to some genetic fluke! 

And those people who sit in front of you and eat half a fried chicken, mashed potatoes smothered in gravy & all the other trimmings while they criticise your salad without dressing because you sprinkled a tiny bit of shredded cheese on it or something!  Arrrrgh!  Makes you really want to just smack them!