sorority

ok so im having a hard time deciding between a.k.a and beta..as a sorority and i just want to here the dish on sororites is anyone in one that they would recommend....a recognized one...or does anyone know anything about these two

Sweetie, I know enough about those two to know that a question like this on the internet could possibly prevent you from pledging either, depending on the individual chapter.  Get out in your community, meet some people, learn about the woman and the organizations as a whole.  There are good websites like greekchat.com where you can pick up bits and pieces, just please don't ask a question like this because you might not like the responses.  :)  Definitely do some research on your own though, that would be a good thing no matter where your heart leads you.

So glad we dont have things like that here

Min, you reminded me of my trip to Europe.  I encountered a bunch of Aussies and they all said "Wait, Sororities and Fraternaties are REAL?  We thought that Hollywood made them up!"  I wish.  I was terribly amused, though.

Hehe, i know they are real but they seem really odd to me. I mean come one, we're not five where we don't like the boys!

I think sororities are just a way for people to think that they are special.  Can I pay you money to be part of your clique?  OMG..the parties they throw for themselves are ridiculous. 

Just seems like a rich boys/girls club. Sorry your daddy doesn't pay for your Lexus.. you can't join

I would say avoid the sorority thing too... it doesnt look very good to other people.

Two points - one, it's hard to say what your opinion is of a sorority if you weren't in one.  It's like saying sushi doesn't taste good when you've never tried it.  :)

Second, lexyt789 is asking, to my knowledge, about two sororities that are part of the Divine Nine.  Which if you've never even heard of them, well, there is no way for you to know what you are advising against.  I'm not saying that in a mean way, it just is what it is.

These are world class service organizations that have done so much good in so many communities.  They have life-long members, and just happen to acquire most of their members at the college level.  This isn't what you see in movies like Legally Blonde...  I don't know any sorority that is, but certainly not these two.

They wouldnt let me in (im male ><)

But, I know i wouldnt be interested in any girl that joined a sorority... it speaks a lot for the kind of person they are.

i am in a national sorority (alum now) and i will encourage my daughter to join one as well if she has any intrest in it. for those of you who have never been a part of one, please don't bash them, you don't understand them or what they're about and that's a real good way to really make some people mad...i'll refrain from being more tacky than that... lexy: i don't know about the sororities you're asking about but i encourage you to get to know the girls the best you can and go with the one that seems to have girls that you can relate to. promise, if you stick with it...it's worth it!

Little hostility there, loriklorik...  I prefer to actually know a bit about a person before I decide I dislike them.  If they are judgemental for no good reason, I think that speaks a lot about the kind of person they are, myself.  To each his own. 

I find it rather interesting that anyone would dislike someone because of their involvement in a service organization (which is what the Divine Nine are).  Heaven forbid people should volunteer their time.  :)  Anyone out there a member of the Junior League, or perhaps a Free Mason?  Guess it speaks a lot about the kind of people we are.  :)

Sarcasm aside, my point is that being open minded and actually knowing what it is you are attacking can be helpful.  Not that I expect people to always be open minded, but it would be nice.

right on pandajenn!

It wasnt hostility! I just have some standards...i know a lot of other guys that wouldnt really care what you do (just as long as you have sex with them).

I find it rather interesting that anyone would dislike someone because of their involvement in a service organization

Really?? You can tell a lot about a person by the types of things they do (and even more by the things they volunteer for!). Just have to be aware of things...

you can also tell how judgemental a person is that can "dislike" someone after finding out they were/are in a sorority...there are over 250,000 women in my sorority...you really think you would dislike all of us?

Its not that i would hate them or completely ignore them (still have to function in society!). Its just they wouldnt be people i would be interested in dating. Is it so strange to have standards? o.O

Heh, dont worry about it too much... most guys dont really care what you do. Like i said before, as long as you sleep with them, they are happy.

I bet the prejudice stems from sororities like many of those around here.  Most of them are full of rich, snobby girls who won't even look in the eye of another person outside their "class"... or anyone else living in the city for that matter.

You can literally walk down the street downtown in my city and point out which girls are in sororities.  I have met a few myself, and needless to say they are often shallow, self-centered, and materialistic to it's highest degree.  And while there ARE those girls in sororities that aren't cliquey preppy biatches, the bad ones ruin it for the good ones. 

It's not fair, that's true.  But I am quite sure that the reputation that sororities (and fraternities too) have gotten is not for no reason.

My suggestion to the OP: meet the girls, get to know them as much as you can... and take everyone's comments with a grain of salt.  I'm sure you will find plenty of wonderful girls wherever you go... hopefully you just don't have to search too hard or too long to find them.

Good luck.

I think AKA and Beta were the 2 sororities involved in the last Keg Kill when I was a senior in DKE. Good times. The Beta pledges won, I remember that much...man, those girls can DRINK! They had that keg floating in less than 2 hours. We made shirts for the party and everything. The slogan was "Who can (consume) the most?" Sorry, I have to keep it clean for the impressionable ones on the forums.

Anyways, my advice to you is join either. You're gonna have a blast!

EDIT: Kidding! Neither AKA or Beta was involved in the keg kill...I am sure either sorority is a good choice =)

I get SO SICK of this whole "they buy their friends" and "they're all rich/pretty/thin."
Yes, as plm0187 said, there are some bad ones that give the good ones bad reputations. But you know what, there is reverse snobbery as well. I can't tell you how many "dorm girls" I had classes with who wouldn't give me the time of day after they found out I was in a sorority. My family is lower middle class, I am overweight (and was from the time I pledged until the time I became an alum) and while I wouldn't consider myself a hag, I'm no Reese Witherspoon.
The Greek Community does more for our town than any other campus organization. We raise hundreds of thousands of dollars every year for very worthy causes, we donate massive amounts of blood (without which the Red Cross would be in desperate need), we volunteer at the Boys and Girls Club and the Special Olympics, and we clean up highways. Also, Greeks as a whole have a higher G.P.A than non-Greeks. We're not all dumb, blond, ditzes. Every PanHellenic sorority has minimum G.P.As to retain membership. And no, we don't all major in fashion either. I have sorority sisters that graduated with me who are now in law school and med school...and doing well.
Do we pay for our membership? Yes, we have dues. But they don't pay for our friends. They pay for the activities we do, for our house mother's salary, for the food that we eat, for a lot of things. It's not as if I'm going up to some girl and saying "Here's a fifty, be my friend."

Lexy - I am unfamiliar with A.K.A and Beta, and really as far as choosing a house, it shouldn't be based on what you hear from other people. Go where you feel the most comfortable with the girls. My mother and sister were both in the same sorority and when I went through formal rush I was sure I was going to join the same one. But I ended up getting along much better, and feeling more comfortable with, the girls in a different house. So I joined there. They were the best years of my life, two of my sisters will be in my bridal party, and I know that wherever I go, I can always call that house, home.

I was in a sorority (not either of the ones you mentioned), but only for the last 3 semesters of college.  My experience was not the best ? I don?t have particularly good memories of it because for all of the talk of ?unified sisterhood?, there sure were an awful lot of cliques, most of which centered around which fraternity they preferred to hang out at on party nights.    And I suppose being used to being an ?independent? factored into it as well.  When I first joined, there were a lot of impressive people there, and it was a good place to be.  I think the thing to remember with any organization is that you have to be compatible with the people that are there at the time you?re there.  In my case all the people that attracted me to the sorority left the very next semester, and the people that ?moved up? in seniority just weren't as compatible (which affected who they recruited as new members).  Not to mention that I didn?t go through formal rush, so I didn?t realize what I would eventually have to do as a member to put on a formal rush ? which is something you couldn?t even pay me to do again. 

Anyway, that shouldn?t discourage you from looking at the two you mentioned.  Despite my experience, the organization did do a lot of good service work, and was a great resource for homework and test help.  Besides, as I mentioned, each chapter of any organization is different, so the best thing to do is to meet the people, see if you?re comfortable, and base your decision off that.  Go with your instincts and don?t let a high pressure rush determine your answer.

Good luck!

No matter what you do in life or what you decide to be a part of people are going to stereotype you. Whether you become a doctor, a lawyer, a social worker, part of the peace corp. or (heavin forbid!) a sorority girl.

Lets remember that she stated she was having a hard time deciding between the 2. She was not asking our opinion about her deciding to join a sorority.

I think the best advice posted on this topic is you should really try to get to know the girls in each group and decide which one you think you would fit best with.