spouse weight comparison

i hope i dont sound weird by freaking out about this. my husband and i are exactly the same hieght and he only wieghs 5 pounds more than me and has a decent amount of muscle. i want to be much more petite than him because it feels so acward. has anyone else had these concerns?

i want us to both be healthy and dont want to sacrifice my own health to weigh considerbly less but its been on my mind everytime i pick up a snack or portion out my meals. for the record he says he thinks i am beautiful the way i am, and thinks i look fine, but its about how i feel about myself. i just would like some input.

Comparisons are less important than the absolutes... If you're both a healthy weight for your height - BMI 19 - 25 - then you're not overweight and you're fine.  If you're overweight and he's underweight it would be a different story.

bumping as I moved thread to a more suitable forum

I hear you....... ~~ my guy was always, I thought, in much better shape than I was..... then we got in better shape together a few years ago jogging and doing Atkins (the devil).

I spent all last summer getting more fit to be a bridesmaid and am still working towards my goals in the new year.  I started at 230+ and am now at 180.  He, on the other hand, in the last 2 years, has gained 60+. I don't care --  I think he is seriously hot, but I can tell lately that he is feeling.......less secure? 

I think we all go through that period......  Can you start walking together or riding bikes or something fun spending time together as well as getting more healthy?  ( :

Just wanted to say BEEN THERE, DONE THAT -- totally normal...... (hugs)

are you ready for this one......I married a guy 8 1/2 years younger than me, that weighed 165...then, after being married went down to 145 (he was also in grad school)....I was 147...talk about being insecure.  I weighed 103 when I married him.........anyway, 5 kids later, 8 weeks with the best aerobics instructer/best friend...I'm 125 and he's 155....(he by the way doesn't ever work out, eats anything and everything he wants, drinks beer....it's rediculously stupid...and definately not even fair...) I look at a brownie and gain 5lbs......now, I find I'm eating prunes on a daily basis for fiber intake......so yea...it's just not right.!!!

My man is also younger than me (6yrs) and he's only a few inches taller, and when we met he was heaps skinnier than me... and weighed a good few pounds less! for ages I honestly felt as wide as a bus (I'm a classic pear shape). He always tells me I'm beautiful and he loves me no matter what size I am. I joined here to help lose a few pounds so I could fit my ball dress, I started eating healthy and the right amount of calories I felt so good on the ball night about myself that I really didn't mind how I look next to him.

I can relate for sure. My boyfriend weights 2 or 3 pounds less than me but is a good 6 or 7 inches taller. He has a great body. What's funny is that since I started losing weight so has he because I refuse to have any bad food in the house and we live together so he's eating much better too. We also play squash together and ride our bikes. He keeps saying that all his friends are telling him he's looking so thin and he replies that it's because of my diet! haha.

My first goal is to be at least 10 pounds lighter than him!

*raises hand* 
I'm also in the Outweighs-Her-Man club :(  Sigh. I don't like it one bit.

I've always weighed more than my husband.  He is shorter than me by about 3 inches, so that's part of it, but he is just healthier in general than I am.  It's part of my motivation to weigh less than him for once :). 

Of course since I started eating better, he has also modified his eating habits, so his weight goes down and so does my target...lol.  

I can relate to this one!

I'm 5'2" - 222

He's 6' - 135 (healthy lean bicyclist)

I feel like Jack Sprat's Wife! 

Oh, sheesh .... I outweigh my wonderful DH by a good 100 pounds!

=^..^= MOLLY

My previous boyfriend and I were the exact same height and he was only 10 pounds heavier than me.  I hated it.  Much happier now! 

just when i think i am one of a kind i find a post that i completely relate to! :P My hubby is 6'1 and 180 and im 5'4 and 175 ugh- i lost weight when we first started dating down to 123 and he was prob only 155 and 7 yrs later w/ my homecookin and 2 kids look what happened! I love how he looks and he says i look great and dont want me less then 145, but u ladies know how it goes!  I really want to look good and feel good- At least i will  know im healthy when i can go walkin and playin w/ my kids w/o runnin out of breath- i just got to get past my lil plateau i am havin!! Good luck everyone!!

omg, its so nice to know im not the only one that is bothered by that! thanks for the support!

I completely understand, as I commonly dated guys skinnier than me. My fiancee was skinnier than me as far as weight one year ago, but he was SKINNY. Now he's gained about 12 lbs and I have lost 14. Unfortunately I still feel larger because I am curvier... but that will never change and I know he definitely wouldn't want me to lose my lovely hips!

But I must say I am so happy I am less than him now!

My wonderful DH is a healthy, fit, dashing, handsome fighter pilot.

And I weigh about 100 pounds more than him.

But I USED to weigh 191 pounds more than him ... I'm sneaking up on him!!!

MOLLY

I've been married almost 25 years - and other than my wedding day (for which I was a ridiculous 120 @ 5'8 1/2" tall) I've always weighed more than my husband. BUT, he has been gaining, as we tend to do in the mid-40s, and I'm starting to lose with the help of CC+. SO . . .I think that by our anniversary (my goal) I should be 20 pounds lighter than he is now.

And remember the old saying: "Dear God - if you can't make me thin, at least make my friends fat!"   just kidding.

Carry on all you "weigh-more-than-your-man" club members.

I can sure relate to this one!  My husband is about 5'7" and I am 5'6".  When we first met he was 228lbs. and I was 190.  Now He is 185 lbs and I am 207.  I absolutely hate this.  He reminds me that he is still overweight, and that he loves me no matter how thin or how heavy I might be.  That's great.  I am glad that he feels that way, but it is still very hard for me to be heavier than he is.  I sure hope I can can continue my shrinking trend.

Yeeeeeha!  When my husband and I weighed over the weekend he actually was 0.5 lbs heavier than me!!!!!  Been married 27 years and I've always weighed more than him, so I am pumped. 

My ex-husband only outweighed me by about 10 lbs throughout our marriage. When I was pregnant I outweighed him by 40+ lbs.  He is a foot taller than me and very lean.  He never minded though.  Even now, he is dating a girl who is quite a bit bigger than me, so its just his preference.  However, right before we split, I lost 30 lbs and was 40+ less than him. 

It used to suck trying to wear one of his t-shirts and not fitting into it.  When he was in high school, he tried on a friends girlfriends size 1 jeans and they fit!

Well, he is now a whopping 167 (haha, I actually got a text message from him one day and him celebrating that he finally broke 165 after being that or less for 26 years).  He is also going to the gym and getting bulkier.

I on the other hand still struggle with loss and am at 142.  He thinks I look best at 145 or so and doesn't think I should lose weight.  Hmmm, why are we divorced again?

Just kidding, size wasnt the reason we didnt get along. Good thread.  You are not alone!

Edited to add: My current fiancee outweighs me by almost 100 lbs and he is a foot taller than me also.  I was just as attracted to my skinny ex-husband as I am to my current fiancee.

When I first me my husband we weighed about the same (although he's taller).  I've lost 20 pounds since then, and he's gained 20.  It does make me feel more comfortable.  Every new pound I lose, I feel more and more petite.  But I feel terrible because I don't want him to be unhealthy just because it makes me feel better!! 

Although, one of my biggest fitness/weight loss motivations is to be able to out-hike him.  He is so fit!  It will probably never happen, but it's a fun goal to aim for.