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I need help! i am finding it hard to stay on my plan if i hit any unexpected twis; it's so frustrating! i'll be going along, planning, measuring, eating properly and feeling great and suddenly i have a day where the wheels fall off = maybe i get up late and don't have time for breakfast, or i have to drive out of town for a meeting for work (head office is an hour away from my office), something that takes me out of my routine. when that happens i'll eat as close to my plan as i can but then over the next few days i find myself sliding. i'll forget to record my food right after i eat so then do it at night when i get home. then i'll be too tired when i'm home so i'll do it the next day but in between i might eat something i should not - like a donut! then i don't want to record because i don't want to admit i ate a donut...then it's downhill from there.
today is the first day i've recorded my food for about a week. i'm so angry with myself. this is exactly how i ended up weighing 313 lbs... i have to lose weight - i have a heart problem (genetic), a knee that i tore all the ligaments in last year (again, if i wasn't so fat....) and of course the feet get sore because i'm carrying an extra 150lbs. so why would a normally intelligent woman in her 50th year have trouble understanding how important this is? i just get so angry with myself...and i feel bad for my husband - he loves me but i'm not as active as i once was because of this extra weight and he's always carrying the extra load (pun intended) because i'm worn out or whatever.
Basically it's just ridiculous. i know i should love myself more, care for myself more but i just...i get so fed up. and then i eat.
so any words of encouragement, commiseration, support...all would be appreciated.
Hey noynek,
Don't be so down on yourself, we all have those days! At least here you are back on track...yeah. Just let those days be what they are and try to record it anyway. Usually, for me anyway, if I account for it the next day I'm right back to normal.
No need to fret or beat yourself up, and remember you have plenty of support right here on c.c.!!
I just read a blog on the CC site about self-compassion. You have to be your own postive motivator, and tell yourself it's ok, and support yourself as if you were supporting another person. Sounds weird, but I am going to give it a try.
http://caloriecount.about.com/blog/partners/s elf-compassion-new-secret-being-slim-b555043
I feel just like your do!!! I get angry with myself because I do well and then I mess up and feel like it doesn't matter and depression (just a bit) sets in. but since I have started CC (which this is my own private time, only you people know that I am doing this) I have written down my food and logged it all!!! Today was not pretty--ate at McDonalds. My Dad had dialysis today and so I gave my Mom a day off, well Dad eats at McDonalds because it is cheap. Anyway--what I mean is that at least we are doing something!!! If it takes us one day at a time to do that then so be it--we have to stop being angry at ourselves, and learn to accept ourselves. I may not love how I look but if I love who I am then I will soon become a better and happier human being. I am trying to ward off some family health issues too--there, I finally admitted that I may be scared and need to change my habits. Hang in there, I believe we are all struggling but with each others support, encouragement, and feedback we all will be successful in time!!!
Really all that matters is if you get back up and how quickly you get back to business. Apart from all the other voices of support that you will hear particularly on this site, the most important one is your own, cause that's the voice you hear all day long. Make is loving, supportive, encouraging and patient.
You can do it.. !! Go take on the day.
This is so me! I couldn't have described myself any better than this. I just joined this site and am so looking forward to getting this encouragement. We can do this together.
You need an action plan. This allows you to plan out your strategy for lving a reduced calorie lifestyle. If you cant forsee your possible issues, try to think of what you can do in certain basic situations. Planning ahead means you already know the answers and you can prepurchase anything you might need.
Falling off the wagon is a sign that you should get back on the wagon and not just lay there wondering what happened. So you made a bad choice, we all do. Boom, its in the past and you dont walk forward with your mind focused on whats behind you. 1 lb a week is the goal. Thats not alot and is easily attainable with minimal diet deviations. 5 lbs a month can be expected. 52-60 lbs a year. Its a snowball. Focus on Weekly, Monthly and Quarterly goals rather than beating yourself over daily steps.
YOU CAN DO IT!
