Now he's gone my cat's spending ALL her tme at my neighbours house, they let her in, feed her ect, it really pisses me off. its not your cat, you know she's well looked after don't feed her. I've told them this, but they won't listen and now i've not even seen her in over a week, i assue because she is over their house.
I used to bring her home and tell everyone to keep the windows shut and not let her out for a week or so, so she gets it in her head this is where she lives, but my mum lets her out because she hates her, and my neightbours feed her because apparently they can't understand simple English,
I'm moving out in a few weeks and plan to take her with me, but do i go over there get her back and keep her inside till the move, and hope she doesn't go back over there or wait till the move and go and get her and take her to the new house?
Theres no other options really considering neightbours don't listen to me, but techincally i could keep her in my house till then. She did used to be a house cat till it got really hot last summer.
Also, my neighbours just lost their cat and i think they are trying to find a replacement. but they just don't undrestand SHE IS MY CAT, MY BEST FRIEND NOT THEIRS, what makes it hard is cat knows my mum doesn't like her so i undrestand why she's tempted not to live in my house...
I just want my cat back..
Woah. I don't really have any advice for you, but I'd be one mad lady if someone was trying to steal my cat. That's really dumb of your neighbors. You should hit them with a sock full of pudding or something.
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I would get the cat back asap before they get the idea in their head to try to keep her/get attached (I hope you have some proof she's yours). Maybe your mom will stop letting her out if you explain 'look I'm leaving soon and will take the cat with me, can you just put up with her for awhile longer, she's important to me and I don't want the neighbours trying to keep her'. Of course if she's nasty/vindictive she might just let her out on purpose then so the neighbours will take her, don't know your mom, so say it how you think is best. If that doesn't fly, maybe try to find someone you know who wouldn't mind watching her for a few weeks. As a last resort there's always boarding at a vet clinic/pet daycare. Or buy a lock for your bedroom door and keep her in there :P (if you can live with a litter box in your room).
Sometimes I do not see Sid for weeks. Then he comes home for a while and leaves again. You can not stop the neighbours from feeding your cat. I use to feed other peoples cats in the past.
You need to sit down and figure what you are really angry about. Maybe go and talk to your neighbour and tell them how nice it of them to help you with cat when cat gets out of the house. Let them know that cat is moving so that they do not worry about cat when cat no longer goes over to their house.
People are obnoxious! is your cat micro-chipped? if not you could have a little bit of trouble proving she's yours. I would go over and try and get her back, ask them to please stop feeding her as you are moving in a week and have every intention of taking her with you, then keep her in until you do.
One other thing, are you sure that your mum hasn't told them that they can have the cat? you say she doesn't like it! if you think there is a chance of that then you need to be sure before you go over and try and get it back.
Original Post by spoiled_candy:
You do not own a cat. The cat owns you and they are fickle about their owners. My cat think that he owns the whole neighbourhood and rules it very vocally.
Sometimes I do not see Sid for weeks. Then he comes home for a while and leaves again. You can not stop the neighbours from feeding your cat. I use to feed other peoples cats in the past.
You need to sit down and figure what you are really angry about. Maybe go and talk to your neighbour and tell them how nice it of them to help you with cat when cat gets out of the house. Let them know that cat is moving so that they do not worry about cat when cat no longer goes over to their house.
I don't think your situation is the norm...
I am with spoiled candy.
If you dont want the neighbors feeding or loving on you cat, then dont let the cat roam the neighborhood. It is very simple. Otherwise, people feel they need to take care of roaming animals, even when asked not to, because it certainly appears that the animal is hungry and wants some love, even when its only been out for a day, much less when the owner hasnt seen the cat in a week.
Cats are either outdoor or indoor. If you are letting the cat be an outdoor cat, the cat will find food and friends wherever it wants. If you want the cat to be indoors, then you cannot let the cat out. Period.
Good luck on getting your cat back and getting out of what sounds like a toxic family situation.
Original Post by drea99:
I am with spoiled candy.
If you dont want the neighbors feeding or loving on you cat, then dont let the cat roam the neighborhood. It is very simple. Otherwise, people feel they need to take care of roaming animals, even when asked not to, because it certainly appears that the animal is hungry and wants some love, even when its only been out for a day, much less when the owner hasnt seen the cat in a week.
Cats are either outdoor or indoor. If you are letting the cat be an outdoor cat, the cat will find food and friends wherever it wants. If you want the cat to be indoors, then you cannot let the cat out. Period.
Good luck on getting your cat back and getting out of what sounds like a toxic family situation.
drea99, you completely missed a big part of the post, though.
The OP is NOT letting her cat outside. It is her mother who is letting the cat outside without the OP's permission, because the mother doesn't like the cat and wants to get rid of it. She does not let the cat out at all.
Basically, she wants the cat indoors, and wants to keep it indoors, but her mother is disrespecting her wishes, and her neighbors are only compounding the problem. It's one thing to feed another person's cat while they're outside. It's another to take them in and try to make them your own, despite the fact that the cat already belongs to someone.
"not let her out for a week or so"
the OP does let her own cat, as well as the mom. There is nothing that says she cant lock the cat in her room. And if the cat is used to going outdoors, its a bit passive-agressive to say that the mom is to blame when the cat gets out, when really the cat was probably crying to get out.
For the sake of argument, lets say mom really does kick the cat out cuz she hates it. Then it really is up to the OP to put the cat in a place where mom cant let it out. Or have a friend hang onto the cat until the OP moves if she feels that even locking the cat in her room wont keep the mom from letting her out.
But I got the distinct feeling from the post that the OP really only wanted the cat kept inside for a week to "relearn" where it lived and that was what the mom wasnt complying with. see quote above. so no, I dont agree with your interpretation based on the what the OP actually wrote (about the cat being indoors till it got hot out and she could, she guesses, keep her indoors now....).
So until the OP resolves our interpretations, lets agree to disagree.
Good luck with your move. I hope that you find peace and happiness in your life.
She came home today out of the blue for no reason other than to get some affection from me, from what i can tell atleast, - she wasn't hungry, and just followed me around all afternoon.
I've decided to keep her in my room during the day when i'm at work, because if im my garden and she is, she doesn't roam, she's a scardey cat really.
I went next door an explained i was moving, and to be fair they were understanding, and said if she doesn't settle in she's got a home with them if need be - good really because she's a bit 'special' - fell out a three story house when she was a kitten... her heads not been the same since
I've told my mum not to let her out unless someones out side unless its absolutely boiling. so hopefully everything should be okay.
New question, when i move her i was thinking of putting her carrier, litter tray, food etc in our spare room for a week or so to let her get used to the new house smell... good idea? My other half smokes so we leave windows open so i'm reluctant to let her have free run of the house in the evenings at least. How is best to move her with the least stress possible? I've bought the carrier, its in my room for her to go in and out of as she pleases because she's not used to them... anything else i can do?
in the US we have screens in our windows so... there isnt an issue with open windows, cats leaving. (altho, one cat of my mom's managed to push out a screen and jump out...)
will you have screens on your windows? (i am assuming you arent from the us, using the word "mum" and it doesnt sound as tho you have a/c)
if not, and even if you do, i tend to lock up the cat when I first move, especially since my cat is a bit crazy when we move. he thinks everything is out to get him then, so i do it to try to lessen his anxiety. my old cat however didnt have an issue with moving.
can you put those expandable screens in the windows to keep the cat in? i know they have them in the uk, i have used them :)
you would need to give her as much freedom in the new house as possible so maybe get some curtain netting or similar that you can tape over the open windows so she can go in those rooms as well - that way she know the extent of her new territory and also not be too cooped up. The whole settling in should only take a couple of weeks. I wonder what the neighbours use to feed her as maybe that wouldn't be a bad idea having the same in the new place.
