since when is it okay for a stranger to tell you...

your too skinny and need to eat something.

i was at a party the other day and this man who ive never met told me this in front of like 6 other people. i wanted to crawl in a corner and die. i already hate my body and yeah so i was left fearing that i look like and unatractive 12 year old boy.

theres something very unsettleing when an older man makes comment about my body, this has happened before and it makes me hate the way i look even more.

the thing is ive recently gained 5lbs and i was actually excited that i kinda have boobs now.

does anyone have any tips on how to react to comments (without looking like a b%#@) like these, i dont think these people meant to be hurtful but it was just completely out of place.

That has never happened to me (Being called skinny) But I HAVE been told bya stranger I needed to lose weight and not be fat. I know it hurts badly, and if ANYONE has that sort of disrespect for anyone they don't even know, then you do not have to show them respect.

Follow the golden rule, if someone treats you nicely, you treat them nicely as well. But if they blatantly come out of the blue and insult you, then don't be afraid to tell him how rude it was.

no one deserves to have their self-esteem crushed, and I'm sorry someone was insensitive enough to do that to you.

It's probably not an insult. Older people have their own language..  like the kids of today do. It was probably meant as a compliment, or he was just a jerk that tries to boss people around,.. I once flirted with a girl who was talking about how fat she was (and she was a size 5..  she wasnt fat)..I told her she needed to eat something. We ended up dating, she asked me out :/

oh BTW, boobs don't make the woman. Many guys will be hitting on you.

Why is it important to not be a bitch?  They don't seem to be too concerned about how they come across, or how you might feel in response to their comments.  Rather than being embarrassed yourself, I would turn that around and make them feel uncomfortable.  People stick their noses in places they don't belong (other people's lives) unless you set boundaries that tell them it's NOT okay.

I would give them a puzzled look and say, "Huh.  I'm surprised to hear you say that.  I wasn't aware that my weight was any of your business.  I'm capable of making my own choices about what I put in my body, so while I appreciate your concern, you don't have the right to tell me what to do with my life.  Please keep your hurtful comments to yourself; if you think that was somehow supposed to motivate me, I have to tell you that it utterly failed."

maybe im being overly sensitive bc my previous boss and co workers used to make comments and it wasnt coming from a joking place, my boss would say "you need to go workout"  "ugh your need to eat more, you have no body fat".

 first off im not sickly skinny okay ive been to doctors before and theyve never said i needed to gain weight. i have meat on my bones i just have a small frame.

i feel like i wasnt respected professionaly and i think that was part of the reason.

i worked with two veterinarians who were very thin also and my coworkers would also make fun of them behind thier back even too thier face and speculate that they didnt eat. 

im thinking to myself if you really thought someone had a problem eating why would you be an **** and make fun of them.

Yeah, I've gotten that a lot to. A few of my standard responses are (some are sort of rude, but hey, some people deserve it)

"So you mean lettuce doesn't count as a main source of food?"

"And here I was thinking I was fat..."

"I was thinking the exact opposite about you!"

"I would really appreciate it if we changed the subject. I'm sure everyone here is uncomfortable with talking about body weight."

The last ones best if you want to be nice, but I like using the other ones as a source of humor (although that can come back to haunt you)

I came back from college for christmas break, and we were having the HUGE christmas eve dinner. Our family friend walks in the door (I hadn't seen him since the summer) and the first thing he says to me..."so I see you've gained weight. The gym wouldn't hurt you know?" this was in front of all of my friends and family. I was mortified.

at the time I didnt say anything, but stared at my feet instead. I regret not opening my mouth and shouting at him. Its none of his business. It is never ok for people to comment on weight. Thats such a personal and sensitive topic. Next time it happens, I plan to be the B***H and just throwing it in his face.

Don't let anyone talk you down.

ive had more people i know do this to me recently...but not a stranger. that's a little personal to say to someone you actually do know, so a stranger saying it must not have that much tact.