Stretch marks

Hi my name is Maria I am 31 years old and I wanted to share my story... when I was 13 due to a really bad depression I gained a lot of weight I went from probably 120 pounds to 160 and that let me with horrible stretch marks on my arms I don't dare to show my arms to nobody and I was thinking in surgery because it just stop me from having  a relationship because I thiink men wouln't like that for some reason I don't know if there's any kind of surgery but at the same time I don't want to be vain but they look so horrible that for some reason I feel that it would be a turn off

Hey, I thought I'd share my story with you, when I was 15 something bad happened to me and at the time I was suffering from anorexia, i was under weight but it wasn't deadly serious, then in the space of 3 years I went from being 112, which for my height 5'8 was underweight to being 230 pounds...which is a lot to put on in a short space of time, but it was my way of trying to deal with what happened to me. I got stretch marks badly upon my arms, on the top bit on the sides mainly...but they've faded a lot and they're difficult to see unless you look closely. I used to HATE them and reuse to wear strappy tops or anything that would show them off. Now I've made peace with my body, through treating it right and losing weight. I realised in the process that the marks I have whether stretch marks or scars make me who I am and I see that my body tells a story. I refuse to see my stretch marks as ugly, they're just a part of my journey. Also there is not 1 person i know whether overwheight or skinny who doesn't have a blemish/scar/stretch mark on their body. I think it's so easy to get caught up in a society that expects perfection when there is no such thing.

As for it stopping you being in a relationship with a man, then this is to do with your self esteem and not your body. Until you really start to love you then your not going to be able to be in a relationship with anyone. value yourself, make peace with your body and realise that your a catch for any man. Seriously, men love women's bodies whatever form they take on, and most importantly he should be into you as a person as well. 

I hope this helps you...

Honestly, when you find the right person, those things really don't matter.

I had stretch marks, and my husband has really bad psoriasis all over his body, (not so much from the neck up, a bit in his hair, but it looks like he was attacked by a swarm of angry bees on the rest of his body)

These were things that we were really self conscious about before we met each other, but the first time that we saw each others "flaws" neither one of us cringed or ran screaming from the room. We both asked questions, more out of a desire to understand, and that was it... We cared about each other enough that the stuff on the outside didn't matter near as much as the stuff on the inside.

Now, I rub cortisone cream on his hard to reach places for him, and he does same for me with my Vitamin E cream ;o)