Stuck. dont know what to do?

Soo.. Winter really sucks.

and the past like 2 weeks ive had this extra pudge of fat on the lower part of my stomach. its really upsetting me. im getting upset when i get dressed of how everything looks. all ive been wearing is sweatshirts and comphy clothes. no one else sees it though. like..i weigh about 135 and im 5'3...thats on the higher end of where i could be.i mean when i started i was 153..then down to 125.

i want to get to 115-120 by may 10th for a friends wedding. i need to. i want to look and feel good again. i want to feel somewhat "Hot" when im with my boyfriend. Summer and summer clothes help me have ambition to lose. and its more fun and i really dont know how to explain it. but i just really need this.

im not happy, im always upset about how i look. im always looking down on myseld and being upset when i eat out, even tho when say im at a buffet i limit what i get by ALOT. and i chose chickens,veggies,fruits,jellos.. etc. so its less cals. but i mean,..should i like..detox by body of all the time ive been over eating the past few days? like eat just apples tomorrow and water.. til dinner for valentines day? or something. i just want to get this weight off. no matter how many times a week i go to the gym for an hour, (which is sometimes more and sometimes less) or if i take in less than 1200 cals.. or about 1500.. i mean no matter what. i get larger it seems.

i want to get rid of the extra fat on my stomach/wiast/hips. it was slimmer before.

what can i do

this is a deep cry for help. pleasE!

For Instance of my diet past 3 days..

Monday
Breakfast-Egg Beater(1/2 serving) between two peices of light wheat toast(35 cal each)
Snack-Apple
Lunch-Cereal(cheerioes with fruit) 1 serving..100 cals.
Snack-Orange,2 peices of chocolate(50 cals for 2)
Dinner-dont remember but my cal intake was about 1400 total..

Tuesday(BAD DAY)
Breakfast-2 whole grain waffles 60 cals each, with sugar free syrup 35 cals.
Snack-special k bar 90 cals
lunch-fat free frozen yogurt,plain
snack-orange
dinner-1/2 cup of vege beef soup(litle broth) 100 cals ish?
snack-ice cream cone
orange
orange again..
and im not sure what else but it was well about 1500..or more.

TODAY
Breakfast-2 whole grain waffles with sugar free syrup
Snack-Apple
Lunch-Orange and a peanut butter and fluff sandwich on light wheat bread, not much peanut butter, more fluff cuz the nutrition was better and lower cal on that.
Snack-2 ch pretzels(50 cals)
Dinner-1/4 ish cup of chicken with sesame glaze(very little)...
       &nb sp;    1/4 cup of crab meat(imitation)..no butter or anything
       &nb sp;     like 10 steemed green beans..no butter
       &nb sp;     some jello
       &nb sp;     soft serve ice cream cone
       &nb sp;     ^^^^all cuz i went out to dinner
Snack-ice cream(yeah bad addiction i need to STOP OR LIMIT) 160 cals.
       &nb sp;   orange

still it is well over 1200-1300 cals. and thats my limit.to LOSE and im not LOSING anything.

i do 100+ crunches on days i dont and cant go to the gym..yoga for 30 minutes on occasion.. and when i can go to the gym i go for an hour..and do cardio. burning bout 400-500 cals.

anyone? i was hoping for some ideas before tomorrow.. .. soo this would help alot

PLEASE :-'(

maybe the lack of support on this site is why im so lost.

I am by no means an expert but what kind of workout do you do? Are you doing cardio or weight training?

Hey now.  Deep breathes.  I can give you support but don't know if I can help you.  I am in the same sorta boat as you.  I am 5 3" and started here at 153 lbs.  and I am plateaued at 140.  I can not get under 140 for the life of me. 

 I eat 1200 calories a day and that is it because I don't really work out alot.  I have been told to up my calories to 1300-1400 so I might give that a try.

I would suggest drinking a lot of water and green tea.  I read that eating healthy fats like nuts, avacodo, olive oil, olives, helps the stomach fat area.

Make sure that whatever you are burning by exercising, you are making up the calories with food because if you are getting less than 1200 calories a day your body goes into starve mode.

Hang in there!! you can do it

wow really.. were alot alike. i definitly am just like that. i dont know what to do. and im getting so upset with my body, it has definitly gotten worse from the start of winter.

another thing someone told me to try is the  zig zag calorie intake.  If you google it, you will find it or search on previous posts.  It is when you eat different calorie amount everyday of the week to trick you body into losing more weight.  I don't really know all the details but it is worth a try.

If you want to put some more emphasis on abs/lower mid section you might want to try a combo of core exercise instead of just 100 crunches a day... like leg lifts, plank, side crunches, and those bicycle crunches.

when i can go to the gym i do about an hour...and i do elliptical and tred mill usually..

ive been eatinl like only fruit all day cuz i have to go out with my boyfriend for valentines for my favorite chicken... chicken francaise i havnt had it in years. but yes its not GREAT for u. and i wanna not gain cuz of it

Original Post by mxo62xo:

i do 100+ crunches on days i dont and cant go to the gym..yoga for 30 minutes on occasion.. and when i can go to the gym i go for an hour..and do cardio. burning bout 400-500 cals.

You are burning 400-500 calories at the gym... what are you burning in total?

Also, you seem to not really know what your total eaten for several days has been, and the stuff you are saying... it doesn't seem that healthy - Tuesday, you put that you ate waffles with sugar free syrup, special k bar, fat-free yogurt (for lunch?? are you kidding me?), 3 oranges, half a cup of soup, and ice cream. In the three days you gave menus for, there was one vegetable - and it was 10 green beans.

I think you are missing something, and that is that your calorie budget should be used for good food, not sugar-free substitutes and miniscule amounts of real food.

My guess of the problem? You aren't eating enough, and when you do eat, you are almost punishing yourself for not losing weight, or splurging on things that have no nutritional value.

Tell us your daily burn, so that we can make sure that you aren't setting too low a limit on your calories, and then maybe people can suggest a meal plan that would be better.

Ok, so I found from an old post of yours that you say you burn 1700 normally. But I'm assuming, based on your height and weight, that 1700 is sedentary. Which means on days that you go to the gym, it's more like 2100-2200.

If you are only eating 1200, you are not eating enough. Even 1500 would be too little, especially if it is mainly, sorry, cr**.

Your bmr is about 1450 (i guessed at your age), and you should NOT be eating below that. On days you go to the gym, you should be eating more like 16-1700.

The reason the tools on this site tell you to eat 1200 is because you don't tell it that you aren't actually sedentary. You add in the exercise as you do it, I'm guessing. Which the tool doesn't know, and so it doesn't give you an accurate recommendation.

Now, you've been at this for a while, so I'm not going to lie - you might gain when you up your calories. But it should start to go down again, once your body realizes it doesn't have to hold on to every bit of fat.

Good luck. I have a feeling you are going to argue, and say you shouldn't eat more. However, you're the one that's been stuck for a while, so you aren't exactly in a position to say what will and won't work. Because clearly eating as little as you have been and exercising as much isn't working. Time to try something new.

I agree with amethystgirl about the nutritional value of your foods. You need a lot more veggies. Fruits are good for you but have a lot of sugar, so watch out for that. Drink tons of water throughout the day. Instead of a special K bar for a snack, try some carrots and celery or a peice of fruit. For lunch, have an actual meal with nutrients (NOT frozen yogurt). For lunch i usually have lean turkey slices on whole wheat bread (40 cals a slice), lowfat cheese with lots of lettuce and tomato. With that I have a salad and brocolli or some sort of veggie. Then for a snack like 2 hours later I will eat a Luna bar or trail mix. A sample dinner for me is usually chicken breast with a sweet potato and salad. Or lean pocket/ Michellina lean with veggies for a side. Give that a try. Basically, try to cut out the sweets (ice cream, chocolate, etc.) or just eat a little bit of that stuff and add as many veggies as you can, they are filling and really good for you. Good luck!

A word about crunches..........an important word............if you do not hold in your stomach while you are doing them, your stomach will not look at flat because the muscles are being trained to form where your stomach is during the exercise.  If you want a flat stomach, hold in your gut while you do the cruches.  You would be better off doing less crunches if you pay close attention to holding in your gut while you do them.  Hope this helps!

The following is a list of my daily food and activity data for this week.  I am down from 144 to 141.5.

 

      Eat Meter   Burn Meter   Nutrition Report   Activity Log   Weight Log Date  Day   Daily Goal cal Actual cal
Total Estimate cal   Calories  Grams  Fat  Carbs  Protein  Grade   Activity Mins  Cals   Weight  Trend 2/11/2008 Mon   1100 1100   1810   1,100 1,464 15 118 129 A   Walking @ Treadmill   40 215   144 144 2/12/2008 Tue   1100 1700
1730   1,170 1655 22 127 131 A   Mild Stretching 60 163   144 144 2/13/2008 Wed   1100 971   1910   971 1280 29 96 98 A   Pilates 60 225   142 143.33                               Walking @ Treadmill   30 160       2/14/2008 Thu   1100 938
1760   938 1386 17 100 106 A   Mild Stretching 20 53   141.5 142.88                               Walking @ Treadmill   30 142      

 I don't feel hungry or full. just about right.  I don't do much exercise and sit a lot.  I ate ground turkey, boneless skinless chicken breast  and lots sea food, such as white fish, shrimps, or salmon, and eggs for protein.  Lots napa, spinach, mushroom, bean sprout, cucumber, or lettuce for fiber and carb.  These food choices are for lunch and dinner.  I sure do enjoy the food.

I ate fruit 3 times a day.  Mostly oranges and apples because they are on season and cheaper.  When I ate blueberries, cherries, or strawberries, I only had about 3-4 finger full of them.

 I ate  maximum 2 pieces of 40-cal only bread per day. 

 I cannot say that my plan will work for you.  You know every 'body' work a little different from each other.  However, I did lost 10 lbs last month.  Hope that help.

Two things to remember. 

 1. Watch out the Sodium Intake 

2. You need to have enough sleep so your body can have enough time to burn those fat/cal while you sleep.

 

Susan

 

 

 

Okay. well acutally i have tried upping the calories thats what made me gain the 10 pounds, and now im stuck again. but the only reason i posted those past few days. i was to SHOW u how bad i was doing those days and why i was DOWN on my self.. cuz i usually dont eat like that...and that i wanted support to help me threw those rough couple of days. which are up to TODAY and will end tonight. cuz tomorrow.. i am starting fresh, going to go to the gym, eat leaner, and eat more veggies.. like lettuce,cucumber,tomato,celery and carrots. cuz i really dont like most veggies.

Tomorrow this is my idea:

Wake up as late as i can because i need to catch up on some sleep.

Get up and ready,eat some breakfast..maybe some fruit with toast and tea or something, go to the gym for about 1 hour..then come home and have some salad,maybe with some chicken? and like 10 carrots..then for my snack 3 hours later have maybe an orange and an apple or something.. then dinner, probably chicken with lemon pepper seasoning,no butter,no salt. and either some more salad..or make it into a toasted sandwich on wheat bread (35 cals ) a slice..no mayo..and then when i get hungry little parts of the day, snack only on friuts and veggies because i dont get enough of them in..

i have to buy my mother ice cream tomorrow because she asked me to today and i didnt cuz i was craving it, and i wanted to have self control, so tomorrow im going to get her some kind SHE likes that i dont. so i wont even THINK about having some.

IF the weather is bad at all and i cant make it to the gym, i will do an hour of yoga, i have two disks..yoga booty ballet, and yoga core.

im not sure how much i will burn off that, but at least its something.
im not okay with my body.
and i know alot has to do with poor eating choices lately,
last spring/summer. i did soo good when sugary-chocolatey-ice cream foods were around, i just didnt feel like i wanted them or craved them. sooo i want to get to that point again, and only have them on occasion.
same with eating out, its been like that past 4 days cuz im never home. but i try to make wise choices when i do.

I know how good to eat when im out, i just got to work on not binging and snacking on bad foods when i am in...

the reason the frozen yogurt was lunch one day, was the amount of calories.. i didnt even want to think about adding more.