Stupid Boyfriends

Just as a warning, I'm going to complain a little bit.

This summer I was running every day, eating well, and I was at 113 pounds. I felt great about my body. I also had a fantastic boyfriend whom I loved very, very much. 

About 6 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I broke up because of complicated circumstances. I was horribly upset and crying all the time for quite a while. I'm definitely not over him yet, but hopefully I'm getting closer. 

In attempt to make myself feel better, I took solace in food. I stopped working out and ate a lot. All the time, I was eating. In 6 weeks, I gained 8 pounds. I feel massive and disgusting, and I don't feel any better about the boyfriend situation. I just undermined myself and made everything worse. 

As of today, I'm back on the wagon. I ran a little over 3 miles today with my dog, and I've been eating good foods. I think I feel better already. 

I'm still working to get over that boy, and I hope things start to get better. It's funny how much this affected me... I just want to be over him already! gah. Well, eating right and working out will provide a nice distraction... 

You sound like a very wise and self aware person!

Okay, so you gained a little weight after as stressful period.  EVERYONE does that!!!

But the impressive thing is that you're fully aware of it, and not only that, but after a reasonable 'break' period, you took positive steps to move forward.

I think that there are a lot of people who never learn all the stuff in your concise post!

This may not be what you want to hear, but it just takes time.  Just don't make the mistake of trying to be "friends" with him right away....otherwise you won't bother getting over him.  Instead you'll cling to the hope that you can win him back.  Keep exercising...the endorphins will make you feel good, which will make you feel better about everything.  Also, take solace in your girlfriends...they're great for reminding you what a fabulous person you are and that there's an even better guy out there for you somewhere.  Journaling or blogging may also help...sometimes it's enough to just get those horrible feelings out when you have them.  Good luck with everything...I'm sure you'll do great. :)

Shoot! I was hoping this was a post about boyfriends wanting you to lose weight. (My problem)

;-)

I'm sorry to hear you had a break up and I am sorry to hear you gained a bit of weight.  I know it sucks.  Don't hate me for sounding cliched, but you have an excellent opportunity. You are are heart broken yes, but you are also free. Free to do what you want only for yourself, including getting healthier again.  Having a relationship is great.  But they require work and compromise and now you are free of those. 

You can be completely selfish in a good way now.  You're the only one you have to take care of.  So, spoil yourself!  Workout, eat well, sure. But also, dig out those clothes you never wore because they weren't his favorites.  Fix your hair they way you like. Watch the TV shows that you like.  Go hang out with that girlfriend you love but he couldn't stand. 

OK, I am going to step off my soap box now.

virtual hug,

meworks

Original Post by kittycatninja:

Just as a warning, I'm going to complain a little bit.

This summer I was running every day, eating well, and I was at 113 pounds. I felt great about my body. I also had a fantastic boyfriend whom I loved very, very much. 

About 6 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I broke up because of complicated circumstances. I was horribly upset and crying all the time for quite a while. I'm definitely not over him yet, but hopefully I'm getting closer. 

In attempt to make myself feel better, I took solace in food. I stopped working out and ate a lot. All the time, I was eating. In 6 weeks, I gained 8 pounds. I feel massive and disgusting, and I don't feel any better about the boyfriend situation. I just undermined myself and made everything worse. 

As of today, I'm back on the wagon. I ran a little over 3 miles today with my dog, and I've been eating good foods. I think I feel better already. 

I'm still working to get over that boy, and I hope things start to get better. It's funny how much this affected me... I just want to be over him already! gah. Well, eating right and working out will provide a nice distraction... 

Am thrilled for you.  Dont get me wrong....and I have no idea how old you are....but do you realize how many women are emotional eaters?  Here you have realized that the bf and you were not working out.  For whatever reason, you have parted.  It took only three weeks for you to then realize that you cannot fix your problems with food.  Congrats!  Totally seriously, congrats!  You could have done true damage to yourself and packed on 25 lbs or more...you only did eight.  Remember this in the future.  Allow yourself to grieve the relationship and concentrate on what makes you feel complete as a woman.

Don't worry! 8 pounds is totally reversable! For me breakups are probably one of the best motivations to be healthy/loose weight/exercise. I guess it works as not only a massive distraction from him and something to focus on but also helps you feel & look better and more confident.......... Good luck, and you will get over him. It can be a really hard thing to deal with but just give it time xo

I have always gotten sexier when single cause I was excited about attracting the next lucky guy  . (In due time...no rush)

Sad times can definitely drive you to food, but you are well on your way back !

Thank you all so much!

It's great to hear from you all who have gone through the same thing. The encouragement definitely made me feel better :)

Keep running. It will help heal you.