SURVEY:How often would you do it?

I'm curious-what's your ideal frequency for sex? And how much are you actually getting it?

I will go first:

Ideal:   2-3 times a week

Actual: 3-4 times a month

As often as possible, and yes.  :D

Ideal 4-5 times/week

Actual 4-5 times/month

It's streaky.  I guess a lot of married types go through the same cycles.  It would be nice if sex drives stayed the same through dating, marriage, kids, etc, but too many external (and sometimes internal) variables throw a wrench into the mix.  I guess I shouldn't complain too much, I've got friends in much worse situations.

Ideal -- as often as possible.  I used to think that 3 times a day would be enough.  Lately I think once a day would be nice --- I'm getting old. 

Actual sex 1-2 times per week (and then self-pleasuring 1-2 times per week). 

Lol... *blush*

Ideal:   2-4 times a Day

Actual: 2-3 times a Day ( when I am with my Bf )

I live 3 hr way from my BF and only see him on the weekends... I have a high sex drive... *Vvrrooooom Vroom!*

Ideal: At least once every other day

Actual: None. Hubby's deployed and even if he gets home before I have the baby, I don't think I'll be up to having sex. I think he'll be slightly disappointed, if that is the case.

haha, this is awesome.

ideal: as much as possible.  at least once/day.

actual: once, maybe twice a week.  (i don't have a significant other, persay...i'm kinda just seeing someone.)

week 1: 3x a day

week 2: 1x a day

week 3: don't touch me or I will kill you

week 4: see week 3.

current: well, its about half of that. I supplement.

Ha ha ha. This is interesting.

 I bet the people who don't want to have sex or have low drives won't post.

Damn. I am trying to get an accurate picture!

it 100% depends on the person, the partners, and the chemistry.

i have a REALLY high sex drive.  i'm aware of that.  but i've also had significant others with whom things weren't so, um...chemistry-filled.  with them, i didn't want it as frequently...  :P

Original Post by future214:

Ha ha ha. This is interesting.

 I bet the people who don't want to have sex or have low drives won't post.

Damn. I am trying to get an accurate picture!

I will! I will! lol

Ideal: once a week, or less

Actual: 3 times a week, or more

Yes, you read that right. I've never had a high sex drive, but my husband wants it at least 3 times a day. So it's a compromise to do it 3 times a week, lol.

Original Post by crazydiamondchrysalis:

week 1: 3x a day

week 2: 1x a day

week 3: don't touch me or I will kill you

week 4: see week 3.

current: well, its about half of that. I supplement.

Yes, this is more of the picture.  My drive varies greatly, depending on stress, sleep and, of course, PMS.  The kids are little, so even month to month it varies.

On good days, when I'm feeling relaxed and rested and the kids are occupied, yes, I want it several times, but usually can only manage once.

On bad days, definitely I get offended if he even tries.  Poor guy.

Oh, and my sex drive has increased since I hit 30.  Before 30, I would have been happy with once or twice a month, if that.

A year ago it was once a day ideally,  but once/twice a week really. Sex to orgasm less often.

Then hubby quit smoking, he wants it every day and I'm more like "Yeah, every other day suits me just fine."

Of course, for the last 2 months he's been on nights, 7 days a week, so I'm back to once a week if I'm lucky, for the time being.

Original Post by puh8suwrux:

Oh, and my sex drive has increased since I hit 30.  Before 30, I would have been happy with once or twice a month, if that.

 oh eff.  if that happens to me, i'm going to have to like, quit working. 

Oh, and my sex drive has increased since I hit 30.  Before 30, I would have been happy with once or twice a month, if that.

I am exactly the opposite.  My sex drive is gone since I've hit 30   It seems like I got to my 31 birthday and *poof!* there it went.  

I'm pretty disappointed with myself but don't know how to get it back.  It just feels like too much work - and I never thought I'd be the one saying this, since I used to beg my (now) husband for it when we were dating! 

On top of that, DH is a consultant and travels Mon-Thu so weekends are usually packed with activities/errands/family events and we are lucky if we're not too exhausted when we come home. 

For me, currently it would be

Ideal: 2-3 times a month (closer to 2)

Actual: 3-5 times a month (depends on stress/activity levels)   

Original Post by caiteliz014:

Original Post by future214:

Ha ha ha. This is interesting.

 I bet the people who don't want to have sex or have low drives won't post.

Damn. I am trying to get an accurate picture!

I will! I will! lol

 

Ideal: once a week, or less

Actual: 3 times a week, or more

Yes, you read that right. I've never had a high sex drive, but my husband wants it at least 3 times a day. So it's a compromise to do it 3 times a week, lol.

 I think women are more likely to compromise about frequency. Also its ok if a man complains 'I'm not getting any' in a public situation its socailly acceptable- if a woman were to say that it would be viewed as if she were emasculating him.

Ideal: 12 times a week maybe?

Actual: 3-4 times a week

We don't have the time, energy, or bodily fluids to accommodate my sex drive.

Ideally: Whenever possible... 

Actual: Now that I'm in residence for college, and my boy lives 1.5 hours away, it's whenever one of us has the spare time to visit. What used to be 3-4 times a week is down to maybe 1-2 a month.

I'm going to be a sad sad girl.

This is Fun :D

Ideally: 3-4 times a week

Actual: 3-4 times a week

I feel lucky that both me and my SO are on the same page as far as this goes. Neither of us are ever deprived, we want it just as much as the other does. We have been together for 6 years...maybe over time we have become more in sync? :D

I love this question!  For me, it depends on how helpful my husband is around the house :)

If he puts up the blinds..... sex

Cleans the bathrooms..... sex

So... ideal:  4-5 times a week

Actual: 4-5 times a month.

We have been marries 6 years and he has yet to figure it out!  You scratch my back....I scratch your itch :)

I'm all over the place.  Poor hubby.

Usually for me it depends on many variables.  For instance my weight, my stress level, his work schedule, whether he's been helpful around the house, whether he's been really cuddly lately, whether he's thrown his dirty clothes on the floor, etc.

I wish I could say that I just have X sex drive and I'd like it X times a week, but for me, other variables just play so much into whether I'm in the mood or not.

Guess that doesn't really answer your question, but at least you're hearing from someone other than the "I want it every day" crowd.