Let's talk about ring placement..

This is mostly for Alex, but also applies to me.  He, however, insisted I ask Calorie Counters so here you go.

Our wedding rings are too big for our ring fingers, but fit perfectly on our middle fingers.  We're debating wearing our wedding rings on those fingers so if people ask if we're married we get the joys of flipping them the bird to show that we are.

My ring can be re-sized, but the next size smaller is too small for me to comfortably get my ring on and off, which I'll need to do 'cause I can't wear it to work.  The same goes for him, and I'd prefer he didn't wear his ring to work 'cause he's a dishwasher/kitchen prep/deliver driver.  Even though his ring is coated with acrylic, I'd rather not chance him beating it to death on greasy, heavy pizza pans.

His ring, however, can not be re-sized.  To get his ring repaired, he'd have to get a whole 'nother ring.  The insurance we bought on our rings covers that, but he's got sentimental fondness of his ring and doesn't want to exchange it for a smaller ring that will be uncomfortable, and pretty damned difficult at that, to wear on his ring finger.

He wants to know what you'd do.  Say to hell with sentiments and get a new ring in a size smaller that he'll have to pry off with plenty of lube, find some way of making his ring stay on his finger (it comes off pretty easily, as does mine but I can deal with that), or wear them on our middle fingers?

P.S.  His ring can't be re-sized 'cause it's Tungsten Car-something or other and black carbon fiber, so they just make a whole new ring.  Thought I'd add that..

i say wear them on the middle finger- start a new trend :-)

Lol.

Or try them on the opposite hand...I know that I wear a bigger size on my right hand. 

Original Post by cellulitedelight:
.  Say to hell with sentiments and get a new ring in a size smaller that he'll have to pry off with plenty of lube,

 Now why did you have to go and say something that just begs me to make a crude comment?

Whatever makes you happy. If the ring on the 'ring' finger is sentimental for you, get a new one for him and have yours resized.

You could also ask a jeweler if they can just use those ring 'bridges' on both yours and Alex's until you can get new ones.

Lookie: http://www.viewithere.com/ring_guard/

I agree with nasuoni.  Go with whatever makes you happy.  If it's not a big deal to either of you to use the typical ring finger, then....well....flip off everyone who gives you crap (hehe)

ring sizers are good too.  (see nasuoni's link) or Google ring sizers.

My husband and I don't even have rings, so that's my take on the question as to contribute something other than a 12 year old joke. Do what you want! That's my motto at least

You may want to wait to have your resized....b/c if that's what you decide to do and you loose more weight, you may have to have it resized again :)

I say...Do whatever makes you happy! If it's wearing it on the middle finger...why not? :)

Heck since losing weight my rings fly right off my hand when gesturing, so before I get them re-sized I wear them on my middle finger, on a chain around my neck and have even slipped them onto hoop earrings, why, well, why not.

My husband also needs his re-sized and is waiting to have them all done at once, however he does not wear his in the interim, not even on hoop earrings.

I vote for middle finger, I think that's a genius solution...both practical and has humour.

I thought I heard many, many yrs ago that wedding rings were worn on the 3rd finger cause a vein from the 'heart' goes to that finger...........

I'm older and traditional, so don't mind me.  It also lets ppl know you are married.

I had one special ring that was loose, and for $1, yrs ago a jewler put a 'metal sizer' thing on the back.  Maybe you could check on that?

When my dad died I found his wedding ring, (he couldn't wear it) and never knew it was engraved and I wore it on my pointer finger, till 2 mths ago, when it was loose and I lost it :(

Even sadder I had mothers rings and lost them when I moved :( :(

I am just not meant to have any type of wedding ring.

my mum can't wear her wedding/engadement rings anymore, so my dad bought her a gold chain to thread them on to.

So now she wears them around her neck :)

The european custom as I understand it is to wear the ring on the opposite ring finger which may be a better fit. Nothing wrong with the middle finger either if neither of you has a problem with it, it symbolizes your union, not anyone elses.

I'd go with a chain around the neck so that you can easily remove it or don't have to remove it, depending on the circumstances of your job. Maybe get a pair of matching silver rings for everyday wear that you can take on and off easily but won't be costly if they get lost, just wear your special rings on your fingers for special occasions.

have you thought about getting a tattoo on the ring finger instead of the ring? That is what my fiance and I are going to do after our wedding, since we are both archaeologists, and dig in the dirt  everyday (wouldnt want to wear a ring in those conditions). That way you could wear the rings you have on your middle fingers, and then have them tattooed on your ring? Just an idea...

I like the ring guard idea.

I like the tattoo idea! I was going to say about the european custom of wearing them on the right hand, but smwhipple beat me to it! I've seen those ring-sizer thing & they look ugly but do the job? My hubby only wears his ring when we go to a function (wedding, funeral, party etc.) as he works outside with machinery so I agreed that it was better for him to go ringless than fingerless?! Wearing it on the middle finger as its fits best is fine- but I don't think people would realise you were married? Just my two-pence worth?...

Original Post by irishmum:

I like the tattoo idea! I was going to say about the european custom of wearing them on the right hand, but smwhipple beat me to it! I've seen those ring-sizer thing & they look ugly but do the job? My hubby only wears his ring when we go to a function (wedding, funeral, party etc.) as he works outside with machinery so I agreed that it was better for him to go ringless than fingerless?! Wearing it on the middle finger as its fits best is fine- but I don't think people would realise you were married? Just my two-pence worth?...

That's what I was thinking, it's kind of the point of wearing the ring? As for the tattoo, well, isn't kind of the same thing as getting someone's name tattooed on you? You'd be stuck with that if things didn't work out.

Original Post by irishmum:

Wearing it on the middle finger as its fits best is fine- but I don't think people would realise you were married? Just my two-pence worth?...

 That is what I was thinking too.  Good looking girl such as yourself will get chatted up a lot more if you wear your ring on your middle finger.

Of course that is not supposed to be the main reason to wear a wedding ring, but it certainly is a factor to consider.  If you are perfectly fine to fend off the advances (and potentially your hubby too), then it's of course fine.

Original Post by vicereine:

Original Post by irishmum:

I like the tattoo idea! I was going to say about the european custom of wearing them on the right hand, but smwhipple beat me to it! I've seen those ring-sizer thing & they look ugly but do the job? My hubby only wears his ring when we go to a function (wedding, funeral, party etc.) as he works outside with machinery so I agreed that it was better for him to go ringless than fingerless?! Wearing it on the middle finger as its fits best is fine- but I don't think people would realise you were married? Just my two-pence worth?...

That's what I was thinking, it's kind of the point of wearing the ring? As for the tattoo, well, isn't kind of the same thing as getting someone's name tattooed on you? You'd be stuck with that if things didn't work out.

 But isn't marriage for life too!? :p

Not necessarily a 'name' tattoo, I was thinking a 'celtic' band or something?

You had a completely non-traditional wedding. Why worry about the tradition of the ring placement? Do what makes the two of you happy. I liked your reasoning of getting to flip people off when you show your rings. It fits perfectly with your personality.