Let's talk about ring placement..

This is mostly for Alex, but also applies to me.  He, however, insisted I ask Calorie Counters so here you go.

Our wedding rings are too big for our ring fingers, but fit perfectly on our middle fingers.  We're debating wearing our wedding rings on those fingers so if people ask if we're married we get the joys of flipping them the bird to show that we are.

My ring can be re-sized, but the next size smaller is too small for me to comfortably get my ring on and off, which I'll need to do 'cause I can't wear it to work.  The same goes for him, and I'd prefer he didn't wear his ring to work 'cause he's a dishwasher/kitchen prep/deliver driver.  Even though his ring is coated with acrylic, I'd rather not chance him beating it to death on greasy, heavy pizza pans.

His ring, however, can not be re-sized.  To get his ring repaired, he'd have to get a whole 'nother ring.  The insurance we bought on our rings covers that, but he's got sentimental fondness of his ring and doesn't want to exchange it for a smaller ring that will be uncomfortable, and pretty damned difficult at that, to wear on his ring finger.

He wants to know what you'd do.  Say to hell with sentiments and get a new ring in a size smaller that he'll have to pry off with plenty of lube, find some way of making his ring stay on his finger (it comes off pretty easily, as does mine but I can deal with that), or wear them on our middle fingers?

P.S.  His ring can't be re-sized 'cause it's Tungsten Car-something or other and black carbon fiber, so they just make a whole new ring.  Thought I'd add that..

My first thought was to use a chain and wear them around your neck. I also agree with moonikins though...

This is your business. Do what ever you want. My wedding ring does not fit anymore and my hubby does not were his because of his job. He works around machines that could hurt him if wears it.

If this is an issue with YOU TWO than buy a real cheapo ring and wear them. I now wear a ring bought for me for my 25th anniversary.   

Original Post by irishmum:

Original Post by vicereine:

Original Post by irishmum:

I like the tattoo idea! I was going to say about the european custom of wearing them on the right hand, but smwhipple beat me to it! I've seen those ring-sizer thing & they look ugly but do the job? My hubby only wears his ring when we go to a function (wedding, funeral, party etc.) as he works outside with machinery so I agreed that it was better for him to go ringless than fingerless?! Wearing it on the middle finger as its fits best is fine- but I don't think people would realise you were married? Just my two-pence worth?...

That's what I was thinking, it's kind of the point of wearing the ring? As for the tattoo, well, isn't kind of the same thing as getting someone's name tattooed on you? You'd be stuck with that if things didn't work out.

 But isn't marriage for life too!? :p

Not necessarily a 'name' tattoo, I was thinking a 'celtic' band or something?

 Right! Craig and I are getting a precolumbian Peruvian design on our fingers, considering we met in Peru on an archaeological dig. I wouldn't tattoo his name. If anything, the archaeological/cultural aspect means so much to me too, AND marriage is supposed to be for life (hence the tattoo!)

Yes, it's "supposed" to be for life. Even if it's not a name, the tattoo would still remind you (and you can't take it off very easily)...I do think it's a cool idea, but just saying.

Hey, CD!  

A good jeweler should be able to size both of your rings so that they fit just right, even if "just right" is in between sizes.  And it should be pretty cheapo.  My jeweler suggested, incidentally, that people should NOT sleep in your rings, because our hands swell at night and that's what causes that ugly indentation where the rings sit, and then makes them difficult to get off.  (Have I followed his advice?  No.  But I should.)

A couple of thoughts about wearing them on other fingers/hands.  I'm pretty sure the tradition used to be that widows/widowers wore their wedding bands on the ring finger of their right hands, so unless you want to send a really weird message, I don't think I'd do that.  As far as wearing them on your middle finger, I think someone else mentioned that this was common in Europe, and I think that's true.  I kind of like the way that looks.

Have you posted a pic of your wedding ring?  I'd love to see it.

I brought up the lack of tradition in our lives in general and Alex was hoping to have at least something traditional about this wedding, like wearing the rings on our ring fingers. 

However, because of his ring it can not be made to fit his finger exactly, he'd either have to keep his current size or go down a half size, which is too small for him to comfortably get on and off.  It's not a matter of a good jeweler or a bad jeweler.  It's simply the style of his ring.

We're going to wear them on our middle fingers.  I do get "chatted up" quite often at the bars but I don't think a ring on my finger will make much of a difference.  Besides, it's just another chance for Alex to come running over and acting like a big, scary husband to creep out flirters.

As for tattoos, we are going to get tattoos together, but not on our fingers.  I can't have visible tattoos.

There's a picture of my wedding ring around somewhere.  Let me see what I can find.

You should do whatever makes you happy.  I personally never take my rings off (my grandmother's engagement ring and my wedding band) and I'm actually getting a little worried that I might have to have them resized as I lose weight as they are getting looser.

My husband on the other hand had a job where he could not wear a ring (working on electronics so it could short them out).  When he got a desk job he found the ring didn't fit anymore since he had gotten bigger.  He was only 18 when I married him and not full grown :)  Therefore he has always kept his on his keyring.  So far 28 years later it works for us.

Original Post by beckyeas:

Have you posted a pic of your wedding ring? I'd love to see it.

She's wearing it in the pic on her profile page, and there's a thread a few months back where she posted pics of her and his rings (not so easy to see the details in the profile pic).

The ring my boyfriend bought me was too big and I was going to get it sized but he was so afraid that the jeweler would steal the diamond (there are stories) that he went out and got a ring guard instead.  It's just a little strand of metal that you can bend and take off and readjust the size.  The only problem with it is that the edges where the guard wraps around the ring sometimes pinch my finger.  It would probably work for your hubby, but I consider it a temporary solution.

And your marriage is far more important then some rings.  My parents have been married nearly 25 years and haven't worn their rings for about 10 years now.  I personally don't think ring placement matters, if you want to flaunt it, put it on whatever finger you want. (I would avoid toes though)

Well my hubby has to wear his ring on his middle finger now as its too big for his ring finger.  It doesnt bother me in the slightest as he still wears it.

As for me I wear my wedding band and diamond engagement on my ring finger in plain sight and still get hit on when my friends and I go dancing.  Single guys dont care about a ring anyways.

Do whats good for u guys and considering you have had one of the most origional weddings ever might just continue that trend.

On a side note Please dont continue that trend into naming your future kids  ;)