Tears & Crying

How do you cry?  I've forgotten what it even feels like.  I wish I could remember...

why do you want to cry?

for me, i have to have a lot of time to myself and with people who really know me to get in touch with my emotions.  this brings my emotions closer to the surface.  being very busy and surrounded by people who don't know me tends to bolster my defenses.

Original Post by pgeorgian:

for me, i have to have a lot of time to myself and with people who really know me to get in touch with my emotions. this brings my emotions closer to the surface. being very busy and surrounded by people who don't know me tends to bolster my defenses.

that sounds all too familiar.  it's been awhile since i've had a good cry...they tend to be absolutely exhausting and wipe me out for a few days.

Sometimes I have the need to cry just to make myself feel better. I always tried not crying in front of people (for the fear of seeming weak!) so I kept it all inside. By myself when I'm frustrated I think of something horrible (for example, someone dying) and it makes me cry. Or I watch the scene when Kat reads her '10 things I hate about you' poem in the movie of the same name. Gets me every time :)

Original Post by jules817:

why do you want to cry?

Because I haven't in 4 years... because when I was a little kid, it always made me feel better... like it was a fresh start.

If I'm extremely stressed out, crying for a bit seems to help me get a handle on how I've been feeling. I don't know why.

I also cry when someone dies in a book that I'm reading, especially if it's a character that I really liked.

I don't know how to make myself cry, I just have to feel sad or stressed and I can turn the waterworks on.

Look for a tear jerker movie, like Old Yeller, and once the water works get going, transfer your thoughts to whatever you think you need to cry over.

I used to be the same way... then I wen't on birth control. Now I cry 3-4 times a week and I don't want to.

I think it's different for guys though, because my boyfriend probably hasn't in a long time (unless he's lying to me ;) ).

A lot a lot. 

How? Think about something that makes you horibly sad, scared and Isolated it works.

Sometimes I even feel as if Im forcing myself to cry, It feels that if I don't cry Nothing will be "better", Or nothing will "Improve", Maybe Im just a psycho girl I don't know.

I don't know how to cry... I just know that I do it EVERY SINGLE DAY. Not even just about being sad or anything.

For example, when I heard about the 70+ year old man that climbed to the top of Mt. Everest, I cried.

When I told my sister that I would save money so her daughter could go to dance school when she gets older, I cried.

When I got married, I cried.

When Brit tells me he feels lucky to be married to me, I cry. Every time.

I cry when I'm angry, I cry when I'm overly frustrated, I cry when I'm happy, I cry when I'm sad, I cry when I'm scared, I cry when I get hurt, even if it doesn't hurt enough to warrant crying. I'm a big freaking ball of tears because I feel emotion so strongly.

i don't very often but it's nice to have a good cry sometimes you feel like it's a new start even if your a bit drained afterwards.

sometimes really happy things or really nice things people have done that you see on tv make me cry? you could try thinking of those types

or maybe like other people suggested watch a sad movie?

I don't know, any time of intense emotion will do it for me.  I once cried while watching an episode of "A Baby Story" on TLC because it reminded me so much of the birth of my boys.

Another sure bet, for me, is watching or listening to a tragic opera - "La Traviata" is a real tear jerker.

If I'm at a funeral where they have a color guard for the deceased and play Taps, that always moves me to tears.

I also cried while recovering from my root canal when pain meds started to wear off and I couldn't take anymore for an hour - but it doesn't sound like that's the kind of catharsis you're looking for.

Well about 4yrs ago it would have had to take an extraordinary tragedy to elicit tears.  I would feel deeply sad but would never allow myself to get the crying stage.  Made me feel to vulnerable and exposed.  Not even watching the live footage the day of 9-11 while walking to class in college provoked tears.  Of course that is then.

Now, touching moments, chick flicks, about anything that is the usual tearjerker gets me welled up.  The change, my husband.  I totally understand not being able to cry.  I actually told my husband when we were dating that I was the least weepy girl he will ever meet.  But once I emotionally got comfortable and safe my ability to cry just happened.  I had a normal childhood with no real tragedies or issues so I don't know where my insecurity came from but it has definitely left. 

My advice is try the classic tear triggers and if that doesn't help resort to other energy/emotional releases.  I always found it theoriputic to scream and yell at the world for a few minutes, release my frustrations.  I would go to the outskirts of the woods or sit in my car alone so it was just me and the divine.  It had similar effects as a good cry.  I hope these ideas help.

What makes me cry is pain, hurt, anger, and things I can't control. Like a very ill child. Or watching something very sad on T.V. that has something to do with a child. I can yell you. I've even cried over the Fresh Prince with Will Smith in it. When his father came into town to see Will, and he promise to take him on the road. Something came up, and he didn't get to go. I saw that last week, and the tears started to roll, when he said.. Why don't he want me man? To his uncle. That made me think of my kids, Father coming in and out when he wants to. And me trying not to be the bad guy, and keep them from seeing him. Praying that they will never feel the way Will Smith did on this show. But they have felt like this before. I had to deal with it. Stuff like that makes me cry. Playing with my emotions is one thing, but when it comes down to my babies.... He should understand by now.. That means war. That's what makes me cry the most. My children, and there feeling being hurt the most. I guess that's the mama in me.

Original Post by lynnhaslost:

My children, and there feeling being hurt the most. I guess that's the mama in me.

I don't have kids but after being on a medical rotation in a children's and a women's hospital I've noticed I get more tearful every time something happens to a child in a movie. I never used to cry so much but seeing this kind of stuff gets me going! I think my maternal instincts are coming out ;p

I think it is just different for guys. They try to not let their emotions show. But you are right, it does make you feel better. What made you cry when you were little? Hurt, disappointment, anger, frustration? Maybe you just don't have those right now????

Right now, my big tear jerk is driving through the little town of Greensburg where a year ago an EF5 tornado completely destroyed the town. I cry EVERY time I drive through there. (Only have to about every month or so) There is 1st of a 13 part series on tonight on Discovery's Green Planet channel that I will watch and I KNOW I won't keep the tears from rolling. In fact someone sent me the video of the 1st show and I started to watch it at work, but had to stop because I was crying.

My dad died a year and half ago and whenever I think about him, I usually cry. My Mom hasn't been able to cry and they loved each other very much for over 70 years, so sometimes, it just doesn't happen, for whatever reason. I am going to take some tear jerk movies to watch with her soon. (She needs to cry........)

Thank you everyone.  I don't know what exactly would trigger it when I was young.  Back then, the smallest of problems always seemed like the end of the world... of course I was like 10 years old too lol. 

The last 3 times I cried were results of the following: Talking to my Grandpa on the phone who was paralyzed in the hospital a few days before he died (I felt like a failure as a Grandson because my parents wouldn't tell us how bad of shape he was really in after his car wreck and talking to him was the first indicator I'd had).  A very emotional moment with my "first love."  I wrote a narrative on it that one of my university professors had published in a journal when I was 18... I'll put it up on my page sometime this week.  And finally, when I had to hold my dog while the doctor put it to sleep via injection.  That dog trusted me with it's life and I felt like I'd failed it.

 

p.s.  Anyone know if crying causes weightloss?  jussssst kidddddding.

Oh buddy......I'm sure you'll soon remember how to cry....I read some of your journals and posts.  I'm guessing you've done some pretty sh*tty things to people in your short life, and everybody knows that what comes around goes around...and when your "come around" comes....the tears will flow.

Original Post by jarredwayne:

Oh buddy......I'm sure you'll soon remember how to cry....I read some of your journals and posts.  I'm guessing you've done some pretty sh*tty things to people in your short life, and everybody knows that what comes around goes around...and when your "come around" comes....the tears will flow.

I'm not quite sure I follow... but ok.