tell us about your "best friend"

i don't really rank my friends that way (haven't since i was about nine) but my closest friend i've known for over 17 years.  in some ways we're exactly alike; in others we couldn't be more different.  when we get together we don't do much: we walk, talk, eat, and drink.  we don't share any hobbies or interests (other than books.  oh - and gambling at the racetrack, but we do that very differently), so unless we're going out of our way to accommodate each other (which we do often), we keep it simple.

i have two friends that i've known since i was an infant/toddler.  we don't see each other often, but when we do, we're like sisters.  we're completely honest, and it always feels like we've never been apart.

i have a couple of dozen friends who would step up any time i asked, for any reason.

and i have new friendships that i'm fostering through food, wine, conversation, and time.  one of my favourite things in the world is to have my friends over and to nourish them with food.

the internet is a tool for keeping in touch (and sometimes for getting back in touch), but it hasn't been significant in the formation of any of these relationships (and aasil, if you're out there, you know i'll nourish you with food the first chance i get, because you're an exception).

so - share!

Original Post by pgeorgian:

we don't see each other often, but when we do, we're like sisters.  we're completely honest, and it always feels like we've never been apart.

I have 2 friends who are exactly like that - they will always be my best friends even though we don't get together nearly as much I'd like.

I have many people who I can talk to for hours and we share an interest in hobbies but we don't socialise outside of the club environment. 

I have a group of 8 who I do see for meals and drinks etc.., 4 of which I know I could call on if I was ever in need of anything.

I always thought that I didn't have many friends but thinking it through I know many people that I would consider to be more than just acquaintances or colleagues.  That's cheered me up on a gloomy Monday morning - thanks.

aw, cool!

yeah, a couple of years ago i'd sold my house and thought i might be homeless for a few weeks before i started grad school, and i couldn't even keep track of the people who offered to put me up.  most of them were people i'd only known for a couple of years, and they owed me absolutely nothing.  it's cool when people surprise you, hey?

I so totally thought this forum was going to be able the horrible fake "best friend" that makes you feel miserable.  I'm glad it's not though.

Anywho, my best friend would have to be my boyfriend, whom I share everything with.  As cliche as it is, I feel more like myself when I'm with him than when I'm by myself.  I know he'd do anything for me and I'd do the same for him.

Other than him though, I don't really have too many people I consider close friends.  Most of them are mere acquantainces, but I guess that's high school for you.

gadzooks, i think you're right - that is high school for you.  i've been out of high school for...um...okay, 22 years.  never been to a reunion, never wished we had a reunion (have been told repeatedly that it's my job to organize one - ha!).

just recently, i've started to get re-acquainted (through fb) with a few of my friends from high school.  it's weird, because while we have some history, we don't know each other at all.  i can't wait to see them again as full-on grown-up human beings, you know?

I'm my best friend! ...only.... it kinda stinks when we fight and stop talking to eachother :*(

I'm sorry.

Its ok, i forgive you! <3

Woo!

get a room!

Original Post by loriklorik:

I'm my best friend! ...only.... it kinda stinks when we fight and stop talking to eachother :*(

I'm sorry.

Its ok, i forgive you! <3

Woo!

 But I bet the make up sex is great!

My best friend was Jen, we would always have really deep conversations, drink fine spirits and wine, and hang out all night.

But one evening, Jen drink a little too much vodka and tried to steal a kiss, so I had to tell her that we were just friends, but she refused to listen to me. She slapped me, and then threw a glass at me saying that I was crazy, that I didn't know what I was missing, that I was... *gasP* gay......

I tried to get up from the couch, but she pushed me back down and tried other things that I won't mention...  so I got up and left. Never saw or heard from her much after that. The times I did see her, she pretended nothing happened, but we never hung out again.

fortius, if that story is even remotely true (and probably even if it isn't) you need to redefine what "friend" means to you.

i have 4 BEST friends, we are kind of like a group, all friends with eachother. i've known one since 2004, one 2005 and two i met in 2006. we all share the same interests, music tastes, love to drink and chat. we dont see eachother as our high school days now 2 are at collage, 2 working and one.. :P in between a course and a job. but when we see eachother it's exactly the same. i also have two more very close friends (one from about 1995 and one 2006) but we dont completely open up to eachother as much as we could, you know. as for acquaintances and friends of friends.. i'm verry shy and find it hard to get to know people in the beginning, so i'm greatful i have my closest friends.

My husband is my best friend.  We met online developed a friendship through e-mail and IM.  Then I gave him my phone number and a few weeks later we met in person for the first time.  I was instantly smitten.  We've been married for just over four years.  He is positively the best human I've ever met in my life.   

My best female friend, Kellie, and I have been friends for 22 years.   We have such a history and we've had some really awful experiences and some of the best times I can remember.  We even lived together for awhile during our mid-twenties and it was so much fun that we never wanted to go out and do anything else.    Now, as thirty-somethings, we're married (not to each other!) and anxious to start families.  I look forward to playing bingo with her when we're 80.

There are a few other friends, people I've known forever, who I consider very close friends.  However, since I left Ohio, I haven't gotten to see them that often but when I do it's like nothing has changed between us.

lolalou - I've very shy, too, and it's so hard for me to meet people.   I have a few aquaintances where I live now but that's about all.

my best friend and i met in the 4th grade. we were both a little chubby, and both had boobs already, so we automatically had something in common. we became friends the very first day, and have stayed that way for almost 18 years. we dated a lot of the same guys in middle/high school, we worked at the same place, so we spent a lot of time together. we had a falling out our senior year of high school (over a boy - a worthless loser who we haven't seen in 10 years!). she went off to college 3 hours from home, and i went to work. after about a year, we ran into each other and started talking. everything was back to normal, and i was so happy! then, about a year later, she moved to georgia and married her high school sweetheart. he's in the army, so eventually, right after we both had our first kids, she moved to germany. i was heartbroken. but she wasn't there long before she got extremely homesick. she was living there alone with a new baby while he was in iraq for the 2nd time. so she came home. now she lives 3 blocks from me, in my old childhood subdivision. our kids are the same age, so we use playdates as an excuse to hang out all the time. we are both vegetarians, and enjoy a lot of the same activities, but we also have our differences, so there's never a dull moment! like one person above has said, i can't wait to play bingo when we're 80!!!

i am truly blessed to have this woman as my best friend. oh and bonus: my boyfriend likes her! yay!

my bestfriend and i only met 2 years ago, and we've only been bestfriends for a little over a year. we butt heads sometimes, and we're very different, but it somehow works.

we walk to school every morning, have lunch together almost every school day and walk home together almost every school day. lolll, that's all i have to say really!

My best friend in high school, I thought she was the best thing ever.  We had so much in common and could talk for hours about loads of stuff.  I really loved her, but things kind of went bad there towards the end of senior year.  I'd been in touch throughout the years with an online friend, Megan, who I adored, but when my situation in real life turned negative, she became my absolute best friend over the summer.  I always had ranked her right up there with Ellen (my high school friend) but I realized once I didn't have Ellen anymore that she and I would develop an even stronger bond, which seems funny to say when I never met her, but I've been in contact with her since I was in the 8th grade!!!  She went to Japan and speaks fluent Japanese, and I actually owe my adoration of my studies to her - because there was nothing I really, really loved until Japanese.  But anyway, as the years went by we got really close, and although we've never met, we both consider the other right at the top of the best friends list.  She told me before that she wasn't the sort to miss people - that she loved them when they were around, but she'd only met two people in her life that she actually missed - her old friend Elise and her current best friend Ada.  But she told me the other day, "It's crazy.  I miss you.  I've never even met you, and I miss you."  I mean, we talk for HOURS almost every night - we support each other, and when something happens, we both know we could tell each other ANYTHING.  She said that to me recently when we were talking about this guy who was creeping me out - she said, I want you to feel like you can tell me anything.  I do feel like that, as does she, and as a result, I'm closer to her than I've EVER been to a friend.  She knows all my secrets, and I know hers, and we both keep them for each other.  I know some people wouldn't understand our friendship, but believe me when I say we have a very close relationship.  She's coming to visit me in May once she finishes school, because she's going to stop in my town on her way back home.  Finally we'll get to meet after 5 years!!!  Megan pretty much defines friendship for me.  I can be a real idiot, but after all this time, we've never managed to have a fight.  We've had a disagreement or two, but never a fight.  We respect each other so much.  She's just really a true friend.

My best friend and i have only been friends for a year..... but since i met her she has always been very genuine and sincere..... she is totally trust worthy and she has many of the same goals and ambitions i have.... which is why we clicked..... We are both young mothers..... and professionals trying to push our way to the top of our perspective fields..... I could ask Erin for anything and i could depend on her to do whatever was in her will to do...... we joke the same.... we have a plethora of inside jokes.... almost a secret language..... but in all those ways we are very much the same, we are different.... which makes conversation so enlightening.....

cheers to best friends!!!

I would have to say my fiance, because otherwise they all leave me at some point. (Of course I wouldn't be marrying him if he wasn't my best friend, so I don't know why I should follow this train of thought any further, haha!)

I won't go into a lot of details because it's just too depressing, but I've been pretty bummed about it recently. As open minded and supportive as I am towards my friends, rarely saying what I'm thinking and supporting their decisions when I find them completely moronic, I find I rarely get the same treatment back. And I'll put up with that for a long time, but eventually I just slowly cut that person out of my life. I don't need someone making me more depressed than I already am. =/

Even my sister and I go through phases where we don't talk. Although, I do know I could tell her anything and she could tell me anything as well. It's better since she now lives a building away from me! It's nice to have someone to complain about the family with who really understands. =P

I tend to stick with male acquaintances. I have one male best friend right now (who will also be the best man at my wedding, so he's close to my fiance as well) and sometimes it's awkward because I could've easily dated him. =/ But he's always very sympathetic and understanding and I can always talk to him when I can't talk to my fiance about something. That really means a lot to me since I have no close female friends that I can just call on a minute's notice any more. He's just really considerate. When my fiance goes out of town, he makes sure to invite me to things so that I'm not lonely (usually with a group so it's not as awkward as it sounds, haha!) And I know he'll tell me what he's thinking and that I don't have to pretend to support something I don't agree with that he might do. He's always taken it as the concern it is and not as criticism. I think he'd be my best friend right now.

Well...My best friend is a guy named Taylor. I met him on a collectors message board about 7 months ago. I just said hi one day and we, clicked. It's weird...we're freakishly similar. Both of us collect cabbage patch kids (yep, he's a guy and he does...go figure!) lol We have the same taste in music, movies, tv....and we're both totally goofy together. I wrote him a poem, because we write them back and fourth to eachother...lol and he made a YouTube video reading and talking about how much we had in common...I think I had known him less than a week at that point..so it was nice to know I wasn't the only one taken by surprise with it.

As for face to face...well I just got back in contact with my childhood best friend, she moved away when I was in 7th grade and I just found her on Myspace. 14 years later :) Then there's my sister in law. My brother has been with her since he was 12, so she basically grew up right with me.

Of course there are others, but those are the ones that stand out in my mind. :)

My best friend is a guy named Ray who is also my fiance'. We met in March '07. He is such an awesome, awesome guy. We are so much alike yet have our differences and I am so glad to have him in my life.

My mother is also my best friend she has been my rock in life and without her I don't know where I would be today. I'm happy to have the relationship with her that I have.

My other best friend, Vanessa is one I've known for 15 years. We don't see as much of each other as we use to since I've moved, but she and I talk often and definitely hang out quite a bit when I come back to my original home. :)

I've stopped having best friends. They were all full of distrust, crap, and babies.

Well I know friends can cause a lot of drama, pretty much the reason why I don't look for new ones. I've had friends that were really close at one time and now act like I don't exist and as much as I try to reach out to them there's only so much you can do before you stop trying to pull a dead horse. I've been heartbroken many times by this and in that I only have a few people I would consider best. My trust is very low in people and if you even have an ounce of it you should consider yourself lucky because it's very rare with me.