how to tell a guy you don't like him?

What is the best way to tell a guy that you really just like him as a friend without hurting his feelings?

ahem: "Sorry so-and-so.  I really just like you as a friend."

haha, that is such a cliche. So that wouldn't hurt his feelings?

in my opinion this is the worst part of dating...

honestly, there is no way to do it without hurting his feelings, just be nice about it, maybe tell him you aren't looking for a relationship at the moment to let him down easy...

just don't string him along because you can't get up the guts to tell him the truth, my most recent ex just did that to me and i finally had to call him out on it and MAKE him tell me the truth.

his feelings are out of your hands.  you can try to be gentle, but ultimately whether he's hurt or not isn't your responsibility.

Just be honest with him. Tell him you really don't have an attraction to him. 

Yeah I don't think you can do it without hurting feelings.  It's just a part of life.  Obviously, just be as kind as you can. 

It's better to just make comments about yourself rather than about him..as in, "I just don't feel that type of connection here" rather than "I don't think you want to date me"  Because then they might try to argue with you.

Also, if you don't actually want to be or stay friends with said person, don't put that offer on the table.  I said it once without actually meaning it, and it totally backfired.

 

 

Okay thanks guys. Yeah the thing is I really do just want to be friends with him and I don't want it to be all ackward. But it probably will be. :/

Things might be a little awkward for a little bit. The best thing to do is be kind and gentle and make it about how you don't feel the connection. Then you need to act as you normally would around him. If you feel/act a little awkward, then he will too.

The hard part is if he doesn't believe you mean it or if he keeps hoping you'll change your mind. If that happens then you pretty much have to cut him out of your life.

Good luck to you. I hope things turn out well.

Put it in guy terms.  Say something like, I'm the New York Yankees and you're the Tampa Bay Rays.

 

He will get it.

Its seems easier to not hurt his feelings (as in make him feel badly about himself) then what you cant do which is prevent his disappointment for what will never be which can hurt a lot. 

"It's not you, it's me - let's just be friends!" =p

Be honest with him and do it quickly.  Be honest but not brutally honest.  If the chemistry is not there; it's just not.  Just tell him privately that while you enjoy his company; you see him more of a freind.  Ouch-  pull it off like a band-aid.  But the longer you wait; the more it will hurt him.  And you can get on with your life.  Consequences may be that you never talk to him; or he will just accept being your freind.  but make it clear that it would NEVER happen; becuase sometimes guys become your freinds with the hopes of more....

Roses are red, Violets are blue.

I just cant see me, going out with you.

I totally suck at that, I'm interested in what others have to say.  I have gotten so "uncomfortable" about it, I just stopped returning calls, etc. (not very kind, huh?)  Another time, I was just a biotch and he finally broke things off with me.  It is the worse part of dating, I usually don't date that much because of this.