telling people you're fat...

i'm beginning to realize i have a really bad bad habit about my weight insecurities--I constantly will tell people that i'm fat --it's like i want to reassure them that i KNOW i'm overweight so they don't have to tell me... but sometimes i think it makes people look more critically at me, or feel obligated to reassure me--and mostly--it is just boring!

does anyone else ever do this? or feel annoyed when other people do it?

i mean i try to not complain if someone is more overweight than me because i don't like when people who are obviously thinner than me complain about being fat--i dont know. i just want people to KNOW that i KNOW.

eh, it's a bad attitude. and maybe a bit of that self-fulfilling prophecy kicks in too...?

Same here. I know im fat and i keep telling people that I am. loll I just dont like it when they ask me " did you gain weight?" like uhh hello what do you think, and if yes, y do u have to ask hahaha knowmsayn?? anyway yaaa i think i can relate to your post:)

i do that, like, when they just poke me to be cute i'll jsut scream "stop, im fat", and they'll just poke someone else.

id rather them not think im in denial, haha

I try to make a joke of it, I'd rather laugh at my weight than someone else.

I'm always calling myself fat, even when deep down I know I'm not, well I sort of do.. It's just a habit I have which I use to protect myself from people calling me fat. I guess I'm very insecure.

I do now even more than i did when I was fatter.  I have lost 63 pounds now and when someone says have you lost weight, I say - a little, I still have a bunch to lose.  That's dumb!  I should just say thanks, thanks for noticing.  I think I will always feel like a fat person, even after my weight loss is complete.

Me too MINDY. I have been overweight since I was 7 so even when I am thin I think I will always see myself as fat even if rationally I know I wont be.

I'm always calling myself fat, even when deep down I know I'm not, well I sort of do.. It's just a habit I have which I use to protect myself from people calling me fat. I guess I'm very insecure.

You are 5'9' and 120 lbs, and you sort of think you're fat? Honestly the people around you are getting very irritated listening to you tell them how fat you are. Maybe you need some professional help because you have to realize you're the polar opposite of fat.

edit: I just looked at your profile. You want to be 110lbs??? I'm worried.

Oh oh me too! I do both. I tell people I'm fat, AND I cant take a compliment. People tell me "omg you have lost a bunch of weight" and I look at my stomach and say "still have a long way to go" or "naw not too much" UGH! I've lost 127 pounds and I still cant take a compliment or point out the fact that i'm still fat.

I honestly dont think this will ever go away. Maybe with a therapist, but that's it.

When certain subjects are brought up, I use phrases like, I'm not "shaped" for department store jeans, shorts, and skirts, so I have trouble finding things.  Or I'm "bottom heavy",  "Pear shaped", ect.

I find it interested that I do this.  It's the truth, I'm not putting myself down really, just want to make sure no one mistakes me for being oblivious about being a little chubberz.

I have recently noticed that I do this too.  Especially with my trainer.  I feel like I keep reminding him that I'm fat.  Like he forgot, LOL.

I've resolved to quit complaining.  I just want to do what he says without having to constantly have a comment or an excuse.  I don't want to be pathetic. *sigh*

Yup...I do this. I really am fat though:D

 

I am actually relieved to know others  do it for the same reason. I simply want to let them know, that I KNOW I am fat. No need to point it out to me, thankyou very much but I've noticed.

I can't take any kind of compliment. "Oh you look nice." I always make a quick, dismissive reply like "I'm fat, nothing looks nice...maybe decent but not nice."I do think I'm getting better about this though, as here lately I just bite my tongue, smile and then say "thankyou".

tiffanilaguna- Your not pathetic! Everyone has there physical strengths and weakness and everyone has to start somewhere!

 

Original Post by mindysmith:

I do now even more than i did when I was fatter.  I have lost 63 pounds now and when someone says have you lost weight, I say - a little, I still have a bunch to lose.  That's dumb!  I should just say thanks, thanks for noticing.  I think I will always feel like a fat person, even after my weight loss is complete.

 I do this too. I think part of the reason for me anyway is that some of my really overweight family members are trying to get me to stop dieting because "Im all going away to nothing". Hello?? Im 5'3 and 166 lbs.....

But with other people who are probably trying to be supportive, I think I do it because I am shy and modest and dont want to draw alot of attention to my body.

EDIT: I just read back through the posts and realized that this thread started in 2007 and got bumped up in the forum....weird.

I'm sorry, I know I'm on here to lose a bit as well, but it always makes me extremely uncomfortable when someone tells me they think they are fat.  Like, how am I supposed to respond to that?

ooops...my fault. I wasn't looking at dates, just browsing through interesting posts. I'll be more careful.

I think it's there's a mix of reasons why we do this.

Low self esteem, bady body image (sometimes even body dysmorphia), attention seeking, reassurance, self-depreciation, irony, modesty etc

For me, it's all of those...but I also know it grates on the people closest to me, who probably just dont see what I am rambling on about - big calves, bingo wings, flabby belly etc.

So then where can we look for support? CC is great,

but friends and family are there for the most part, and I think I definitely am guilty of offloading some of my insecurities and worries.  Rational and irrational.

I dont share such worries with my family, as they just dont get it.  I have two close confidentes - my best friend and boy friend.

Sometimes you just need reaffirmation of your own craziness, or just for once, maybe us girls would love to be proved wrong on something, like the way we think we look?!?

I noticed recently my BF and I are now getting over the honeymoon period - he's farting and picking his nose now with blatant abandon and all my insecurities, once steadfastly locked up in the closet without even so much as a muffled whisper, have now barged out of the closet and loudly exclaiming their presence like a drunken drag queen! lol

I wonder if I should try and zip it, as there's nothing less attractive than a girl constantly whinging about her figure when you're lying in bed with a guy right?!

 

Yes i am guilty of doing this. I've always been overweight, dropped to a really thin weight, still complained about being "fat" and it got on my fiancee's nerves. I did gain weight since then so i do still complain but i try not to complain as much because i dont want to drive people away. I have to admit it is annoying when thin people say "omg i am so fat" when they are just seeking attention.

I think people should be careful when they make remarks of themselves as being fat.  I grew up hearing my mom complain about her weight and it really effected me.  I never really had a weight problem until after I stopped playing sports competitively...I could no longer eat whatever I wanted since I no longer had 3-4 hour bball practices almost everyday.   But even in High school/early college I thought I needed to lost weight even though I was in amazing shape from basketball but my mom's complaints started making me feel worse about myself.  I remember bringing my mom's slim-fast bars to high school and eat them as my lunch.  My friends didn't care because I guess they all had insecurities too. I sort of got of track, but I think if you have daughters you shouldn't talk about being fat infront of them.  Instead we should be doing something to fix the problem like eating healthy and being active.  We have enough pressures from school, media, work to be thin and we don't need our mothers emphasizing it.

Otherwise I think a lot people get annoyed by it.  I think people tend to over-do it and tell people they are fat way too much.  There really isn't a good way to respond to it.  It just sort of makes them uncomfortable and feel like they need to say something to help/encourage you.  I know I've probably told people in my life that I'm fat but I really try not to.  I'd rather make good choices..and  laugh when people ask me "are you a health nut or something?"