Terrified of VALENTINES..........eeek :0)))

So is anyone else worrying about this???

My bloke, by some miracle of god, has apparently arranged something for Valentines weekend....cant understand why, maybe because weve not been gettin on recently but wow i am shocked lol

Anyway i dont know where were goin or what were doin, in fact i know nothin! But im sure it will revolve around a meal n nights out....this scares me, in fact terrifies me!!!

Dont mean to sound dramatic but im worried he'l be moanin at me to eat this n eat that n let it go for one weekend etc n itl cause rows if i dont.

Also in a restaurant id like to pick salads, jkt pot, salmon/tuna and veg etc but what if we go to an italian or indian or....omg im just really panickin that im not ready for summat like this just yet but i cnt refuse it now.  its a big thing for him to make the effort n i dont wanna spoil all his efforts.

Any tips......?   Would really appreciate em  x

I've had worries about this before too, sometimes you just have to work the menu.

Italian restaurants will have salad, and sometimes grilled chicken or fish. If you go somewhere Indian, stick with soups, dishes with lentils and chickpeas, tandoori fish or shrimp, dal, or chicken tikka. But really, one night out won't sabotage you :) This seems like it means a lot to both of you. Have fun!  

Sorry if this seems harsh but.. WHAT? Okay....It's valentines day...and you said it yourself, it is out of the ordinary for your bf to plan something like this....go with it. Don't worry about the calories...it is one night....Let your bf sweep you off your feet...have fun....enjoy it. One night will not ruin things... if you're really worried about it....eat really really good the day before and the day after, workout extra hard the day before and the day after and eat a little less earlier in the day on Valentines day.

I know that this scares you and you are afraid that doing this will derail all your previous and future efforts, but honestly you need to learn to live with stuff like this...life is no fun if you are constantly afraid that the restuarant you are going to doesn't have exactly what you feel is healthiest for your weight loss efforts.

It kind of makes me sad to see some people thinking more about their calorie consumption on valentines day than about celebrating their relationship with their significant other. At least you get to celebrate it with your significant other...lots of people are seperated by miles and miles. It's my first valentines day in several years with a significant other, and he is in california on a marine corps base and I am here in Iowa....I would do almost anything to be able to celebrate it with him.

Daughtry- Aw, I'm sorry. I hope you two are brought back together soon.

I agree... It's V-day, let go and have fun, especially since your man rarely does this. If you're really that worried about it, stay away from cream sauces and fatty meats. A little pasta or bread and lean meats aren't going to sabotage you. If you're going to drink, stick with wine or vodka, since those are the lower cal choices. Even light beer would be ok. Be more cautious with your calorie intake earlier in the day, and hey, maybe ya'll will go dancing. That will help burn some calories too. Otherwise, like I and others have already said, LET GO AND HAVE FUN!

if your that worried just work out extra hard the day before the morning of and the day after. like everyone said its one day enjoy. your allowed to have one of those. Plus think of it as a zigzag day. the higher calories will help bump your metabolism.

OMG... R E L A X!

Seriously ONE meal will not ruin your whole plan. Enjoy your date and eat what you want to. Make it your "cheat meal" for the week, so you can eat without guilt. No one says you have to stuff yourself until you are bursting, but enjoy it. Share a dessert with your guy if that is your failing..then you wont be tempted to eat the whole thing and it is so much more romantic anyhow. 

So rare to find a guy that thinks ahead like this for "special" occasions. Most do something rushed the day before, IF we are lucky. Your guy is making an effort. Don't spoil it whith panicky whining about "should be eating salad". You can get back on track the next day, with lovely memories to enjoy.

ETA: Remember it takes 1000 EXTRA calories over maintenance to gain only ONE pound. You will be FINE for just one meal.

Original Post by glos2lv:

ETA: Remember it takes 1000 EXTRA calories over maintenance to gain only ONE pound. You will be FINE for just one meal.

Correction 3500 calories over maintenance = 1lb.  It would be extremely difficult to eat that much over.  Even if you did if you have a 500 cal deficit a day for a week, all gone.   And what great memories.  ENJOY!!  I have young kids and rarely get to have time just with hubby!  I'd love to be in your position!

Just enjoy your time together.

If something else takes your fancy, eat it. We all need a break now & again.

Your not alone. This weekend I'm going to a chocolate making workshop. Temptation ahoy! But it will also be mixed with a lot of walking.

There you go! To help counteract that niggling guilt that comes from eating out suggest you & him go for a nice walk the next day.

Dont think this is a problem anymore as we split up last night and he now wont even speak to me!

Thanks tho for all your help and btw i think u were all right, i should have not even bothered to think it was a problem but hey!

Everythin happens for a reason n that

I didn't realise people actually celebrated valentines day... my and my boy never have.