The thing that bothers me most...

There are a lot of things that I don't like about being fat. But the thing that bothers me most about it is that I am heavier than my boyfriend. I've always though my man should be bigger than I am.

Alas, I've fallen for a skinny boy who's not only thinner than I am, he's slightly underweight.

Anyone else in this situation? And does it bother you as much as it bothers me?

I'm a healthy weight for my height now and I'm still heavier than my dear old (slightly built, not very tall) Dad!  Good luck with your weight-loss.  If you get the food right you'll be able to beef up the boyfriend and slim yourself down at the same time.

i know exactly how you feel! I've always dated guys who are tall and really well built, but then end up in a serious relationship with the skinny minnies. haha It's ok. I mean, the good thing is that he's taller than me...so it kind of measures out. What country does your boyfriend live in? Mine lived in germany...until I moved here, so now we both live here together. But I remember being really nervous when meeting his friends etc because I was afraid they'd be like "wow she fatter than him" or something.

 

 

I totally know how you feel... me ex was probably around 5'10", and I know for a fact he weighed 120 lbs LOL  I actually just went to look up his BMI and that made him underweight.  I'm 5'1" and weighed around 180 lbs back then.  When it was just him and me, it's like my weight problem didn't exist.  He kept saying he loved that my boobs were bigger, and also thought it was cute that I was short.  Not all guys are shallow, seriously!!!

 

I'm in the same situation. Sometimes I feel like it's embarrassing, and I know he doesn't care, so I shouldn't either.  But I still do.   Everyone's built differently, and when I meet my goal I'll be healthy.  Besides, since I'm a bigger girl, I can tell that he likes me because I'm awesome.  I don't have to sift through shallow guys that just want a size 2 and don't care whether or not I've got a good personality or intellect. And here's the best part:  I can lose weight! 

Don't let it get to you! My ex-bf was just a teeensy bit taller than me (we're talking centimeters here) and definitely skinnier. Way skinnier. This one time we stood in front of a full length mirror and looked at ourselves in profile, side by side. And, um, let's just say that it was NOT a hot angle for me. He, of course, looked just as sexy as ever. Fast forward to the very volatile end of our relationship, which eventually led to a restraining order (against him, not me!) and the beginning of me "eating my feelings" or not eating them, as the case may be. I couldn't control him or how he felt about me, but I could control myself and what I did or did not put into my body. Was he worth developing an ED over? Of course not! There were lots of other factors at work there of course, but he was a notable, and easily-pinpointed one. Long story short, guys like a little cushion for the pushin'. Don't let it worry you. You're gorgeous. 

My boyfriend is slightly shorter than me (about an inch and a half) and skinny but really built. Even though he is built, so he doesn't look like a twig standing next to a mountain, it is still sort of embarrasing. I try not to let it bother me though.

We can't help who we love. If he loves/likes you then you should be honored and know that he probably really likes you for the TRUE you. This is how I see it at least. He has been with me through thick and thin (literally!) so he must really love me!

Don't sweat it lady. It's not that big a deal. I'm sure he's fine with who you are. I used to date a girl that was a little heavier than me, it was no big deal to me.

Although I understand that it bothers you regardless. Why not  use this issue to keep you motivated? After all, what good is it gonna do  to keep feelin' bummed out about it?

my manfriend is a twig and it used to bug me that i'm slightly bigger than him, but then i realized that it's just another one of society's conventions that we're trying to fit ourselves in--like the man should be stronger and bigger, etc.

if we followed all of society's gender roles, well then i'd never get any help with the damn dishes! try not to let it bother you, ya know?

I soooo know what you mean. I want to sit on his lap without feeling like I'm crushing him and be able to wear his T-shirts to bed.  But just remember -- you can lose weight, the beautiful people have nowhere to go but down ... LOL.

Stacy