The thing I hate the most about being overweight........

There is probably a thread like this around somewhere, but so many people are out there lets try again. I know we all have different situations and locations in life. But alot of us have being overweight in common. I'd like to hear some of the feelings that other people have trouble with because of their weight. Sometimes saying it (or typing it where others will see it) can help us deal with it and hopefully face it and change it! I'll start.........

The thing I hate the most about being overweight is the way it makes me feel embarrassed to be around people. 

is the way I can't buy clothes in 'normal' shops.....

how easy i am to sweat

my stomach...seriously if i lost a few inches off my waist i'd be a bad b!tch and you couldn't tell me nothing, lol

secretly feeling inadequate or like i'm not good enough (on the outside you can't tell)

having to pay alot more $$$ for bras instead of being able to find alot of cute ones in the less expensive stores

I can't look in the mirror while I'm out shopping, ruins my day.

That can't possibly be me.

Knowing that I am putting my health at risk and that I need to stay alive for my wife and kids.

Not be happy and make feel bad the people around me for my insecuritys and complexs.

Knowing I have the potential to look sexy in a swimsuit...but not knowing if I have the self-control to get there.

being judged immediatelly

I have to decide whether or not I want to wear my pants above or below my gut.

Having to live in a world that was not built for me, nothing fits...bus seats, turnstyles, etc....contantly having to worry about not just "fitting in", but actually fitting.

Feeling like I am a completely different species than the cute thin girls.

I'm with you on this one, irishmum. I hate how hard it is to find clothes that a) fit me, b) look good on me, and c) I can afford! I'm 23 and still wearing some clothes I had in middle school and high school because it's so hard for me to get new ones. :^(

I hate how I don't even bother to put on make-up or buy new clothes because I feel like...."Why bother, I'm fat...whats the point" .

 Just keep on trying! I am!

If it makes you feel better, us "less endowed" girls get stuck going to the little girls section sometimes :)

Original Post by galax:

I'm with you on this one, irishmum. I hate how hard it is to find clothes that a) fit me, b) look good on me, and c) I can afford! I'm 23 and still wearing some clothes I had in middle school and high school because it's so hard for me to get new ones. :^(

 me too! When shopping with friends and family I always blamed my pickiness on my disproportionately long arms and legs.  While I do still have issues finding long enough pants and longsleeved shirts, with the small amount of weightloss I've had, I'm finding it much easier to find other things in stores I like on me!

Original Post by nbensel:

If it makes you feel better, us "less endowed" girls get stuck going to the little girls section sometimes :)

 My little nieces have the cutest clothes sometimes I wish I could fit in the little girls sections!  But I bet it would be hard to find noncasual clothes that weren't fluffy dresses with bows though!

The worst thing for me is that I'm not happy this way. I can't do what I want to do because the weight is holding me back.  I hate feeling self consious and the fact that I avoid peoples eyes when they first see me so I don't see their disapproval. Our society does NOT accept fat people...period. Even if they say they do...they really don't and that's apparent to me every time I turn around.

Ya know the sad fact is that even when I get to my goal weight some people will still say I'm fat. I remember when I was 150-160 pounds and my room mate at the time called me fat. Some people are just that way and that's on them, not me. So the bottom line is that I want to be happy with myself at a weight that I determine, not society.

I hate looking at pictures of me, I think I cant possibly be that FAT!

KIm

the thing I hate the most is the stares!

Every time I go somewhere I can just feel everyone staring at me and all I can think is that they must be thinking: geez, look at the size of him; sheesh, how the hell did he let himself get like that; talk about no self control; does he even care what he looks like; no wonder he's by himself.......... etc, etc, you guys get the idea!

The thing I hate most about being overweight is that when it's all said and done, I can't blame this on anyone else.  I did this to myself, by choosing to ignore what was happening to myself over the years, by thinking only of what I thought I wanted and not caring one rats @$$ about any nutrition my body may have needed.  I did this to myself by making stupid choices about what to eat, by sitting on my butt and watching TV, by hiding from the world, by choosing food as a therapist when I got hurt instead of dealing with the cause of the hurt and moving on with my life.

I know I can lose this weight, I know I will eventually get to where I was and look and feel better than ever.  I have no doubt of this, and I'm looking forward to getting there.  I don't even mind the fact that this will take alot of effort and time to get there.  It's the fact that I allowed myself to get into this position in the first place that I hate the most.

Hope this rant makes sense, lol.

Safiyah

Great for safiyah!

I really hate being like 3 sizes bigger than my friends... I dont want that anymore, 1 size is ok, but 3?? not looking good with swimsuits and not being healty.

It is a hard work and when youre the weight you want to be regardless what the society thinks about you feel great. For example if you want to be 70 kgs but for your size you need to be 65 kgs (according to BMI and all that) believe me that you will be soooo happy even if you stay at the 70s!

I started my weightloss journey on January 2008 and I have dropped just 7 kgs but Im so happy because I feel healthy and thinner!