Okay so I've liked this guy for YEARS (about 5.) But I was always too young to date him, until I became legal the other day. He surprised me on my birthday and came to see me. Anyways he now knows that I like him and that I always have. He kept telling me the whole night that I was really cute (young lady cute, not little girl cute) and said that "you're the kinda girl who's cute enough to get any guy you want, but you're sophisticated and smart and have a really good head on your shoulders." Then he asked me to go to a show with him the next day. I'm assuming that these are good signs. But I'd like some feedback please.
I can usually read guys pretty easily but I guess I'm just a little surprised because I've waited for this for so long. I'm an old fashioned girl so I don't believe in calling guys and refuse to chase them. It's just not my thing.
I should also probably add that he asked me many questions including what do I look for in a boyfriend, what's my "type" etc. He was the one who ended up driving me home and he was a real gentleman.
Before we always made fun of each other like little kids do in kindergarden (when they like each other.) I still love being able to joke around with him but it was nice seeing a different side to him. And I've always loved the long + good conversations we were able to have.
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Haha thanks. Well I'm not off limits anymore. At least not to him anyways. =)
ya he most def. likes u, i would be the same way. he prob. didn't want to ask u out b4 because of the age issue in case u guys got serious, in which i don't blame him. have fun, good luck
Out of curiousity..how old are you? How old is he?
well she just said she became legal, so she's probably 18. as for how old he is, is it really important to you? does it matter that much? its a little personal to ask, dont ya think? because if she were to say "oh hes 22" its no big deal, but if she gave a number a little higher it could spark some sort of debate on whats wrong and whats not.
my advice to hollyhills is if his age is a little high, dont mention it here. check out the "how old is too old" forum topic and you'll see why i say that.
There's no way he is 22! You know that as well as I do fightergirl.
Original Post by fightergirl:
well she just said she became legal, so she's probably 18. as for how old he is, is it really important to you? does it matter that much? its a little personal to ask, dont ya think? because if she were to say "oh hes 22" its no big deal, but if she gave a number a little higher it could spark some sort of debate on whats wrong and whats not.
my advice to hollyhills is if his age is a little high, dont mention it here. check out the "how old is too old" forum topic and you'll see why i say that.
You are a little rude and defensive...don't ya think?
I don't think I was addressing you...and if she prefers not to answer...she won't. I think her post reflects that she is now an adult and can make decisions for herself. She is "legal".
And to the OP...if he is above the age of 40 and has been waiting with baited breath until you turned the magic "18"... and showing up on your birthday...to me that's a little creepy. He does obviously like you though...whatever his age.
Date who YOU want to date. I had a 40 year old who was "taken" with me when I was 18...and I thought of him as like, my parent's age, and wasn't very attracted to him, although he was nice.
I hope you take the time to date a few people and find out who you really want to be with, and who YOU really are before you focus on one person. I hope you don't feel any obligation to date anyone just because they like you...make sure the feeling is mutual.
Happy Birthday btw !
Actually I'm 21, he's 28.
Original Post by monarch777:
And to the OP...if he is above the age of 40 and has been waiting with baited breath until you turned the magic "18"... and showing up on your birthday...to me that's a little creepy. He does obviously like you though...whatever his age.
Date who YOU want to date. I had a 40 year old who was "taken" with me when I was 18...and I thought of him as like, my parent's age, and wasn't very attracted to him, although he was nice.
I hope you take the time to date a few people and find out who you really want to be with, and who YOU really are before you focus on one person. I hope you don't feel any obligation to date anyone just because they like you...make sure the feeling is mutual.
Happy Birthday btw !
Thank you for the birthday wishes! HAHA he is definitely not 40, he's 28. I'm 21 and I don't think I'd feel comfortable dating someone who could technically be my father.
awww he likes you! And 28 isn't that old!
28 and 21 are okay. Although most 21 year old women are more mature than 28 year old men. 
Original Post by jewelsmcblah:
I'm curious how old the guy is too. It doesn't really matter. He seems like a really nice guy with a level head. I'm just nosey and would like to know.
There's no way he is 22! You know that as well as I do fightergirl.
no? how was i supposed to know that?
and monarch777 i dont think i was being rude. i was just saying that it wasnt important, after being criticized in the "how old is too old" forum topic, i just didnt want it starting here with someone else. just didnt want people to get on her back if there was a big age difference, because i know how that feel
Original Post by fightergirl:
Original Post by jewelsmcblah:
I'm curious how old the guy is too. It doesn't really matter. He seems like a really nice guy with a level head. I'm just nosey and would like to know.
There's no way he is 22! You know that as well as I do fightergirl.no? how was i supposed to know that?
and monarch777 i dont think i was being rude. i was just saying that it wasnt important, after being criticized in the "how old is too old" forum topic, i just didnt want it starting here with someone else. just didnt want people to get on her back if there was a big age difference, because i know how that feel
I never saw that forum, and I said I was just curious. There was no need to get your under-garments in a bunch...I wasn't trying to "start" something. In the future, you might want to warn the moderators of trouble instead of policing the boards yourself. I'll have to go read the thread that you are referring to...I'll bet it was lively judging from your reaction to nothing here ! brb...I have reading to do ! (whoo hoo!)
Oops...double post.
Original Post by fightergirl:
Original Post by jewelsmcblah:
I'm curious how old the guy is too. It doesn't really matter. He seems like a really nice guy with a level head. I'm just nosey and would like to know.
There's no way he is 22! You know that as well as I do fightergirl.no? how was i supposed to know that?
and monarch777i dont think i was being rude. i was just saying that it wasnt important, after being criticized in the "how old is too old" forum topic, i just didnt want it starting here with someone else. just didnt want people to get on her back if there was a big age difference, because i know how that feel
Well fire-girl....no one was really criticising YOU there...just your suitor. You are essentially a kid. It's the creepy older guys I can't stand. When I was a senior in HS a few of my friends dated older guys. Both relationships were bad because the guys were controlling and abusive...and both ended badly. My take on that is that SOME men date much younger and impressionable women because they are too insecure and weak and immature to date an equal. No one was putting you down.
It's rather nice when an older guy pays attention to you when you are a teen...it shows you are "blossoming" into a woman. I think some men want to capture women that age before they even know themselves so that they can control them better.
None of us older women like to see a young, beautiful..free and happy girl...turn into a prisoner of some creepy putz...that's all. But I am sure you are intelligent enough to know if your guy is of the creep variety or not...and if he was, you would rid yourself of him quick, fast and in a hurry!
hollyhills - just be realistic and true to yourself and try not to let "wants and wishes" cloud your judgement. Could turn out great in the long run - could turn out bad. But hey, most of us have to learn things the hard way.
Could be an old pervy guy. Could be the man of your dreams, just older. Up to you to decide! *wink* Besides, what's wrong with a date? Good luck!
i say go for it...from what you posted..it sounds like he does like you....and youve been an "adult" for 3 years now...so yeah...i guess you meant legal as in able to drink...not legal as in he could go to jail...
btw...my DBF was 26 and I was barely 21 when we met :) Im now almost 25 and he just turned 30 :)
Original Post by hollyhills:
And I've always loved the long + good conversations we were able to have.
thats one of the most important things! go for it, hollyhills, he must surely have an attraction to you.
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