Throwing a loved one (or other) "under the bus"

Has anyone else caught themselves doing this?

I baked a dozen banana muffins with brown sugar streusel for the weekend and forgot to take them to the party.  As a result, I had 12 muffins sitting on my counter that I shouldn't even have thought about eating.  My solution: Give them to the neighbours.

Or: I went out for dinner at a restaurant and, after realizing that I was shovelling the pasta into my mouth, I push the plate toward my husband who promptly finished it.

I feel guilty sometimes about doing this to people but it's that whole "better them than me" mentality taking over.

Comments?

I must admit I don't really do this, my husband is on the same healthy eating kick I am with his diabetes so I try to support him, but I would bring things to work for the fat guzzlers here to finish things off as they are not watching their weight and ingest anything that appears on the reception desk.

I feel no guilt over that.  I also though have no problems leaving food on my plate and it being thrown out.

Haha, my husband is also trying to watch what he eats.  Sometimes when we go out and they bring us a bread basket we keep shoving it back and forth "No, really, you have the last roll!" 

I feel people are responsible for themselves, and a lot of people don't struggle over food like I do.  Men, especially, can handle an extra muffin without too much difficulty in their diet.

I would not worry about it.  You showed great strength in giving them away.  I would have eaten three or four.  In fact, if I had the fixin's, I would go make myself some muffins right now.  They sound so good.

very true!! my mother gbh packs me food for work three times out of the week i know she does it out of love but she over packs it!! in previous year when i dieted before i always looked for someone to bump it off on to them and luckily their has been someone who willingly accept to the proposal(moms food is the greatest) to the point they come to me and ask what are we having for lunch?? but yet this time around I've yet to find the guinea pig?? still searching?? I've tried explaining to mom but she will not give in!! more food for you!! 

I do it on purpose all the time. Just because I'm health conscious doesn't mean everyone around me is too. If I know they'll enjoy it, I give it away.

I do this all the time and I don't think there's anything wrong with it. Why throw something away when you can give it away?

There is a designated snack/food table at my work.  Honest to god, you can put anything in the world on that table and somebody will eat it - this is usually what I do with stuff I don't need around me. 

The only time I feel bad doing it is if my mom makes me something that I know she made just for me but is not good for me. Rather than telling her not to make it (she loves making it) I take it but give most of it away

I feel so guilty ... I make the food at his request ... what he would love for dinner... and I eat chicken /salad / veggies...

I can see that he is gaining weight - he works out once a week at hockey and thinks it ok to over indulge all the time. I don't understand how he can eat so much . I am feeding into it .... I guess I am not much help... but how do I know how to relate !

lol i LOVE to cook. but with my roommate and I working different schedules its usually difficult to eat everything with just the two of us, so ill either A) freeze it or B) give it away..

and i do that too with my boyfriend. if im eating something (naughty), after a few bites ill offer him the rest. he bought me icecream yesterday and thats EXACTLY what happened.. and now ive just realized that i do this often. Furthermore, I try to help him watch what he eats since he has to monitor his cholesterol. So now i pretty much feel terrible. I just realized how wrong this is of me.. ugh =(

I don't think it's that big of a deal, especially if the person you give something to is maintaining. I usually give my treats to skinny people.

I've reworded the original because it didn't come accross as I had intended.. and I'm sorry about the original version of this that sounded like i was targetting nanug.. I realised that that wasn't fair as my annoyance is only heightened by my experiences and certainly not by nanug.. who in all fairness isn't throwing people under busses but is just not eating the food she doesn't want.. as various people pointed out the neighbours could happily not eat the cakes and it must be nice to have friendly neighbours :-)

however, based on the people I know who do throw people under busses:

bewarned.. rant starting...

well... if they don't want to eat the extra food don't buy /make/order them.  they need to exercise a bit more self restraint if the only way they can handle a diet is by feeding the people around them.

I can't see how this makes them feel better about not eating.  I think they are feeling better because they are smug because someone else is eating and they're not. it's not a healthy attitude to have.

sorry but someone needed to say it..

Original Post by nanuq905:

Has anyone else caught themselves doing this?

I baked a dozen banana muffins with brown sugar streusel for the weekend and forgot to take them to the party.  As a result, I had 12 muffins sitting on my counter that I shouldn't even have thought about eating.  My solution: Give them to the neighbours.

Or: I went out for dinner at a restaurant and, after realizing that I was shovelling the pasta into my mouth, I push the plate toward my husband who promptly finished it.

I feel guilty sometimes about doing this to people but it's that whole "better them than me" mentality taking over.

Comments?

@elfinpickle

I don't think it's really that malicious. Her husband can probably put away a lot more than she can and be totally fine. Why waste something that someone else can enjoy? Not everyone is looking at food the way we are right now, and people can also refuse if they are full / don't want to eat it because of cals / etc.

Original Post by pappitas:

very true!! my mother gbh packs me food for work three times out of the week i know she does it out of love but she over packs it!! in previous year when i dieted before i always looked for someone to bump it off on to them and luckily their has been someone who willingly accept to the proposal(moms food is the greatest) to the point they come to me and ask what are we having for lunch?? but yet this time around I've yet to find the guinea pig?? still searching?? I've tried explaining to mom but she will not give in!! more food for you!! 

Do you have a fridge at work where you can store the leftovers and just eat as much as you want?

I bake and try to freeze or portion them out with names on baggies as soon as I'm done.  That way I spread a bit of joy over homemade goodies and somewhat limit myself.

no guilt whatsoever!

I feel like 12 muffins is a lot of muffins.  Give one to each person, keep one for yourself--share the love, and minimize the sugar shock :D

Seriously though--one muffin isn't going to hurt anyone's diet/cholestero/lwhatever.  Having twelve of them at home will hurt yours.  Besides, there's always a skinny 14 yr old boy who needs that muffin!  Seriously, I can see his ribs from here!

And as for restaurants--pity the fool that tries to finish my food.  I love eating out, and I will take both mine and my bf's leftovers home.  YEah, they might last me for like 4 days, stretched out with lo-cal soup and salad, but it still tastes delicious!

Original Post by elfinpickle:

well... if you don't want to eat them don't buy /make/order them.  you need to exercise a bit more self restraint if the only way you can handle a diet is by feeding the people around you.

this isn't making you feel better about not eating.  you are feeling better because you are smug because someone else is eating and you're not.

that's not a healthy attitude to have.

sorry but someone needed to say it..

 

I'm sorry, but I think someone needs to tell you that was mean. 

She already said the muffins were for an event, and she forgot them.  She's not trying to sabotauge anyone to deal with her diet.  Restaurant servings are HUGE, and it's often not possible to finish what you ordered, and almost always not healthy to do so.  If her husband is willing to eat the food, has no weight or health problems, I don't see the problem here.  People make choices, and their choices are their own.  Her neighbors don't have to accept the muffins.  If any of them were on serious diets, they probably shouldn't. 

Sorry for disagreeing with you, but I feel it was kind of a jerkish post. 

Original Post by elfinpickle:

well... if you don't want to eat them don't buy /make/order them.  you need to exercise a bit more self restraint if the only way you can handle a diet is by feeding the people around you.

this isn't making you feel better about not eating.  you are feeling better because you are smug because someone else is eating and you're not.

that's not a healthy attitude to have.

sorry but someone needed to say it..

 Even if the OP "exercises a bit more self restraint" and eats one muffin per day, it's still going to take her 12 days to finish the bunch. By then, they'll be stale so why not give most of them away?

For me, I love to bake but I don't usually need a dozen muffins or 2 dozen cookies lying around, even if they are healthy ones. I don't have that much freezer space.

Original Post by elfinpickle:

well... if you don't want to eat them don't buy /make/order them.  you need to exercise a bit more self restraint if the only way you can handle a diet is by feeding the people around you.

this isn't making you feel better about not eating.  you are feeling better because you are smug because someone else is eating and you're not.

that's not a healthy attitude to have.

sorry but someone needed to say it..

1. I made them for a party but left them on the table when I went so they didn't get eaten.
2. I love to bake/cook and AM making a conscious effort to make healthier foods (see my blog: http://kitchenfallout.blogspot.com).  I'm not going to give up a hobby just because I want to loose a few pounds.
3. I am insulted by the "smug" comment.  That is totally not true.

The banana muffins are posted on my blog for anyone interested:

http://kitchenfallout.blogspot.com/2009/08/ba nanananana-muffins.html

I updated this last week to explain!  I don't understand why you still have this version.  Please look again?

Original Post by nanuq905:

Original Post by elfinpickle:

well... if you don't want to eat them don't buy /make/order them.  you need to exercise a bit more self restraint if the only way you can handle a diet is by feeding the people around you.

this isn't making you feel better about not eating.  you are feeling better because you are smug because someone else is eating and you're not.

that's not a healthy attitude to have.

sorry but someone needed to say it..

1. I made them for a party but left them on the table when I went so they didn't get eaten.
2. I love to bake/cook and AM making a conscious effort to make healthier foods (see my blog: http://kitchenfallout.blogspot.com).  I'm not going to give up a hobby just because I want to loose a few pounds.
3. I am insulted by the "smug" comment.  That is totally not true.

I realize that this post is a little bit old, but I kind of like the original idea of it.

One of the main reason that I'd say "no guilt needed!" is because of how it is at MY work and with MY guy.

My guy is a healthy weight with a healthy bodyfat % without trying. When he sits down to dinner, he can scarf as much food as will fit in his belleh without a single problem.  In fact, I'm always feeding him because he doesn't always remember to eat, and he doesn't have any health problems if he does overeat.  Some people are just like that.

And as far as work or neighbors goes.... it's definitely more generous than anything.  My job doesn't pay that well and has a lot of temp workers, and though I'm financially stable enough, not everyone is.  Same with my neighbors.  I don't live in a rich community.  If I had extra to give away, I would.  For a few months last year, I was broke and nearly starving.  Even though I had a full-time job, the money had to go toward bills.  I ate nothing but ramen or giveaway food from a local church non-profit, and scraping some change together for a loaf of bread was heaven.  If I'd had a neighbor bring me muffins out of the goodness of her heart, I would have hugged her and burst into tears.

I guess my point with giving away food is that you never know who around you is not getting enough to eat!  Giving away food, as long as it's not like, covered in hair or something gross, is an act of generosity.  Now who accepts that generosity, and whether they should, is another matter.  It may go to an overweight person who doesn't need the temptation.  But if a person wants to eat something that isn't good for them, that's their business.

Personally, if I bring snacks in to work, I make sure to get two versions so weight-conscious people have a choice.  For instance, if we have something to celebrate or we have had a lot of overtime lately, I bring in a box of cookies for my team.  For people I know are on a diet, I bring 100 cal cookie snack packs or a veggie tray.  It's more knowing your audience than anything else.  And yes - I bring the leftover regular cookies home to my boyfriend.  Cause again, it won't bother him any - and if he ever makes the choice to go on a healthier diet, I'll support him 100%!