im feeling really low today. i turned 35 last week and ive been single for nearly three years. Ive had plenty of one night stands and dates but i still havent met someone I really like who really likes me - that is, someone with whom I can develop a relationship. I recently moved to a new country hoping for adventure but now i just feel really lonely and isolated. I have joined a few social groups and started a new job so I am meeting people and having fun but Im just tired of being alone in my bed at night, not having someone to plan with, dream with travel with, cuddle with etc. It gets so boring!!!! Or should i say I get so boring! I am on CC trying to lose a little weight. I only have 14lb to lose so its not a huge deal. i think im attractive and I get a fair amount of attention from men and yet why do i keep falling for the ones that arent interested in me? I realise that the ones who like me I usually dont feel attracted to. I keep having one night stands with 25 year old guys and feel really bad after cos it always comes to nothing. Im just the "older" woman who maybe they see as having something to teach them! I desperately want to meet my life partner and have a family but feel time ticking on and another year im still alone. All guys my age seem to be either already hooked up or only interested in younger women. I think I need some encouragement.....anyone else out there feel lonely? Waiting for their prince to come? Some happy love stories to give me hope would be much appreciated.
I know exactly how you are feeling. I just turned 30. And it is very depressing for me. This it not where I pictured myself to be. I get asked out all the time but I am not interested in anyone that seems to be interested in me. I also get lonely and wined up back with my X who is so bad for me. I said i would never do online dating but i am now considering eharmony. i'll keep you posted. GOOD LUCK
hi acmags1
sorry you are also feeling that way! i have tried internet dating but didnt get along too well with it although it can be quite a good distraction. it was quite useful for me helping me move on from a past relationship so give it a try! everyone seems to be doing it these days. i have recently joined meetup.com which has social groups for every kind of interest in every city in the world which has proved a great way to meet people and friends in the new city where I am living. i joined a social networking group which meets up every weekend And its not exclusively for dating which is good so you can meet people without that feeling of pressure. in fact im going out on a date tomoro with someone i met last weekend. i dont feel that spark but you never know...i suppose its good just to get out there anyway.
dont worry! 30 is still young. although i can totaLLY understand how you feel too. when i was 30 most of friends seemed to be getting married and having babies and it feels like the best thing ever is happening to everyone else. but a few years down the line i can see a lot of those happy couples facing up to a lot of challenges and being free and single sometimes has its perks! im feeling a little less down about being single today....when i first broke up with my ex who i had been with for seven years and i was devastated i found that i gradually started to rediscover the things that I loved doing that i had neglected during the relationship. Do you have any passions or interests that you can pursue to take your mind of your ex?
thanks for replying to my post. and good luck to you too 
Hi. I just joined CC as a way to improve my health and hopfully gain a little more control of my weight in general. I can relate to how you are feeling--I'v been single now for 3 1/2 years, after a 6-year long relationship. Its taken me a long time to rediscover what I want in my personal life and as a result, my professional life has flourished!! I'v discovered that having new experiences or getting involved with something you wouldn't usually do might introduce you to new people--one's whom you would not have expected to meet.....getting out there is half the battle but also there is something to be said for keeping focused on things you enjoy and that you love to do. Figuring out what you want in your life for yourself might help give you direction for whom you want in your life as well.
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