So tired of being treated like crap because I'm fat!

Ok, I might be fat but that doesn't mean I'm not a human being anymore!!

Yesterday in class, this guy who sat behind me in the previous class period said he didn't want to sit there again because he doesn't like sitting behind people who smell like food!!

He said it to his two friends and they both laughed!

And I DON'T smell like food in case anyone was wondering!  IT was just a mean fat joke! "Huh huh huh, let's make fun of the fat girl because she might not know that she's fat and she might not realize that she's fat; let's make her feel a little worse about herself than she already does!"

I'm 21 and they look like they're about the same age.  I thought we outgrew this high school **** a long time ago, but I guess not! I'm TRYING to lose weight! I've lost about 15 pounds so far, at least it's a start!

I'm about 5'7" or 5'8" and I weigh about 190 so I'm not just huge, and even if I was 5'1" and 400 pounds, I wouldn't deserve that kind of treatment!

ARGH!!! 

'Good, because I don't like people sitting behind me that reek of stupidity.'

Some people never grow out of it - especially college age guys! They can be the worst! Don't let it bother you - they were trying to get under your skin. You know the truth - let their immaturity motivate you to show them up, so a year from now you can be that hot, smart girl who would never date such shallow losers!

15 pounds is great! Whatever you do, don't let them bother you to the point where you avoid the gym (and therefore working out) to avoid them - don't let them win in that way! You can do this... you're already well on your way! Keep that head high, and take care of yourself  - that should be your focus.

Original Post by kathygator:

'Good, because I don't like people sitting behind me that reek of stupidity.'

I agree! I'm 5'9" and weight about the same as you right now. Honestly neither of us are balloons either! That was definitely uncalled for! If somebody said that to me or behind me if I didn't want to cry I'd sock them in the face! I say sabatoge him in class and kick him in the shins. Make him wish he had never been born! Revenge is sweet, and doing it in a classroom setting is even sweeter!

Or you could just make him feel like a complete (insert bad word here) and be super nice to him. I opt for socking him though.

I'm a little boy with glasses
The one they call the geek
A little girl who never smiles
'Cause I've got braces on my teeth
And I know how it feels
To cry myself to sleep

I'm that kid on every playground
Who's always chosen last
A single teenage mother
Tryin' to overcome my past
You don't have to be my friend
But is it too much to ask

Don't laugh at me
Don't call me names
Don't get your pleasure from my pain
In God's eyes we're all the same
Someday we'll all have perfect wings
Don't laugh at me

I'm the cripple on the corner
You've passed me on the street
And I wouldn't be out here beggin'
If I had enough to eat
And don't think I don't notice
That our eyes never meet

I lost my wife and little boy when
Someone cross that yellow line
The day we laid them in the ground
Is the day I lost my mind
And right now I'm down to holdin'
This little cardboard sign...so

Don't laugh at me
Don't call me names
Don't get your pleasure from my pain
In God's eyes we're all the same
Someday we'll all have perfect wings
Don't laugh at me

I'm fat, I'm thin, I'm short, I'm tall
I'm deaf, I'm blind, hey, aren't we all

Don't laugh at me
Don't call me names
Don't get your pleasure from my pain
In God's eyes we're all the same
Someday we'll all have perfect wings
Don't laugh at me

Hm.

There was one class in college I was in where we were talking about stunts you can pull with airlines to get better deals.

One young woman brought up her somewhat unethical father and started listing his exploits.  One of them happened when an overweight person had the seat next to him and he complained to the flight attendant: "I paid for a whole seat, not half of one."  This garnered laughter from a lot of the class, but there was this one overweight girl...often wondered what she was thinking. 

trhawley _ perfect song choice for this situation

Alison - just remember while some people are inconsiderate jerks you are doing what you need to do, you are making a lifestyle change that will see you through.  Keep up the good work,  you have done a great job thus far.

What is the joke - I may be fat but you are (ugly, stupid, insert your choice here) and I can always lose weight.

I'm all for embarrassing a person in that kind of situation.  Turn it back on him.  In a voice loud enough to get others' attention, turn around and ask him to please repeat what he said.  Make him as uncomfortable as possible.  Ask his friends about it too.  You do that once, and I can assure that guy will never make another comment to anybody again.

Of course, it's not easy to do.  You have to be able to do what you are comfortable with.

I loved what that one girl on American Idol did to Simon when he made a mean remark about her size. She brought it up to him later with kindness and very simply explained how much his comment hurt her, but also assured him she had overcome her pain and had forgiven him. He was mortified to realize how rude he had been and quite repentant.

what what a jerk!! you know what really would have caught him off guard, if you'd turned right around in your seat, looked him right in the eye and calmly said "sorry, what did you say?"

knowing college guys, his friends probably would have just stared at him goggle eyed, and he would have sat there stammering. people like that say nasty things and bully people when they don't expect to actually have to face their reaction. i highly doubt he'd have the balls to repeat himself to your face, and would then look like an idiot. especially if you were nice about it.

edited to add: yeah, what bobs said :p

Just think of karma... maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow but he's going to regret every saying anything to try and get a rise out of his friends by showing how "cool" he is. 

You're working on changing your lifestyle for You... and I'm willing to bet he's going to wish he never said anything as you continue to succeed and get to your goals.  The more milestones you hit the more obvious it'll be so when you've made a change he'll still be the same jerk he was now at that point.

Ugh, how awful. Well, you can lose weight, but can he ever gain a brain or a soul?

i'm so glad i'm an adult.

not that there aren't still a$$h0les in my world, but i can laugh at them now.

Dude...

I can not believe that someone said that to you...

I am around 5'8-5'8.5 and I am about 185.  I could not imagine someone saying that to me..  I mean if i was wearing spandex and all of my fat rolls were galooping all over the place.. then sure maybe a disgusted comment or two but still someone should keep it to themselves.. I would NEVER say anything like that out loud (if I thought it).

I to can not believe at 20-21 someone would say that.. After the age of 12 you should have common sense and be respectful...

ugh that is so ridiculous.. I really do not think I'm THAT huge.. I WANT to lose 30 pounds and be around 140-150 again like I was when I was 18-19 but goodness.....

I would turn and be like "Obviously someone's balls still haven't dropped yet because he's about as immature as a 10 year old male with even slightly less of a brain."

:P

Ignore the a**holes out there. Keep strutting your stuff and working on your goal. Ignorant people like that shouldn't even have our attention because truth of the matter is if they talk like that about you they are doing it to other people as well. Pay more attention to someone who actually matters and is worth listening to.

OMG those children aren't even worth your time. I love the retort kathygator came up with! I'm 22, 5'8" and about 171 at the moment. I started out at 189, so I feel ya! The thing is no one believes I weigh as much as I do, because I hide it well, lol. You are not FAT. You may be slightly overweight, like me, but never fat. Those guys will learn their lesson one day, about how it doesn't matter what someone looks like, but who they are inside. If they pull something like that again, just turn around and laugh in their face. They're only saying things like that because of their own insecurities.

Ugh, I know people say you should ignore it, but it's hard! I guarantee he wouldn't have had the you know whats to say that if his friend wasnt there to snicker with him.

I am afraid of walking my dog down busy streets because of the mean things people shout out of their window as they drive by. Its a catch 22.

You didn't get treated like crap because you're fat, you got treated like crap because some immature little bullies figured out what your strings were and could get away with pulling them.  They have yet to run into anyone (BTW, the instructor is absolutely incompetent for allowing this in the classroom) bigger and meaner who can eat them for breakfast (they will eventually and hopefully you'll gain enough confidence to do it yourself).  If you didn't obviously have a weight issue, then it would have been your hair style, your clothing, your old cell phone, your clumsiness, or whatever they could find to mock you on.

Sorry, babe. Boys are dumber than a bag of rocks.  A big bag. Of very dumb rocks. And most of them never grow out of it (of course, all the men on this site are FANTASTIC human beings). Everybody has something that someone else can make fun of. Everybody. I bet those three dorks behind you haven't ever even kissed a girl. And at this rate, never will.

It's just possible that he was trying to prove to his friends that he didn't like you because really, deep down, he might and he's too immature to deal with it in a sensible manner. Like saying - oh, I dunno - "Hello".  It's just a thought as a friend of mine was teased unrelentingly for about four months by a guy on the bus (he made her life so miserable that she would walk in the rain, rather than travel with him). Finally, he swaggered over to her one day and asked why she hadn't been on the bus for weeks. So, when she actually reminded   him that he'd repeatedly insulted her, he admitted it was because he really liked her but was too ashamed to admit it to his friends but, now that some of them had girlfriends it was 'ok' for him to like her.

Next time, only if you're up to it, casually mention that a real man would be able to appreciate a real woman. Otherwise, just ignore the doof. You get them everywhere, honey. Rise above it. Or go home and make a voodoo doll. Your call.

Big hugs.

Original Post by belfastbelle:

Or go home and make a voodoo doll.

 

That sounds like a terrific idea!! :P

You are beautiful no matter what they say
Words can't bring you down
You are beautiful in every single way
Yes, words can't bring you down

Obviously easier said than done. But seriously, they are not worth the energy even to think about them.
Don't you wish ignore features existed in reality?

What an a**hole! id have just freaked out and kicked his a**, but thats how i handle things and thats why im on trouble most of the time cause i wont take anyones ****. I used to weigh 195 and am now at 138 , if i did it so can you my dear... plus 190 isnt even that big... i cant believe the nerve of people!