So tired of being treated like crap because I'm fat!

Ok, I might be fat but that doesn't mean I'm not a human being anymore!!

Yesterday in class, this guy who sat behind me in the previous class period said he didn't want to sit there again because he doesn't like sitting behind people who smell like food!!

He said it to his two friends and they both laughed!

And I DON'T smell like food in case anyone was wondering!  IT was just a mean fat joke! "Huh huh huh, let's make fun of the fat girl because she might not know that she's fat and she might not realize that she's fat; let's make her feel a little worse about herself than she already does!"

I'm 21 and they look like they're about the same age.  I thought we outgrew this high school **** a long time ago, but I guess not! I'm TRYING to lose weight! I've lost about 15 pounds so far, at least it's a start!

I'm about 5'7" or 5'8" and I weigh about 190 so I'm not just huge, and even if I was 5'1" and 400 pounds, I wouldn't deserve that kind of treatment!

ARGH!!! 

He's deflecting his own insecurities.

When i was in school (12 years old) i was the chubby one as well... we lived in columbia, i was going to the french school, they used to put one french person in each classroom so that the others could hear good french..  out of 2000 students we were only 6% of french ... columbian can be mean..

Some guy who sat behind me always used to make fun of me, the chubby tomboy... one day, the only day where i let my hair down (trying to be more feminine) he cut a big piece of my hair... then said well like this she lost weight.. the teachers didnt do anything... i didnt say anything..

After getting out of class as they were still laughing about it.. i went up to him and gave him a huge kick in the balls and told him that if he ever touched me again i would hit him so hard that he wouldnt be able to walk anymore..

Getting home and explaining to my mom why i had a big piece of hair missing was fun.. she started yelling, called the director of the school to shout, went to see this alcoholic teacher that didnt say aanything when it happened and went up to the guy and told him that if he ever did anything like that again she would catch him and shave his head, eyebrows etc..

That was the meanest that anyone was with me and since then it has stayed with me that if anyone makes fun of me or insults me then i will give them a piece of my mind

Please don't bottle it up to the point where you go kick some guy (however deserving he might be) in the nuts.  This is a good topic for a communications class or a group counseling and practice to get yourself to be able to stick up for yourself without giving into bullies or losing your cool.

Thanks guys, you made me feel a lot better!  I didn't say anything to him, I didn't know what to say, so I just sat there and felt embarrassed.  You guys had some good responses thouhg!  I hope that someday I will be able to say something to people when they make rude comments like that. I didn't let this ruin my day but it did make me feel bad.  There was a time when this sort of commemnt would've made me feel lower than whale **** on the bottom of the ocean, but now i have a little better way of dealing with it.

Still, I don't know why someone would say something like that. I mean, does it make your day a little better to make someone else's day a little worse?  Some people might've went home and had a crying fit over that.  It made me mad more than it made me sad. I just can't understand saying something mean like that, I guess it was just to make his friends laugh because he was trying to get cool points with them.  He probably is insecure.  I heard him making comments about other people too so I wasn't the only "lucky" one.  I guess he just thinks he's clever.

I do like the idea of the voodoo doll though! Haha!

Original Post by smwhipple:

Please don't bottle it up to the point where you go kick some guy (however deserving he might be) in the nuts. 

 That's something I've always dreamed of doing. LMAO! I was usually the quiet shy girl who got walked all over on. Only on occasion if I was really p*ssed off would I say something.

But damn, sintiachita..you go, girl! LMAO. *Says to self, "Violence is not the answer only voodoo dolls are...Violence is not the answer..only voodoo dolls are."Lmao!

I'm glad you are feeling better Alison_87. You just have to realize there are A LOT of ignorant people out there that you just have to ignore and be the better person in the situation. Probably if he was doing it to others he may not be so lucky in the future and will get his a** kicked by someone who isn't so calm.... There are good people out there too who make up for the a**holes out there that shouldn't even have a second thought given to them. *hugz. :)

I'm gonna be real blunt! this is something you are just gonna have to learn to deal with in your own way because you are gonna come across it again and again, and not only to do with your weight.

People don't grow out of it once a jerk always a jerk, I work with people 30yrs upwards and they dislike one of the bosses, but they don't talk about what they disagree with they make fun of his disability, these people are meant to be mature adults and they think it's funny to mock a disability.

I can't tell you how to deal with this and get past it that is something you will have to work on for yourself, but trust me it's not just you nor is it just overweight people who get this behaviour!

{Hugs} hold your head high!