I hate my job with a passion and I have an opportunity to quit my job and I want to focus on my weight throughout that whole time. Work out a lot more, count calories, cook at home, relax, and not be stressed out 24/7. It would only be for a few months, and then I would have to start working again. Somewhere else of course...
I'm a little scared, but this is something I want to focus on 100% of the time. I hardly hang out with old friends anymore because I don't want them seeing me the way I am. I graduated in 05, and I look SO different than I did in school and I guess I'm just ashamed. I refuse to meet new people, I hate it.
I think this would help me in many ways, but like I said I'm kind of scared. What if I take these few months off and fail? Not lose anything? And the only way I could fail, is by not trying and not working hard. I have no excuses this way.
I'm a size 14 and I am 5'2, but I weigh about 195. I look like a size 11, but I carry weight kind of well, I guess. I'm evenly proportioned, I just hate being the size I am. I just don't know if I should take the risk of quitting. I mean I'll be finanicially stable for a few months, but I think I'm more scared because I'll have all this free time and what if I don't use it to my advantage?
I just need all the advice I can get. Thanks!
Getting out of a job that stresses you out is an awesome decision. Really. It affects you mentally and physically. -- Been there.
Don't be afraid of failing. If you are doing it and be true to it, there is no way you fail. Use the in between jobs time to focus on yourself. It is your "ME TIME". Put yourself above anything else. Be SELFISH! -- Done that.
Hardly anyone look the way they did in school. If they do, they be Peter Pan, not normal human. ;)
My advice, Just DO It! Set your schedule and determination. Do NOT allow second thought ever. If it's time for you to sweat an hour on cardio, don't think about it, JUMP to it!
If you are faced with desserts, don't think about the taste, just push the plate away!
Tell yourself how bad you want to achieve your goal. If you really want it bad enough, you will be able to go through it. -- Got it :)
Good luck.
After a year and a half (and 10 pounds) I quit a toxic job and found that 3pm craving for a kit kat (or two) disappeared.
No job is worth being miserable. If you can swing it financially then you should consider it.
You should check out a book called "How Starbucks Saved My Life: A Son of Privilege Learns to Live Like Everyone Else." It's a great book that emphasizes the importance of being happy in your work and the effect that can have on every aspect of your life.
In short ... the author was a big time advertising executive who lost his job, lost his wife and was diagnosed with a brain tumor in a short period of time. After muddling through life for a while he stumbled upon a job as a barista at Starbucks and found he was happier serving the very people he used to looked down on.
It's a good read.
I think we all have been in a similar situation before. What do you do for a living? Have you experienced doing the same type of job elsewhere that was more gratifying? These are questions you have to think of. In my line of work, the work doesn't change much, it's the people. In my experience, the people are what makes work. Because it should be somewhat social. Do you have a friend or confidant at your work place? All you need is one, that you can share all your secrets, someone to bitch to, etc... who isn't going to sell you out. That can difuse any situation and job. Sometimes you just need to get it off your chest. I can only tolerate some of the ignorance at work. Then walking away usually takes care of the rest.
If you feel completely upset, why give them the satisfaction of leaving. Take your time to find another job, while you are still employed. You will feel some satisfaction when leaving.
I am a true believer of taking control of your fate and not allowing it to take control of you. Maybe you just need a fresh start.
Do you find that you as a person have changed due to weight gain?
Embrace the weight loss and don't worry too much about failure. There are so many super great people in this forum that can help you achieve your goal. First you have to want it. It is truly difficult for the first week, but once you set your mind, heart and soul into it. .... You will be self fulfilled. I'm not saying run out to a gym just yet. Work on getting the portion control in check first. Go for walks. Time your walks. Do 20mins for the first week and then up it to 30. When you are feeling a little more brave try doing a workout video, if that doesn't get your fancy and you feel you could do better with a group of people, join a small woman's gym. Figure out, are you a emotional eater? There has to be a trigger. Mine is work. But since I have put that in check, I don't allow anyone else to take me over to their unhealthy ways. Before it was so easy to be persuaded to be just like the rest of them. But I figured feeling sick all the time because I can't eat certain things that my friends were eating wasn't fair to me. They were not very understanding, but who cares. Like "sweet_tart" said, be selfish.. Absolutely. Make you priority number one and you will see that everything else will happen for you.
Just take it all one day at a time and it will be incredible, how much will change.
All the best.
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