A Touch Of Help For Us All

Well as we found out with a previous post a lot of us stay fit or are tryign to get fit for an array of reasons but one being very simple... to look good ^_~. 

And since all of us are still in our prime and very few are tied down to someone else (with the idea of marriage) lets help one another out.  Since we all want to look good id guess that means we'd all want to attract a certain someone or just people in general.   So one thing on a date that just makes the date for you (that the other person does) and something that can absolutly kill it and make you lose intrest. 

Good: A girl who plays hard to get to a degree.   We both know ill have you in the end if you spend more than ten mins with me... but make me work for it to some degree ^_~.

Bad: A girl who leaves her phone on and gets constant calls/texts... just bugs the hell out of me to attempt to have a conversation and keep getting interupted -_-

Where are you college lot, its finals you should be procrastinating like i am!

Here I am! haha this is fun...

Good: A guy who is interested in hanging out and having fun, spending time together.

Bad: A guy who tries to sleep with you on the first date... this has happened three times! Guys, girls don't like being treated like a prostitute!

in a pathetic attempt to keep this bumped im gonna add another... plus  i think im one of 2 guys in this forum lol.

Good: A girl willing to try new things nearly has me instantly hooked... none of that "Noooo i dont know how!" 

Bad: A girl who doesnt know how to dress.

haha but the question is, how should a girl dress?

Same way a guy should.  There are just certain rules.  How many guys just try to pull off that frat boy look... its ridicules.   The clothes say it all. 

good: paying for whatever it is even when you offer to go dutch (although i don't think the boy should pay EVERY time)

bad: obviously having not showered that day 

good: R-E-S-P-E-C-T! Guys, girls really do want to be treated like princesses!

 bad: burping, farting, general rudeness/grossness. We know you have bodily functions and are proud of them, no need to prove it please!  

good:making me laugh

bad: i agree with the phone call things..so annoying

good: just being overall polite, opening doors, pulling out chairs....that's always nice on the first couple of dates. you don't have to do it forever (although maybe you should).

bad: being cocky, rude, killing conversation.

i cant let someone say being cocky is bad!  I mean there is a level you can push it over, but for the most part most girls like it to some degree! :P

Good - Is an absolute gentleman who opens doors, gets the drinks in, and listens to what i've got to say.

Bad - Someone with bad manners, like burping and farting and then finding it hilarious... no thanks.

Alos someone who gets obsessed and possive. This happened to me before i met the boy, i agreed to go on a date with this guy i'd met he seemed nice enough, but decided to text me and call me EVERY HOUR. sorry i don't know you, i'm not your girlfriend we've not even been on a date yet and you're already starting to scare me..

Good: 

- When he  wears a good smelling cologne (and doesn't bathe in it). 

- A guy who doesn't pretend to like things you do or be into something you are and then you find out differently later.

- When a guy knows how to give and take and not dominate (or stay quiet) the whole night. 

 

Bad:

-When a guy makes an innuendo out of everything on a first date or asks questions that are very risque in a pathetic attempt to flirt, that's just tacky. You're on a date, not a 1-900-phone sex call. 

-When a guy acts like he owns you just cause he's been out on a few dates with you (hello! You are a date, not a boyfriend, which means, I will probably date other guys too!). 

- When a guy brings up his ex (even if it's in a good way), or talks about bad things he's done "in the past".

haha, i like cocky boys for the most part. unless they totally overdo it.

Good: Guys that treat you nicely, don't insult you, are polite, don't mind tomboys, and listens/cares about what I have to say.

Bad: I personally hate cockiness, and dislike it when guys act like they're "gracing" you with their presence. I'm not saying I like hesitance and shyness, but I'd much rather that than arrogance. Also, jerks/bad boys are not my thing; I would like a guy to have a future other than being a drug dealer/addict.

See there is a fine line between arrogance and just being cofident, and the word cocky can be used to describe both.   Take me, when i take a girl out i wont act like im doing her a favor by taking HER out, no no, more so having enough confidence so she knows i dont NEED the date that i could have went out with a handful of other girls, BUT i chose her for a reason.     Think its a healthy blend.

Good: A guy who admires my sense of humor and intelligence, and can match me wit for wit.

 

Bad:  Trying to buy my affection. SHALLOW.

I have to agree, I don't like the cockiness so much. I like a guy to have confidence, but if he's too full of himself, it's a TOTAL turnoff. 

Good:

Ambition.  At least knowing that they want something more out of life, even if they haven't figured out what yet.

Intelligence: But not the "I know all, you know nothing" kind...the kind that make for a good conversation or debate.

Respect: for both me and living creatures in general.

Bad:

Ignorance

Arrogance

Spending more than he can afford - I hate when a guy spends money he doesn't have to impress someone.  I'm just fine with just going to dennys or even subway. Don't take me to some 5 star restaurant when your working a minimum wage job.

Living with parents AFTER age 21: exceptions: if the guy is still in school, or if they've hit a rough patch and its a TEMPORARY fix.

i know some of these have been said, but:

 good: intelligence -- but NOT making it obvious that he thinks hes smarter than you! (even if he really is)

gentlemanliness. im not even kidding, i actually judge guys soo much depending on whether they hold the door open for me etc

 sensitivity: i mean, not necessarily a guy who writes me sonnets (though that would be divine) but he shouldnt be making me feel inferior because i have feelings -- if he tries to make me feel stupid for finding something touching or whatever, then he is soooo out the door! i dont want a macho macho man who acts like sensitivity is a weakness.

paying for me!

bad:

potty mouth, but thats just me. honestly, if a guy cant utter a sentence without swearing it is just such a turn off

living with his parents if he really SHOULD be out on his own --- im not talking about college guys or whatever, i mean this guy has a job and all and hes not even trying to get himself in a position to move out

puts his friends above our relationship -- we need some time alone, and i will not accept him cancelling our dates to hang out with his friends -- yes i want him to hang out with them, but if we already have plans, then he shouldnt be cancelling them for his friends (unless its a very special situation like his best friends birthday or something)

Obsession with sports: i say, sure have a healthy interest in sports, but that is NOT what i want to talk about all night, and if were in a restaurant or something where the game is on on a tv, he better be giving his attention to me and not the game -- otherwise why did he take me out in the first place?!

Original Post by brandy_m_gray:

Spending more than he can afford - I hate when a guy spends money he doesn't have to impress someone. I'm just fine with just going to dennys or even subway. Don't take me to some 5 star restaurant when your working a minimum wage job.

Living with parents AFTER age 21: exceptions: if the guy is still in school, or if they've hit a rough patch and its a TEMPORARY fix.

 Hahah: to piggy back on that: I can't STAND it when a guy talks about all his "connections" or how he just got an "(insert any cliche expensive car or other hot item here). 

Lynnettep: You are so right on the gentlemanliness. I've heard, watch a guy when he takes you on a date, the way he treats the waiter/waitress or staff wherever you go, is how he is eventually going to treat you. So, if he's a total butthead, watch out!