The truth about why men Cheat

I saw this on MSNBC.com just now and it struck me enough that I thought it deserved a repost.

I haven't read it all yet, but so far very interesting and what I have read I agree with.

I will come back to this :)

No this is wrong, men cheat because they merely settled, lying to the mates they are currently with waiting for an emaciated skank to come around willing to boff them ;}

*smirks, winks, and pirouettes out of the thread*

Original Post by bagga:

No this is wrong, men cheat because they merely settled, lying to the mates they are currently with waiting for an emaciated skank to come around willing to boff them ;}

*smirks, winks, and pirouettes out of the thread*

Now now... you know as well as I do that there are some women who believe that.

Dear hk are you trolling for pig?

No. I'm not.

But I read the same forums you are and there's an awful lot of unhappy people who post in The Lounge about their unhappy love lives. I dunno about you, but it bothers me.

I put this link out there as information. What it says is "Men cheat when the emotional connection is lacking." I read this as.. Make sure the emotional connection in your own relationship isn't lacking. Also, it's information, pure and simple, and seemed, to me, like good info as that.

Any other subtext you think you read is all in your own mind.

I'll also be honest and say I'm a little offended you thought I was trolling for Caloricat.

Just foolin' with ya.

Emotional connections is what the pig thread op refused to recognize in any responder. Thus the train wreck.

It is sad that there are those so unhappy with their choices that they inflict their nonsense on others.

It is a good article hk, don't mind me just in a silly mood and none of my brothers are available for me to mess with. 

I agree HK and I have always believed that for the majority of men and women cheating happens when their relationship is lacking emotionally. For the best part sex is just the extra they get it's not the deciding factor. I also believe that many still love the other deeply and wish what they get from cheating they could actually get at home.

Heterosexual men cheat because their women don't give them enough attention.  At least, that's what Dr. Laura said after Client No. 9 Gov. Spitzer had his paid-for tryst.  :D

Although I find that position so extreme to not be taken too seriously, there's something to be said about spouses, whether male or female, demanding too much from their partners or even withholding...not just physical affection, but any sort of participation in the relationship out of the idea that the other spouse has to constantly prove him or herself worthy of it (and perhaps not holding themselves to the same standard).

Eh, that's too simplistic, but this is just a CC thread, so I'm tired of trying to say what I want to say. :D

I think where sex is concerned it can become a vicious cycle. Men seem to be able to have sex at any time reguardless of how they feel. Whereas women need to feel emotionally connected. So if she is not in the mood because she does not feel connected to him she may not want to have sex. Then if he is not getting sex from her( how he feels connected to her) then he does not feel connected. So it can become a vicious cycle. We actually talked about this at church.

I think the article is pretty accurate. It is the emotional connection that keeps a relationship functioning.

Texaspeach,

I will take issue with the idea that men can have sex all the time and women need to feel emotionally connected. That's not right. Society tells you it's so, but it's not. (See: Sex in the City - See: Friends with Benefits)

But, really, I think the issue is.. as I read the article Cheating ISN'T about sex, but an emotional connection. Oh, don't get me wrong. Men love the sex. So do women. (Some men are more naturally horny. Some women are as well.)

But I *DO* agree that bad relationships can turn into vicious circles when neither partner is getting what they want. Because when you don't have what you want, you're less likely to give what your partner wants.

Original Post by hkellick:

Oh, don't get me wrong. Men love the sex. So do women. (Some men are more naturally horny. Some women are as well.)

Oh, come on, HK, everyone knows that women are too pure to enjoy such a disgusting, primal activity.

Original Post by dnrothx:

Original Post by hkellick:

Oh, don't get me wrong. Men love the sex. So do women. (Some men are more naturally horny. Some women are as well.)

Oh, come on, HK, everyone knows that women are too pure to enjoy such a disgusting, primal activity.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHA!!!
*wipes tears out of eyes*

Many women love the sex.
Some have been taught that sex is disgusting and have grown up to dislike it, but many women love the sex.

I love the sex........................yup.

I love sex sex sex and more sex.

Truth about the emotional connection. And Mooni where were you when I was mate hunting??? 

Original Post by moonikins:

I love sex sex sex and more sex.

(now I have
"I'd like the Sex, Sex, Sex, Sex, Sex, Sex, Sex, Baked Beans, Sex, Sex, Sex and Sex"
"Baked Beans are off!"
"Well can I have more Sex then?"
going through my head)

I think to suggest that cheating is only ever about the lack of sex in a relationship is just a little bit too simplistic and rather demeaning to a mans worth. it suggest that a man is not capable of emotions, feeling unloved, unimportant, and unwanted.......

If that were the case why then do many men not cheat if there partner for some reason is unable to have sex?

Also to suggest that only men can have meaningless sex is so far off the centre point to prove this all you need to do is go out on the weekend around bars/clubs and you will see any number of men and women picking up for the only purpose of casual sex not to mention that if women need to feel emotional attachment before they can have sex then there would be no such thing as prostitution.

Original Post by texaspeach:

I think where sex is concerned it can become a vicious cycle. Men seem to be able to have sex at any time reguardless of how they feel. Whereas women need to feel emotionally connected. So if she is not in the mood because she does not feel connected to him she may not want to have sex. Then if he is not getting sex from her( how he feels connected to her) then he does not feel connected. So it can become a vicious cycle. We actually talked about this at church.

that is actually very insightful and I do believe you are right for the majority of people