Trying to Conceive

Hi...

I need an advice... We (my husband and I) have been trying to conceive for almost 10 months now and no luck... Im starting to think something is wrong... It's very frustrating and Im really worried.

Can anyone tell me is there anything I could do or anything...?

Thank you...

Amy...

You and your husband should make an appointment with your doctor to get checked out, barring any physical problems I can offer three bits of advice.

1. Proper Nutrition - Switch to weight maintenance and start taking prenatal vitamins right away if you aren't already the added nutrition can help your body as well as protect the fetus from spina bifida which can develop in your baby before you even know you are pregnant if you are missing the right nutrients.

2. Get the timing right - When my husband and I were trying to conceive we used BBT charting (basal body temperature) I logged my temperature every morning on www.fertilityfriend.com (they have a tonne of info on the site) and was able to pinpoint that little 3 day fertility window(who knew it was small!) exactly and get pregnant very quickly.  It actually turns out I have a bit longer then normal cycle so if we had just been using the standard 14 day rule we would have been missing my window by 3 days. 

3. Yoga - Stress can relate to infertility a lot of couples have had success by doing yoga.  Yoga postures for infertility are best described as fertility poses because they spark hormone production, promote full body restoration, and increase circulation to reproductive organs to encourage responsiveness as well as generally reducing stress.

http://www.preconception.com/articles/general /fertility-and-flexibility-1280/

http://www.yogajournal.com/poses/finder/thera peutic_focus/t_infertility

I was doing Yoga 3 times a week when I conceived though with nothing to compare it with I can't be sure it helped or not.

I agree with berry blue 031...I'm not a mother yet but have been reading a book called Taking Charge of Your Fertility and it is a wealth of knowledge!  So many couples worry and spend money on testing when like the berry blue 031 they were just trying on the days she wasn't fertile.  I've been charting my temp daily and have a longer than normal cycle too and that with the book has increased my awareness about when I'm about to ovulate so I would strongly recommend this book.  I've had many friends and friends of friends get pregnant after reading it.  Its by Toni Weschler MPH.  Also nutrition and exercise are key too.  Good luck and wish me luck for when we start trying!

Oh and one more tip if you don't want to take your temp every morning - one of my g-friends said her neighbor (with 3 daughters of her own) said that right after you have your period just have sex every day for a month which sounds really tiring but my friend who is only 26 had been trying for 7 months and after they did this for a month it worked.

Thank you so much!

I really appreciate it...I'll let you know if something new happens...

To support what was said before, I once read a scientific report according to which the overwhelming reason for 'infertility' or, should I say, 'failure to conceive', is that some couples do not have enough sex. It was a very serious study.

Having a cuddle most nights does not have to be tiring, on the contrary, it could be very relaxing. It releases endorphins which are soothing and make you feel good before going to sleep. It's not about 'trying to conceive', it's just love.

Enjoy it!

Relax and enjoy this time with your husband!  If you are successful, it may be difficult to get this sort of time again!  (And putting a pillow under your hips for 10 minutes or so after trying can sometimes help.  Gravity, you know.)  Also remember, clinically 10 months isn't really a problem yet, though it may seem like it is to you.

I have to say, I was in the same boat as you when my doctor gave me a mild fertility pill - I forget what it was called.  I was supposed to take it the day I started my period, which had been really irregular.  I kept waiting for it, and finally, after watching a movie that had a girl who was pregnant and describing the symptoms, I thought, maybe I'm pregnant.  And I was!  I kept that pill and put it in my daughter's Keepsake box. 

So, even when it seems nothing is happening, you can be surprised.  Keep your hopes up, keep trying, and don't get stressed about it!

Thank you... :)

Do you think I should see my doctor and ask for the fertility pill...?

Usually they make you wait at least a year of trying first.  I'd been trying 15 months, I believe.  Technically its not considered infertility before 18 months, if I remember correctly.  Hang in there.  I've also heard that sometimes it takes a while the first time, but the second time is much easier.  That was definitely true for me.

If you are worried about it, there is nothing wrong with seeing your doctor and discussing it.  The doctor may have some suggestions before they prescribe anything, things like elevating your hips afterward, taking fertility tests (they are next to the pregnancy tests at the drugstore), having sex every day...if you do a search you'll find a million home "remedies" for fertility that you can try if you like.

And like I said, don't get stressed!  That actually can hinder pregnancy.  In a couple of months, go see your doctor.  In five years, you'll probably look back and smile, and tell your child how much you wanted him/her.

Oh, and there's different kinds of fertility pills.  Mine was, as I mentioned, a mild one (Clomid, I think), that just slightly increased the risk of twins.  There are the others that have made the news with the multiples, and then there's implantation and other "surgical" methods.  You can talk to your doctor about it, but she probably will want you to wait a few more months before she'll prescribe anything.  But it never hurts to ask!

My husband and I tried for 3 years. (We didn't use any fertility treatments or see any doctors- though we were getting impatient and wondering why it was taking so long). We had our baby boy after those three years of trying.

I think we weren't supposed to have a baby until the timing was right (God's timing). Also, I was under A LOT of stress until those three years were up, and then suddenly, (once I was relatively stress-free) I was pregnant. :)

Thank you all sooooo much... You made me feel much better... I should just relax and enjoy...hehe

I'll keep you guys posted....

Alma - I would be careful about getting on clomid - it can actually dry up your cervical secretions making it harder to conceive.  And as someone said above clomid does increase the chance of multiples.  I work in the medical/legal field and know that when you should go see a doctor also depends on how old you are.  If you're under 35 I believe they say try for a year and then if no luck then go see a doctor but if you are 35 or older then see a doctor after 6 months.  That being said there is a blood test that the doctor can do on you to test your hormone levels (I had it done) and that would be a starting point if you really want to know.  Definitely try not to stress!  Stress is a big problem when trying to conceive.  Try to check that book out "taking charge of your fertility" it has sample ovulation charts (if you're trying to get pregnant or charts for birth control) and after reading about our menstrual cycles its really fascinating.  And of course enjoy this time :)

Thank you very much...

I will get that book....

Alma,

Hello Im new here.  All the info you've been given is excellent.  I battled with infertility for 6 years before I got my little boy! ( amazingly enough we weren't even trying... go figure! ) but I would deffinatly start w/ charting your cycles and temping so you can "see" were you're at.  In a few months if nothing has happened take that info into your doc.  Also look for an OB who has a background in infertitlity.  Its been my experiance that a normal family practice or OB doesn't want to take the time to help you make a baby.  Be prepared for lots of blood work, and that infertlity is rarely covered by insurance.

If you find your cycles are irratic and/or you're not easily able to chart when your fertil days are ask your doctor about PCOS ( ovarian cysts ).  Its very common, but it took me 6 years to be diagnosed with it because none of my docs seemed to care. :(  Very sad, but in the end I got my little guy.

Best of luck to you :)