Trying to get pregnant...

Here's my story in a nut shell:

I am 25, and a healthy weight. I have a 2 1/2 year old daughter and I have been off birth control since August. I got pregnant the first month with my first child, but my husband and I have been trying since March for our second and nothing so far. I know this isn't very long, but I'm a little concerned since it was so immediate with the first. Did anyone else have this problem the second go round? Everyone I know who got pregnant easily on the first also got pregnant easily on subsequent children.

My cycle has been a little weird, too. The past three were exactly 32 days and the three before that were exactly 28 days.

I didn't have issues conceiving either one of my children (got pregnant with the first while on birth control and the second on the first try) BUT...

Before TTC our second, I increased my calories to about 100 over maintainence. I read somewhere that this can help (not sure where, though). I was also taking prenatal vitamins with extra folic acid from a bowl of Total cereal every morning.

I'm thinking that our bodies change so much after pregnancy that that's the reason you're having issues now. Your body is probably reacting differently to being both on and off the birth control pills. The biggest hint is that your cycle isn't regular right now and has recently changed.

Have you been using any type of ovulation charting? I'm guessing you have since you know how long your cycles have been. I had great success with the pee-on-a-stick ovulation tests combined with charting my cycle. Of course, I didn't get to do this for long but maybe these things are why!

I have some friends who started trying for their second around the same time we did. They had no issues conceiving their first but she didn't get pregnant until I was already 5 months pregnant.

I know how frustrating it can be. Just try to stay calm about it because stressing certainly doesn't help with conception. Good luck to you, girl! :)

Have you talked to your OBGYN?

I had trouble conceiving my first (and only). I had gone off of birth control, and had like, no cycle. I went to my OBGYN and he gave me medication to get it going again, and some fertility drugs. He was about to up the dose when we finally got pregnant.

Good luck!

I had trouble with my second also and my doctor gave me a fertility drug.  Only had to take it one month and got pregnant.  I've heard of women on fertility drugs having higher chances of multiples, but it might depend on the dose or how long you take it. I didn't have multiples.  I would talk with your doctor and see what he/she might suggest because there may be other issues that are causing you not to conceive.

It took me 3mths to fall with my first (weren't really trying, but off birth control so if it happened then so be it?). With my second it took 7mths, and I was really trying- charting, noting 'bodily' changes, OV testing- everything! I went to my Doc after trying for 6mths but he told me to relax- that 'secondary infertility' is extremely common, and if I hadn't fallen pg by 12mths that he'd do more intense tests. He did do a basic hormone test that came back fine, so maybe a combination of knowing nothing was 'wrong', and knowing that this was pretty common, helped me fall the next month?! I agree with everyone saying to get a general check done to make sure everything is in 'working order'? There might be something simple that is hindering your efforts?

Give it about six months of truly trying.  Get an ovulation kit, chart temps, check mucus, etc.  If you still don't get pregnant, go to your doctor.  They can run some simple tests to see if their is a problem.  I tried for a year before I went to a doctor.  It took me three years to get pregnant and I was in complete shock when it finally happened to me.  Best of luck to you!

I went through the same thing I was trying for almost 4 months. I had tried the ovulation kits and was getting no where the second we stopped thinking about trying bam we were prego. I really think when you try in a way we are stressing our bodies out and it wont happen. So just try not to think about it and just have fun doing the baby dance it will happen :)

I'd start charting your cycles now, so you can tell when you are most fertile. For most women (on a 28 day cycle) it's a window of 4 days around the 14th day before you start your period. On a 32 day cycle, maybe count back 16 days. The truth is, it varies for every woman and your best bet is to learn the fertility signs and start tracking. Check out www.tcoyf.com and www.fertilityfriend.com.

I had a friend who tried for over a year to conceive, only to realize once she'd started charting that she wasn't trying on the days she ovulated. As soon as she figured that out, she was pregnant!