Trying not to give-up

So I joined two days ago to help find some motiviation. I have been trying to lose weight and because I have PCOS it takes longer. I start to lose weight but it ins't fast enough, so I blow the diet and skip the exercise. At my heaviest I weighed 230. I am at 210 right now. It is really hard for me because I was a size 6 until around 2002 and the weight started pouring on. I hate my body and the way I look, but I can't stay motivated. HELP!!!!!!

You can do it, girl!

How's the exercise component working for you?

Gosh! I know how u feel, losing weight and staying motivated is the hardest thing I've had to do, and I gave birth to two children!....But u know what has worked for me, seriously now I've been on every diet possible name it I've done it...I read a book Lisa Delaney "Former Fat Girl"  this book gave me so much inspiration...she talks about everything else that goes around losing weight not just the food and exercise, she deals with the feelings, all the ups and downs we go thru.  One thing that I found really good about her book is that she makes u truly understand that u know what it's Ok to fall off the wagon once in a while (we r humans), dont' feel like everything is lost! NO get back on it..I've done simple changes like NO soda, fat free milk, I eat pizza  I just try to make better choices every time I can, like a veggie pizza or a veggie burger.  I dont' feel like Im killing myself over this diet...I think that for me its very important to feel that this is a life change that I have to do little by little...try not to focus so much on the numbers on the scale,  try to focus on your clothes on the way you feel when you finish a 10,15, 30! min. walk or run on the treadmill..  You know I talk to myself all the time I give myself complements everytime I walk away from the temptation of eating a king chocolate bar, and instead choose a sugar free piece of chocolate, (Im like go girl I know that was hard!lol) or when my entire body is telling me after only 5min on the treadmill to STOP yet I go on to finish my 30 min! yeah I feel great and I tell myself "you strong girl".

Do this for You, just as I told myself "its time I do something for me", plus Im tired of saying "you know what I'll go on a diet next week, and next year comes and Im still saying that"!  So Good luck and dont' give up on yourself..you can do it, it's just a matter of believing that you can...by the way this weekend I had easter cookies, pinapple ham, rice, potatoe salad!  I a little of everything...key word LITTLE I didnt' deprived myself if I would've I'd probably would've waited for everyone to leave and then hit the fridge and ate 3 times more..

I Hope you can realize how powerfull you truly are!

Powerful is the word.

I wrote that in a forum the other day about running, and I mean it.  That is the secret.  You are the most powerful force there is in your life ---   make it happen.......

Get out there and get moving.  Eat better...... not less, BETTER>     there IS a difference. 

Find some support.....   I could not doing without my friends on cc. 

I will look up that book, mari!  I am 31 on April 6th this year and this time last year (Easter) was when the dominoes set in motion for me, asked to be in a wedding and feeling miserably fat kicked me in the butt.   I'm.....better.....    YAY!   I like jogging, really running.....nice.   I eat pretty well.   It's the best thing ever to feel better..... 

Dear Katouchka, I can sure appreciate your challenge.  I have had quite a time with menopause, hypothyroidism, and hyperparathyroidism.  I put on 60+ pounds in 5 months back in 2005!  It wasn't just because I sat around and stuffed my face.  I am now on Armour Thyroid which is helping greatly with increased energy.  And I have two knnes that are in real crummy shape (2 knee surgeries on the right knee 20 years ago... now both knees are a mess).  I am receiving a special therapy to tighten and strengthen my knee ligaments.  So, I am beginning to find things that are helpful.  I am not familiar with PCOS ( did look it up before writing to you).  

There are some very interesting things out there that you might look into that are very helpful for Physical and emotional things.  One is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique).  www.emofree.com/ . The other is The Sedona Method www.sedona.com.  The Sedona Method has been approved by Harvard Medical School as an effective technique for dealing with those things that hold one back in life.  One or both of these techniques might be very helpful for you.  I have used both, and really like them.

I hope this might be helpful for you.

Thanks for all the input. I guess sometimes I need to be told that I can do it. I am so disappointed in myself for letting it go this long. The crazy thing is that I feel great when I exercise (normally rollerblading or walking). I can clear my head and feel good for the rest of the day. I have to learn not to beat myself up if I miss a day of exercise. I also have to learn that there is no quick-fix. I have already dropped 2 pants sizes and I am estatic about that, but then I get on the scale and the change isn't that much and I am so bummed. I understand all about muscle weighing more than fat, but still...the scale is that standard that everyone holds you to. I will keep on going. I want to believe that this time around, I will succeed. Thanks again everyone. And Mari, I am going to look for that book.

hey...dont' be so hard on yourself it's ok, we all need motivation once in a blue moon, I sure do...and by the way thats great! 2 PANTS SIZES! that is wonderful...forget about the scale I call it my enemy...why,  I could be working out the whole week and Im feeling fierce! I get on that thing and a big whole pound!..yeah ..how exciting..so yeah I dont' do that anymore...let me tell you someone about that book I finish it in two days...Im about to start reading it again..I swear by it...u would think I personally  knew the author. 

take care,

step 1 get over yourself. step 2 enjoy the company of others. step thee log your daily food intake and do like I do lose a pound a week .step 3 in three monhts you lost 15 pounds and you start feeling younger and people start noticing you positively in spit or your vain protests that you have more to lose...nobody really cares...so just continue with the pound a week  diet and life will be yours.....good luck...

There really isn't a need to be rude here. I understand what she's going through, and let me tell you, PCOS already makes you feel **** enough aside from making it REALLY hard to lose weight. So, before you go making rude posts, maybe do a little research?

I think many of us can relate to what you are saying.  I was active much of yesterday.. just doing housework.  I was able to keep track of the caloric expenditures of doing various chores around the house.  I was so pleased to see that was available!  It was a good boost. I burned over 1000 calories just doing housework... I so often feel like I will be stuck at this weight for the rest of my life.  There have been times in the past where I have just sat there and cried. 

So, I also want to believe that I can become trim and fit again.  This community is a real help.

Keep on keeping on Katouchka... dropping two pants sizes is no small deal.  I haven't done that yet.

Thanks again everybody.  And can_be_cruel, thanks for the support. I have yet to understand why people have to put rude comments in these forums. Not quite sure why I need to 'get over' myself. And not sure when I mentioned that I didn't enjoy the company of others. Whatever. When I read rude comments on all these forum, it makes me rethink my decision to join C-C. But the rest of you have been great. Not many people understand how PCOS affects weight gain and loss and it gets frustrating. Thanks again.

Original Post by isabellanakahara:

I think many of us can relate to what you are saying.  I was active much of yesterday.. just doing housework.  I was able to keep track of the caloric expenditures of doing various chores around the house.  I was so pleased to see that was available!  It was a good boost. I burned over 1000 calories just doing housework... I so often feel like I will be stuck at this weight for the rest of my life.  There have been times in the past where I have just sat there and cried. 

I logged my housework this weekend, too and was glad I did!  The fact that I could log it actually motivated me to do it!

And I've done (and still do ) the sitting and crying, too. But now I'm trying to focus on small stuff to start - sticking to my calorie number, getting any exercise, even if it's only 10 minutes. Small steps are a good way to start, I think. And, really, a good way to keep on.

So, hang in there, katouchka! You can do it!! (And just ignore the rude people, sadly they're always out there, no matter where you go.)

So I decided to celebreate the little goals. Today, I pushed myself a little bit more and made the brisk walk for 4 miles instead of 3. It actually felt really good. My issue right now is getting the right amount of calories. Looking at my log, I realize that my calorie intake is low. I don't want my body to go into starvation mode, but the fact is that I am rarely hungry and I don't really eat all that much...I get full really fast. For lunch today, I had a small piece of salmon and some broccoli. I am stuffed and the thougt of more food today makes me want to be sick. I normally snack on carrots, celery (use to smoke, so I have a little oral fixation problem ) and fruits. I am not a big breakfast person, but I have been eating a yogurt in the morning. I have a snack, lunch, another snack and then dinner (by 6). I drink a lot of water and that fills me up.

Anny suggestions?